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Did I do the right thing?


Ok so, I have told this to only my closest friends. You might say I'm a little shy when it comes to these things, but since this is the Internet, theres this sense of anonominity (spelling?). I've been wanting to get opinions if what I did was right or not. Be warned-This is a LONG READ. Anyways, 
 
Last April, I got hired at a Subway. It was my first job, and I was in Grade 12 at the time. The job was real good, and all of the employees were real friendly, without exception. So I started working there, and became friends you can say with all the employees, whom were all female. There was only one other guy working there, but we had a shift together like once a week.  
 
So all was well. Then, about two months later, they hired another girl, who we'll call Emma (not her real name). She had a very energetic, and sometimes, literally insane personality, and she caught on with everyone else, except me. It took a while for us to have good work chemistry, something that is weird, because when it comes to these things, I click with people almost instantly, but with her, I didn't. Right of the bat, she was talking about all the crazy places she had sex with her boyfriend, and it was very uncomfortable for me. I dunno about you, but I don't like hearing about that time you and you boyfriend had sex on the picnic table. Plus we're workin with food! Jeez people! 
 
I saw it coming, but I guess I denied. Let me be clear that I had no 'feelings' for Emma, and still don't. But it started with these flirty comments from her, the 'accidental' touching etc. At this point, she was still with someone, or so I thought. One shift, the other guy who worked there OUTRIGHT asked me "Does Emma have a crush on you?" I told him no, and that she has a bf, to which another employee replied that they broke up. It took off from there, and she started doing these creepy things. Like we had this board, and one time she drew a mother with a baby that said that I wouldnt pay child support. And she kept talking about our supposed wedding. Creepy as all HELL duders. 
 
Then eventually, shit hit the fan. If any of you worked at subway, you guys know how there's a freezer with the bread in it? Well I was in the fridge filling bread, and she walked in. Our Subway was pretty small, and the fridge barely fit one person, but she squeezed herself in and said "It's really hot in here" and she started to take her clothes off. I was really stunned at this point, because well it was a shocking thing. So I just walked out, and quit the next day.  
 
I haven't seen her since. 
 
Did I do the right thing? I know for certain I could have talked to the owner and got her fired, he like me, and treated me like his grandkid (on numerous ocassions he would talk to me about university, and making the right choices in life etc). And no, she wasn't hot, atleast not to me... 
 
Sorry for the wall!!
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Haha, funny thing is, about 2 weeks ago I called him, but he told me they were full ,and that I should have called a week earlier. 
No worries though, I have an interview tomorow at another SUBWAY!! 

WISH ME LUCK!

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@organicalistic_:
er... Ya! Exactly! 
 
Seriously though, standards, lol.
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@Conker: you should go get the job back.
@ninjakiller: he probably didn't want stds,
@Conker: right?
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You know you could have talked to her way back when she started flirting.  It would be awkward but nobody would have lost their job... and it certainly would have been less awkward than a bread freezer rape.
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@Conker: Way to get back in the game Conker. It seems like things are headed in the right direction for you buddy.
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@AlexMarra:
Thanks alot, means alot to me. 
 
I had no idea people cared this much about morals and standards. It's just part of who I am really.
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I'm imagining myself in this situation, and I'm picturing this sentence coming out of my mouth: "I've only had one girlfreind and I've known her for 11 years. Where did you get the impression that this is what I was into?"
 
And then I would have done something or another to make her never want to see me again, causing her to quit. But then I actually need my job for food, so I can appreciate that quitting was probably safer.
 
Creepy people.

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was she fat  and boob size?
sory had to ask lol
anyway You should of stayed man let the girl know who is boss 

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@nintendoeats:
I remember vividly that when it happened, I couldnt say anything. Literally in a state of shock. But it took me about 20 seconds to regain normalness, and I just left. The rest of that shift is a haaaazeeee
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@Iceman2913:
No she wasnt fat, and boob size... Um not huge, but not small? Its been a while lol. 
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@Conker said:
" @me3639: Like I said, she wasn't hot, to me atleast. But she used have a boyfriend, so I dunno?  "
just because she had a boyfriend does not mean she is hot. lots of ugly bitches manage to get boyfriends. probs because the put out easy. like this crazy bitch you have mentioned. 
 
anyway, whether or not you should of quit i dont know. but this girl is crazy and you need to get away from her. so in that sense it was the right thing to do.
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@Conker: Yeah, I guess its hard to imagine yourself in such a bizarre situation.
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You're insane. I wish I could have sex with a nymphomaniac in a Subway bread freezer.
 
You passed up wild, public sex!

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@nixatron said:

" @Conker said:

" @me3639: Like I said, she wasn't hot, to me atleast. But she used have a boyfriend, so I dunno?  "
just because she had a boyfriend does not mean she is hot. lots of ugly bitches manage to get boyfriends. probs because the put out easy.
How horribly true. There are some people of both genders who I have seen and cannot help but wonder "how do THEY get laid more than I do?" (AKA at all). I mean, I'm not a bad looking fellow...
 
I have to assume that its a standards issue. Thats why people of a similar attractiveness level tend to date.
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@Mmmslash:
I know eh, what was I THINKING! 
:P
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@Conker: 
basically she was average, talked about sex  a lot, and was creepy.
yep you should of told her to gtfo because no one wants a std
you should of got her fired or at least talk to her about it before making a big decision
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@nintendoeats:
Most probably you're right. I cant help but wonder how some really obese guys are going out with some beautiful girls. Math doesnt add up.
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@Conker said:
" @Crocio: That`s the reason why I didn`t talk to him. He would have fired her almost instantly, and I didn`t want that. Should I have done that? "
Absolutely, but let's think about this. 
 
Given you talk to the boss about this; the issue is not as simply as a firing a bad employee. First of all, this woman is likely very depressed or schizophrenic. 
Basically, she was trying to gain attention for the sake of procreation with a subject she, in all reality, wasn't very involved with. What we have
from your perspective is a situation of arbitrary approachment, but it's not as black and white as self righteous sexual harrasment(the kind mainly men portray).
This is a case where this confused woman was desperate enough to make a completely naive sexual approach.
In terms of reaction, any system must consider two factors; intention and result.
The intention in this case is what matters; was she upset, confused? The answer gives the course of punishment.
If the woman were to give the answer we expect, personal problems, this is likely one of her expressions of her repressed
anxieties then she'd be referred to a psychiatrist , and in this case I would warrant it beneficial to the all parties involved for that to be the solution.
As for the result; in all actuality the damage was very minor, you felt cornered and just reacted with the sole basis of your morals and avoided a likely fiasco.
 
If you present your case, all parties will benefit from the treatment of this dysfunction. Though the case is not as strong now, it still will help all parties involved
to get this out and talked about.

What happened to the staff or mentality when you simply left? Nothing changed, nobody knew for the better. 
Reiterating: The best course of action is conversation with your business moderators.
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@Crocio:
Oh wow. WOW. Crocio, that was some amazing logic right there, and I didnt think of it from that angle. 
What should I do now? According to an employee, she quit, so what would I do?
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@Conker: Holy Shit, is this the infamous Subway story you were talking about last night? 
 
Damn, bitches be crazy sometimes. Man...I...I guess it was best to quit. If you told the manager, I'm sure it would've been super-awkward to continue working there if she still worked there (or got fired because you tattled). Yup.
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@VinceNotVance:
Haha yep, this is the infamous story! 
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pics or it didn't happen.