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My take on relationships

I don’t wanna commit to a relationship right now

Why?

All girls want something permanent,and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that,I even want that too,but

I don’t want to promise something I don’t know if I can deliver or not

Nobody knows what the future holds,specially in these matters

For example,if I had a relationship with someone at this point in my life,she’d have to give up too much for me

She could be turning down tons of marriage proposals hoping that I’d be the next to propose,and I don’t think that’s fair,she could be happier with someone else more than she’ll ever be with me

A guy like me doesn’t have the finances to support a family at this point,hence,a relationship would be a waste of time for the time being

Note that I’m talking about serious relationships,not the kind that’s common these days

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I don’t wanna commit to a relationship right now

Why?

All girls want something permanent,and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that,I even want that too,but

I don’t want to promise something I don’t know if I can deliver or not

Nobody knows what the future holds,specially in these matters

For example,if I had a relationship with someone at this point in my life,she’d have to give up too much for me

She could be turning down tons of marriage proposals hoping that I’d be the next to propose,and I don’t think that’s fair,she could be happier with someone else more than she’ll ever be with me

A guy like me doesn’t have the finances to support a family at this point,hence,a relationship would be a waste of time for the time being

Note that I’m talking about serious relationships,not the kind that’s common these days

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Okay

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Ok. And so?

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cool story bro

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Did someone just break up with you?

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That's not really a take on relationships...it's just reasons why you don't want one.

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@HellRaiser91 said:
"

All girls want something permanent,"

Nonsense.
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You sound depressed and hopeless.  Did you just get out of a serious relationship?

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I don't know that he necessarily sounds depressed. But taking such a rigidly "logical" view of things would seem to suggest it.

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Cool story.

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@FluxWaveZ said:
" Cool story. "
HE DIDN'T ADD "BRO""
 
BURN HIM AT THE STAKES
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Are you trying to convince us, or yourself?

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Because if you date a girl you have to marry her and live with her forever, thats the rule. 
 
Also: Heaven forbid you actually speak to a women while dating her and... *gasp* Tell her you aren't interested in marriage any time soon? That would just make too much sense, better to just assume every girl wants to get married right away and never date again.

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@HellRaiser91: Or you're afraid of rejection or putting yourself out there, so you're looking to rationalize this without coming to grips with the real problem.
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relationships are overrated

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This is stupid

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Your theory on relationships has totally blown my mind. 

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I want short paragraphs from my men. Not individual lines of text. That's just weird.

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@Ragdrazi: 
 Better he find that out now. Save him a lot of time in the long run.
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@HandsomeDead said:
" See who gives a fuck. "
What it is with the Clooney? I don't remember him being dead! 
...though none would argue the handsome.
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@CocoRodriguez:  It's something everyone has to come to terms with.
 
@emkeighcameron:  You are not a woman, because there are no women on Giantbomb. Duh.
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@Ragdrazi said:
" @CocoRodriguez:  It's something everyone has to come to terms with.
 
@emkeighcameron:  You are not a woman, because there are no women on Giantbomb. Duh. "
I NEVER SAID I WAS
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@emkeighcameron said:
" @Ragdrazi said:
" @CocoRodriguez:  It's something everyone has to come to terms with.
 
@emkeighcameron:  You are not a woman, because there are no women on Giantbomb. Duh. "
I NEVER SAID I WAS "
Point is made.
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i know what you mean.

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lol@therepliesinthisthread

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So you can't fall in love because you have no money.  
 
Awesome.

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I love you.

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O...kay.... Good for you? This feels more like a blog to me, but whatever you say, man.

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@Ragdrazi said:
" @CocoRodriguez:  It's something everyone has to come to terms with. "
Yeah, I learned the rules and pick up the girls after you've moved on to the next. OP just needs to get with the program (also he's behind me in the line).
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I disagree.

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Well how are you here today? It's because women wants commitment, marriage to have a family and stuff like that. It's all biology, if women didn't act the way they did, we wouldn't survive.

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I don't claim to know much about relationships but I can tell you it's completely untrue that all women want is commitment and much less true are HitmanAgent47's comments about women only being after marriage and a family and that being all due to their biology. As a university student I've seen plenty of women who'll go out on the piss looking for a quick fling, in fact where I live at the moment all you see around the town centre on a weekend is women looking for intimacy with the least amount of commitment possible. Of course these are just the two extremes though, I'm sure there are plenty of women out there also looking for easy-going relationships.

