So i have run into a problem. My wife has found out I am buying her an expensive jewelry set for our one year coming up in August. She now wants to something equally as extravagant. Do I give her a list of things she could buy me, hint in an obvious direc
I chose hints, but then that would lead to her asking you more questions than is necessary should that happen and she might get the wrong thing leading to your disappointment. Giving her a list would make the gift less "special" and might lead to you, ultimately, being disappointed, I mean August is a ways away, so you might change your mind about something sooner or later. Leaving her on her own - well, it could be really bad or really good. Whatever, do the list to ensure you get what you want if... that's what you're into.
Punch the jewelry into the sun. If you give it to her there is no surprise and she'll hate you for it. If you take it back to the store you'll look cheap and she'll hate you for it. If you try to throw it into the ocean it may wash up somewhere in the world and news will spread and she will eventually find out and hate you for it.
No. The only logical conclusion is to wind up your hardest Donkey Kong punch, throw the jewelry in the air directly in front of you like a tennis serve, and smack that mother licker out of the stratosphere at nearly the speed of light until it reaches the heart of the Solus around 8 minutes later, in which the last gaudy reflection of that false diadem will refract in the periphery of her vision, and she will see, in that fleeting moment, that you were a god. Perhaps you'll even get laid.
You do NOT want to establish a way of gifting that requires equal distribution and the need to repay everything with something equally valuable. Do NOT suggest that you expect anything in return or support her idea that she "needs" to do this now. Why would anyone want this?
If you are one of those weirdos who doesn't like to be up front, and who likes to play mind games, then go ahead and drop subtle hints. If you happen to like being up front and are in fact a normal person, just straight up tell her a few ideas and leave it up to her if she'd prefer to figure it out by herself.
I'm jumping on the C-train here.. she found out, by mistake I assume(?), what else would be a surprise secret. Don't establish a relationship where you build personal expectations of her living up to what she's given by you, or even make her remotely believe that you think such thoughts. Let her figure out something extravagant in her mind that she thinks strikes your fancy and if that's to your liking then it's obviously a good fit between ya.
If anything this is a good test of how well you know each other..
" If you are one of those weirdos who doesn't like to be up front, and who likes to play mind games, then go ahead and drop subtle hints. If you happen to like being up front and are in fact a normal person, just straight up tell her a few ideas and leave it up to her if she'd prefer to figure it out by herself. "
this...never drop hints that's always stupid and weird, i hate when girls have done that to me. Either tell her up front something, let her do what she wants, or say she doesn't need something as extravagant. It just depends on if you care about getting nice shit that you want, nice shit that you might not want, or don't care about getting nice shit. i said shit a little too much but my point remains
That's an interesting title. Anywho, if she is going to spend all that money on you make sure she gets you something you'll want, she wouldn't want to blow all that cash on something you wouldn't like. I'd say drop very obvious hints about what you want or just straight out tell her.
@OmegaPirate: Ohhhhhhhhhh. So close. BUT! You have a pic from the forums, while aarman has a pic from the front page, so you're both winners! *throws candy*
" @AlwaysAngry: *grabs candy* W00t!!! On the plus side i had no idea this was on the front page -and it looks even more epic on there then i could've possibly imagined!!! "
" I think you should leave it up to her. The fun in these gifts is that you are not (supposed) to know what they are. "
Agree. Personally I think you fucked up letting her know and now need to completely change the gift, even if it comes down to making a card or something by hand. Depending on what your lady is like, you can actually get a lot of points if you combo it with telling her something about jewels being overvalued shiny rocks that are brought to the states on the bent and broken backs of child slaves.
Anyway, yeah, I wouldn't say anything about what you want and I'd get her something else too.
@Metalideth: Tell her straight out and you might risk it all, definetly hints, example Geeee I would really like a new Xbox 360 Elite or damn I would really like a new Ipod. But make sure she is paying attention if she doesn't listen correctly she might fuck it up... Girls sometimes don't pay attention to us guys!!!
I'd definitely go for C. I doubt you'll end up with something you hate - she must know you well, right? - and even if you do, you can pretend to like it. ;)
D. Ask your wife what she thinks about it instead of total strangers on the internet. or E. Show your wife this thread and discuss the steps it will take to have a more open relationship.
Leave it to her. Even if it's not your favorite thing in the world, it'll be 100% hers for you. Otherwise, it's the equivalent of her giving you a gift certificate. Not very special.
The first thing to do is to explain to her that there is no need for reciprocation. If she's still set on it, then drop subtle hints. Just as much as you'd like to recieve something you'd like, she wants to give you something you'd enjoy. The last thing you want to do is give her a list of things you want like an expecting child. In any case, if she gets you something, at least pretend you love it.
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