I've recently stumbled upon something that under normal circumstances would draw my entire relationship (serious relationship; I live with the girl) under question. However, the way in which I stumbled upon it was not exactly ethical.
What would you do? Would you still bring up what you found or would you try to work around it? Would you ignore it altogether?
Here's more context:
I was hanging out with her for several months before we started dating. She always made it clear she didn't want a relationship, but I insisted. Despite not officially being a couple she still managed to break my heart a couple times. One time she took it too far by blowing off plans that we had and driving out of town to hang out with another guy - one of the guys who she had previously broken my heart with. I decided enough was enough and started looking elsewhere for a relationship. Oddly, as soon as I started hanging out with another girl her attitude changed. She was depressed that she had been treating me the way she had for so long, she said that her eyes had been opened and that she was afraid she already ruined her chances with me. Eventually the pressure to be with the girl I had been chasing for several months was too much and I told her that I would start a relationship with her if she promised that all the other bullshit would stop. She did. We have been 'together' roughly a year and she moved in a couple months ago. We're currently looking for our own apartment.
Last night I had trouble sleeping. Something was bothering me about the way she left things with that guy. She never fully explained to me what had happened. I decided to do some snooping this morning and here is what I found:
A very short series of mostly boring Facebook messages between the two. Mostly boring. This message bothered me to a degree I cannot explain, and the worst part of it was that it was only from April.
So I don't know if/when you'll see this. (And come to think of it, maybe it's a good idea if you don't see it.)
I know we don't really talk anymore, and I understand if it's "awkward" to talk to me now or if you just don't really want to anymore. Really, I do.
But, confession: I miss you a lot and think about you more than I probably "should" and lots of little things remind me of you--orange Starbursts, disposable digital cameras, Cracker Barrel, wind turbines, yarn, scrapbooking stores, ice cream from Dairy Queen, Pillsbury cookie dough, anything relating to The Hunger Games series, menus, tiny balls of paper (ewww)...
Now that I've sufficiently made an ass of myself, I'll stop talking. I hope you're doing well.
What the fuck do I do?
EDIT: It wasn't clear before, but SHE was the one who sent him the message.
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