@therealseaman said:
@harbinlights: Uh I'm not going to write a thesis on Otaku in response, I was just saying after living in Japan (and still am), being an Otaku isn't really something you should be screaming from the hilltops and I've not seen any change in this
That's fine, I'm not going to Japan. And don't particularly desire to go.
From everything I know, you must be dealing with a pretty tough life by living in Japan. I feel pretty lucky that I don't have to deal with living in Japan and all of its downsides.
@lazyimperial said:
Look, original poster: you get one life. It shouldn't be a miserable affair. If you find yourself questioning your identity and thinking that you'd be happier presenting as something different than you were born as, fine. You're not hurting anyone. It's an individual choice and you're within your rights to make it. Just make sure you really, really, REALLY think things through before you undergo any irreversible physical surgeries or hormone therapies. There's a broad spectrum of tastes outside the standard normal curve of human sexuality, and you don't want to transition only to find out that you were actually a transvestite and not a transgender (there is a difference). I've had friends that jumped the gun, and it's a miserable thing for them when they realize it and a miserable thing for their friends and family who, frankly, often have no idea how to comfort them. I've often felt guilty that I've been at a loss of words.
But yeah. Just make sure to do your due diligence. Crossdressing is different from transvestite leanings, and those are different from gender dysphoria. I might recommend counseling to figure out the lay of the proverbial land. There are plenty of providers in every metropolitan area. Good luck to you! I hope you find the answers you're seeking.
I appreciate the advice. I also don't think anything like HRT would be particularly for me. My closest guess to anything halfway correct for myself is that I might be agender anyway. At least, I haven't found an identity yet. So, possibly? Until I find a gender for myself based on anything tangible, I guess agender?
As for the laser hair removal I've been getting, I don't regret that at all. In fact, I'm not personally the type to regret a body modification. But I do appreciate the concern.
I like my sex drive, though. I only want to change my body in any way that would seem like an enhancement, a lowered sex drive sounds like a massive downgrade.
@indure said:
To the OP:
Like you, I also have trouble understanding transgenderism, because unlike sexually I can't logically explain mine. I was born male and I've never thought any differently, but when ask to explain why I'm male, I can't logically define it without referring to gender stereotypes, or just saying because. My understanding of transgender individuals is that there is a clear disconnect between their mind and body; to the extend that their body and mind don't share the same identity. Trying to explain this disconnect to someone who doesn't have it is like trying to explain colors to someone born blind.
If you don't have this clear disconnect, which judging by your post you don't (neither do I), then I think you are just making a mountain out of a mole hill.How does it help you to better define your gender, if you are not suffering from gender conflicts? Ultimately you are just creating a word that helps you define something that you have always been, just so other people can categorize you better.
Even if I might not be trans, I'm just trying to understand the reality of gender. Either the claim that having a penis makes you a boy/man like I was told as a child is true, or it is not. I want to know the answer to that.
And the answer to that question applies to me personally as someone with a penis.
Maybe it's still to be so curious and to want to know, but I do. The commonly accepted replacement for penis as the cause of gender is now brain structure, similar to sexual orientation, except for gender identity. The idea that both cis and trans people have a part of their brains that causes them to have a sense of gender identity.
Never have I had such a neurological sensation. And since I haven't, maybe that means I'm not actually cis. I want to follow all of the claims about gender identity and sexual orientation and follow them to their endgame. There is a truth to be understood here, and I want to know it. There are conflicting views on gender identity. Either having a penis makes you a man or it doesn't. Either there is a part of the brain causing gender identity, or there isn't. And for some reason I just really want to tease out the truth of this.
@giant_gamer said:
However, i believe that there are three things that the whole a world agrees with as manly. Which are mascular body, facial hair and deep voice.
Muscles are like, the girliest thing ever, though.
Real women lift.
I remember stuff about the feminine penis mostly as otaku culture memes. It's only until recently that I've just started hearing trans people say feminine penis. It's been real interesting.
Otaku are always talking about how a character they like has a feminine penis, lol
To go into a possibly unwanted and lewd amount of detail, I think that a lot are talking about how a penis, particularly under the influence of estrogen, can be rather soft. "Feminine" in this case, often refers to the social constructs of gender which define softness and smoothness with femininity. At least in my experience, a person saying "feminine penis" is probably calling it soft and smooth.
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