Everyone knows the self-righteous cliche: "I don't care about looks; it's personality that counts. And if I like them as a person, that's all that matters."
Yeah, okay, that's all well and good, but what if the person did NOTHING for you physically. Not even talking about sexual stuff here, just the way they look -- you don't really find it appealing. Do you think you could overlook that? Why or why not?
Would you go out with someone you weren't attracted to? At all?
Nope, I wouldn't. I need to be attracted to the girl. I think that's important. However, attraction is an adjustable thing. You might not find someone attractive initially, but that doesn't mean you'll always feel that way.
I could, but generally i wouldn't, since if it continue we'd (me and the lady) have to come in terms with the fact that i don't fancy the way she looks. Almost no one would be willing to give it a try knowing it, as it is normally a serious blow to their self-confidence. Besides it gives birth to so much pain...
You mean dating? As shallow as I am, I might, just to get an ego boost. A not-very-attractive girl is better than no girls sometimes. But if I have no attraction to them whatsoever, then the "relationship" will be short lived.
As a friend, whatever. Looks don't really count when it comes to friendship, so it wouldn't matter to me. I've hung out with not-so-cute girls before, but in a friendly way.
EDIT: Oh misread the question. I wouldn't date someone that I wasn't attracted to. I'd probably try to get with them if they were hot enough (and if I actually had any game), but other than that, I wouldn't pursue anything.
No. Attraction is just as important as personality in my book.
Would you go out with somebody who was drop dead gorgeous but had the worst personality ever? I mean a total bitch/asshole. Maybe you would have a one night stand with him/her but how could you live with somebody you hate?
Looks aren't everything...but it does help...my big attraction would have to be her maturity level. I am currently somewhere living with someone who has the maturity level of a 13 yr old Mime....I have considered her to be the BANE of my existence and not very sharp either.
Depends. I'm attracted to girls based on their looks, but I'm turned away based on their personality. If they are just really bitchy, then I won't go out with them. So no, I wouldn't.
No I wouldn't. There has to be some physical attraction honestly from both parties otherwise the relationship will ultimately fail. From what i've experienced girls generally do have a lower standard on looks, while males are often looking for perfection initially. If you are referring to hookups, fuck buddies or otherwise a non committed relationship that would be potentially another story for some people and on a gaming forum; I really don't foresee that being the case.
Emm no it has to be a combination of the both, but sometimes i've liked girls how others thought were ugly not initially but there personality grew on me then I got that spark. You asking this question because this is happening to you? If so don't go out with her/whatever if you don't find her attractive just keep her as a friend.
" Everyone knows the self-righteous cliche: "I don't care about looks; it's personality that counts. And if I like them as a person, that's all that matters." Yeah, okay, that's all well and good, but what if the person did NOTHING for you physically. Not even talking about sexual stuff here, just the way they look -- you don't really find it appealing. Do you think you could overlook that? Why or why not? "Actually, the girl Im dating as of now, is not pretty at all. From 1 to 10, she would be a mid 6. Still, she is a great person, and I would not change her at all.
Good looks probably help with strangers, and for the first days, but in reality, its the inside what counts!
For me theres a balance between looks and personality, but they gotta do something for you, if not friends is the way to go.
Of course the Neo Geo rule applys in all relationships as stated in the "Giantbomb Love Act of '87".
Actually, the girl Im dating as of now, is not pretty at all. From 1 to 10, she would be a mid 6. Still, she is a great person, and I would not change her at all. Good looks probably help with strangers, and for the first days, but in reality, its the inside what counts! "Even if she isn't "pretty", you must have been attracted to her in some way. Otherwise, what made you want to go out with her? I mean obviously personality is important, but when we first see someone, it's not their personality that we see, it's their physical appearance. Personality comes later when we get to know them, but first impressions are always about outward appearances.
Enough with this "shallow" bullshit. There needs to be a physical attraction at some level for a relationship to work, and last for any extended period of time.
Personality is important, but you can't talk to someone that repulses you. It's human nature to be attracted to the other sex, no sense in trying to think otherwise.
For me in rank of importance: Personality>Face>Ass>Legs>All the other parts of the female anatomy I left out.
If she was really into me and I wasn't into her, I would make it clear that I'm not into her in that way." You mean dating? As shallow as I am, I might, just to get an ego boost. A not-very-attractive girl is better than no girls sometimes. But if I have no attraction to them whatsoever, then the "relationship" will be short lived. As a friend, whatever. Looks don't really count when it comes to friendship, so it wouldn't matter to me. I've hung out with not-so-cute girls before, but in a friendly way. EDIT: Oh misread the question. I wouldn't date someone that I wasn't attracted to. I'd probably try to get with them if they were hot enough (and if I actually had any game), but other than that, I wouldn't pursue anything. "
But if she continues to pursue me following this talk, then we're on the same page because she knows how I feel, so it dosn't stop us from being fuck-buddies for fun, and I'm not being arrogant by saying that by doing this I hopefully satisfy her crush on me so I don't have to worry about her becoming weird.
Just as long as she knew that it'd all stop immediately if I find somebody I really liked.
@DragoonKain1687 said:
Would you tell her you don't think she's pretty?"Actually, the girl Im dating as of now, is not pretty at all. From 1 to 10, she would be a mid 6. Still, she is a great person, and I would not change her at all. Good looks probably help with strangers, and for the first days, but in reality, its the inside what counts! "
Man I'd love to be there and film the ass kicking you got for saying such a thing, and stick it on Youtube. Ha ha.
No, I wouldn't. I think with my dick like most guys. Big John wants a pretty girl to fuck in the long run. Course that doesn't mean we can't be friends.
Theres no point. Everything needs a balance. You don't have to be into the whole package but you have to fancy at least 80-90% of it.
I do think personality is the most important thing to me but the looks certainly help a lot. In other words, no.
A girl who isn't attractive initially might become attractive eventually because of the chemistry between the two of you .etc
My last two girlfriends were both simply above average looking by conventional standards, I didn't bat an eyelid initially but after getting to know them and feeling that spark of chemistry I eventually thought they were both the most beautiful girls in the world during our relationships.
So yeah, looks don't matter much at all. Initially when you first see a girl of course we're talking 100% of your attraction based on looks but when you get close enough to be in a relationship I'd say it's more of a 90% Personality/Chemistry : 10% Physical Appearance split.
Maybe that's just me though.Guys can be pretty superficial, know a lot of guys who just want something pretty to fuck and don't care about personality.
if there is 0% attraction, then theres really no point in going out with that person because its not going to work out, and its just plain mean to lead them on. It would be better to be just friends.
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