Dude, you are giving yourself way too much credit if you are thinking she is in love with you or something. Get over yourself.

@pyromagnestir: Nailed it my good sir. I can understand telling someone you dont wanna have a relationship, but how do you tell someone you dont see them as a really close friend. Super awkward heh

@Scrawnto: This surprisingly makes a lot of sense. Thanks for your input :)

Fuck her or come out of the closet. Seriously platonic relationships?

@Marcsman: Yes its the idea where women and men can be friends without having sex.

@Conker:

A friend who says he/she is close to you doesn't necessarily mean they want to move beyond 'friend' status. I'm very close with a lot of my friends. I've told a few of them similar things that she said to you. That doesn't mean I want to make that friend anything other than a really good friend. So either you are reading this right and she does want to go further with you or she is simply letting you know how much she cares for you and you might have some issues with intimacy in terms of friendships. Either way, you should talk to her about it. She put herself out there saying what she said. She'll be willing to have this talk with you. So have that talk dude.

@JasonR86: Its the second one. I want to be friends with her, but I dont want to be THAT close of a friend. I never said shes attracted to me in a sexual manner

@Conker said:

@JasonR86: Its the second one. I want to be friends with her, but I dont want to be THAT close of a friend. I never said shes attracted to me in a sexual manner

Then tell her that.

@JasonR86: How would I do that without ruining my friendship and worker-ship?

@Conker said:

@JasonR86: How would I do that without ruining my friendship and worker-ship?

It would have to be based on the moment but I might tone down the contact a little, choose your words carefully, and emphasis the fact that you have fun with her. Reinforce a surface level relationship. Don't build up the idea, even if you don't mean to, that you would want something more. Don't be free with advice and don't be too quick to help her through tough scenarios. Act as support for her but don't reinforce the idea that you are the place she needs to go to deal with bigger, more personal issues.

@pyromagnestir said:

So your looking to be buddies, but your worried she's looking to be besties?

"Talk to her not us" is probably advice that is sound. Although I've never really tried telling someone I want to be friends, but not best friends. That seems like a weird distinction to have to make.

I told a girl that once in primary school, I must have been around 8. She started crying and told the teacher on me and he told me off :(

@DuskVamp:

That sounds like the reaction I'd expect.

@JasonR86: Makes sense, thanks