Hey everybody! Long post, but I was curious about the thoughts of others as we all careen haphazardly into this social media hellscape that we can't get out of. I had a slow end to my work day, so I did what I do from time to time: went to Facebook. Now, I personally hate Facebook, but I do keep it around because alas, it is basically the only easy way for me to communicate with some of my family and friends (I live in Korea, they all live in the US). It had been a bit of time since my last check in, and I was greeted by several messages from one portion of my family that I, let's say, am not on bad terms, but am not on good terms wither either. They're varying degrees of angry that I did not reach out and wish other family members a happy birthday via Facebook. Now, a couple of things about me: 1) I have never given a shit about birthdays. I don't care about mine, and I don't personally care about others (I care about the people, but the day isn't a high priority for me). I'm not a cranky dick, I happily celebrate them with others and do my best to get thoughtful presents for people that I'm close with that really enjoy celebrating their birthday. In other words, birthdays aren't for me, but I don't foist my feelings about them on others, and just because they aren't a priority for me, doesn't mean I disregard that they are important to others. Anyway, 2) I find wishing someone a happy birthday to be so utterly annoying, contrived and vapid, that I actually genuinely dislike it when people do it for me. So it is DEFINITELY not on any kind of priority list for me to do for others. In fact, I just refuse to do it. I refuse to do it for ANYONE. If you are close to me, I will see you or talk to you and tell you happy birthday. Otherwise...no, I'm not taking time to send a thoughtless message to you over FB, especially considering 99% of the time we are "friends" that haven't spoken since who-knows-when.
So, anyone else agree with me on this? Are there any other social media activities that you could easily do (like, I realize it is not hard to just follow the notification and say "happy birthday" every day -- although I turned that notification off haha) but just refuse to do? Personally, another example of my own would be the whole "like for a like" o "follow for a follow" stuff. Now, I have basically no interest in increasing my already infinitesimal existence on social media, so this opinion REALLY doesn't matter, but the idea of someone following me so I will then follow them back just seems SO stupid and pointless to me. Same with likes. Glad you liked my tweet or whatever, but if all you said was "I agree" I'm not inclined also "like" that you agreed with me.
Anyway, curious to hear what others have to say, or just watch this post completely die. Either way, writing the whole thing has me strongly considering just throwing my computer and phone into the ocean and moving into a hut in the woods on the small island that I live on and just becoming a fisherman and let the world pass me by.