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#1  Edited By anner

One of Ryan's supreme joys in life is "taking the piss out of" Bradley.  Now, you all want Ryan to be happy, don't you?  Besides, in my experience Brad doesn't usually seem to notice it's happening...

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MerlijnVH said:
"RetroIce4 said:
"Whenever they want?"
As awesome as that might be for them, its still a company and they have to get work done."
Um, these guys work all day at the office and then go home and continue to work and then spend their weekends working and/or traveling.  Don't get me wrong, they love it but show a little respect, they're working as close to around the clock as possible.  Yes they work whenever they want, but guess what? That's pretty much constantly.
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Please be more creative than a million suggestions of chocolate chip however chocolate chip and ? suggestions are certainly welcome.

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First of all I'm truly sorry that you're going through this. I know this isn't going to be the most pleasant advice but it is heartfelt and only intended to help, hopefully nothing comes across too bitchy- I'm just trying to be frank and straightforward.  It seems obvious to me that you need to end your relationship.

 Besides the fact that neither of you has experienced enough relationships to really know what you do and don't want (i'm not trying to patronize you but you gain a LOT from having different relationships and learning what you like and don't like and what you can and can't and should and shouldn't put up with).  I'm sure at 22 you have a very good idea of what you want but sometimes you have to get what you thought you wanted to realize that you didn't really want it at all.  But to me that's all a moot point anyway since:

You are fundamentally incompatible. 

She clearly deeply cherishes her religious beliefs and has made it clear that she expects you to be just like her in this regard if you want to share your life with her.  You also sound very clear when you say you don't believe in God or subscribe to any form of organized religion (particularly not with the kind of devotion and fervor her family practices).  Even if she were able to love and respect your beliefs enough that she was satisfied with you as you are and did not require you to commit yourself to God I fear your relationship would be nothing but turmoil.  It seems she's close to her family and disobeying their wishes by marrying you "as is" may be enough to cause a permanent rift between them for which (as much as she might not want to) she may harbor deep resentment.  If she's feeling guilty about giving you her virginity before marriage she may already feel some resentment.  In terms of raising a family I find it hard to believe that either of you would be able to come to terms with the beliefs that the other would want to teach your children.  What will be your reaction when she wants to tell your sons(and daughters) that masturbation is a filthy sin and that sex is strictly between a man and a woman within the confines of marriage for the purposes of creating new life.   I know it sounds extreme but i'm paraphrasing a real conversation one of my best male friends had with his devoutly christian mother (and no, it wasn't 50 years ago- it was probably less than 10).

I'm sorry that you are still having a hard time after returning from war and I know you don't get the support you deserve from the people that should really be providing it (I have friends that have come back from Iraq recently too) and none of us can understand what you dealt with and continue to struggle with.  All I can say is that when you find the woman that's really right for you and who really respects your beliefs (not just by saying she does but by truly accepting them) the support you will get from her will be a thousand times what you feel you have now.

If you really love her you will allow her to find a love that not only respects that she has her own beliefs but can share them with her  and start looking for someone you can really share your life with too.  You may be miserable for a while, possibly for a long while and you may lose a great friend but isn't that better than a lifetime of misery and regret because you committed yourself to the wrong person?

Leave sex out of it if you do break up with her because as much as it is ALSO about that for you, you don't have to bring it up to have plenty of reasons that it is ultimately better for you both to find relationships with people of the same/similar beliefs.  Bringing it up could ultimately make you look worse and just make her feel bad about herself- I'm sure you don't want to make her feel bad just for having her beliefs and it is admirable that she has the strength of character to hold onto them despite their sometimes dear price.

I didn't intend this to be as long as it turned out but I hope it helps...

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AndrewGaspar said:
I worked at a movie theatre this summer... I did NOT have a lot of free time. I always worked nights and weekends. =P"
Well that's where you went wrong...
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After working in theatres for over a decade I can tell you it's not weird at all.

At my old theatre we would wait for the end of the year (or really more around when the Oscar nominations came out) and then print out a list of all the movies released in that year.  Each of us would count which ones we saw and then make lists of our top 5 and bottom 5 movies of that year.  For a while it became a contest for who could see the most movies and it was also fun to see which movies that were on some peoples' Top 5 were also on other peoples' bottom 5.

...but then movie theatre employees tend to have a lot of free time...

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#7  Edited By anner

I was afraid that Bush's actions during the first 7 1/2 years of his presidency would be nothing in comparison to his actions in his last 6 months.  Sometimes it sucks being right all the time   :oP

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Hamburgers are ABSOLUTELY sandwiches.  
Firstly multiple online dictionaries (including but not limited to dictionary.com and miriam-webster.com, oh and wikipedia  too) define a hamburger as a sandwich (with certain generally accepted but marginally varying parts).
Secondly if you're going to dispute the definition based on the fact that it's on a bun and not flat pieces of bread then how would you classify any sandwich served on a roll?  Would then the philly cheese steak and the french dip be considered burgers? Surely not.  And what about the beloved patty melt?

As to SamFo's comment about McDonald's, they actually list all of their burgers from the plainest, saddest little hamburger to the Big Mac under sandwiches on the menu.
As to CaLe's assertion that burgers are hot and sandwiches are cold- Go get a french dip RIGHT NOW!
Oh and Gambit if Subway is the authority on sandwiches to you, well that's just sad...