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I'm looking at things from a logical perspective,just as   ragdrazi pointed out 
 
I'm not afraid of getting rejected,or maybe a little,but that's not the reason why I don't wanna have one  
 
and for the people who didn't notice,this IS a blog post 
 
and as for girls who want a quick fling,I'm not that kind of guys,I already have more important things to do than fool around with a girl that I might not even see after this is over
 
 PS: I didn't get dumped,I never had a relationship in my entire life anyway 
 
this is normal where I live,it's not a big deal here

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@HellRaiser91 said:
" I'm looking at things from a logical perspective,just as   ragdrazi pointed out  I'm not afraid of getting rejected,or maybe a little,but that's not the reason why I don't wanna have one   and for the people who didn't notice,this IS a blog post  and as for girls who want a quick fling,I'm not that kind of guys,I already have more important things to do than fool around with a girl that I might not even see after this is over  PS: I didn't get dumped,I never had a relationship in my entire life anyway  this is normal where I live,it's not a big deal here "
No offense, but it sounds like you have no idea what you want when it comes to relationships.
 
Which puts you in the same boat as everyone else.
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@septim said:
" @HellRaiser91 said:
" I'm looking at things from a logical perspective,just as   ragdrazi pointed out  I'm not afraid of getting rejected,or maybe a little,but that's not the reason why I don't wanna have one   and for the people who didn't notice,this IS a blog post  and as for girls who want a quick fling,I'm not that kind of guys,I already have more important things to do than fool around with a girl that I might not even see after this is over  PS: I didn't get dumped,I never had a relationship in my entire life anyway  this is normal where I live,it's not a big deal here "
No offense, but it sounds like you have no idea what you want when it comes to relationships.  Which puts you in the same boat as everyone else. "
maybe I don't,but I prefer to have a relationship which is more likely to lead to marriage 
 
The average age for newly married males here is over 25,and I'm still 19,which makes it too early for me to consider having such a relationship
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read: look, I could have a girlfriend, I just don't WANT one. 
 
@HellRaiser91 said:

"

All girls want something permanent,and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that,I even want that too,but

......

She could be turning down tons of marriage proposals hoping that I’d be the next to propose,and I don’t think that’s fair,she could be happier with someone else more than she’ll ever be with me

......

not the kind that’s common these days

"  
Sooo...all girls only want to get married? Shocking, considering I'm a girl and don't want to get married. I am not the only one. People, even women (!!), are entire, complex individuals with differing opinions and emotional/financial/future needs.
 
Girls don't just date people to get married (see above). They, like anyone who dates people, tend to date a person because they like that person. IDK what made you think that women only get in relationships because they expect you to propose and then support them, that's crazy sauce.
 
Wait.....people have relationships where they don't automatically get married??? You contradicted your entire post. You're talking about serious relationships, when in reality casual relationships exist and are actually common! Problem solved.
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@HellRaiser91 said:
"All girls want something permanent"
Good joke.
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I like girls 'cause they smell nice 

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@___pocalypse said:
" read: look, I could have a girlfriend, I just don't WANT one. 
 
@HellRaiser91 said:
"

All girls want something permanent,and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that,I even want that too,but

......

She could be turning down tons of marriage proposals hoping that I’d be the next to propose,and I don’t think that’s fair,she could be happier with someone else more than she’ll ever be with me

......

not the kind that’s common these days

"  
Sooo...all girls only want to get married? Shocking, considering I'm a girl and don't want to get married. I am not the only one. People, even women (!!), are entire, complex individuals with differing opinions and emotional/financial/future needs. Girls don't just date people to get married (see above). They, like anyone who dates people, tend to date a person because they like that person. IDK what made you think that women only get in relationships because they expect you to propose and then support them, that's crazy sauce. Wait.....people have relationships where they don't automatically get married??? You contradicted your entire post. You're talking about serious relationships, when in reality casual relationships exist and are actually common! Problem solved. "
when I said all,I was referring to girls in my country 
 
I admit it doesn't apply to every female in the world 
 
and yeah,people have relationships where they don't automatically get married,but if they really like each other,they do,right? 
 
and if I only like a person,I don't date them,I just be friends with them,why date someone you know you don't wanna spend the rest of your life with,I just don't see the point 
 
it's possible that some people may have a relationship that might not work out,but if they already know it won't,then they're wasting their time with each other 
 
and for the people who don't care,why did you even reply to the thread? 
 
mind your own business people :P
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@___pocalypse said:
"Sooo...all girls only want to get married? Shocking, considering I'm a girl and don't want to get married. I am not the only one. People, even women (!!), are entire, complex individuals with differing opinions and emotional/financial/future needs. Girls don't just date people to get married (see above). They, like anyone who dates people, tend to date a person because they like that person. IDK what made you think that women only get in relationships because they expect you to propose and then support them, that's crazy sauce. Wait.....people have relationships where they don't automatically get married??? You contradicted your entire post. You're talking about serious relationships, when in reality casual relationships exist and are actually common! Problem solved. "
You must be confused.  Girls are a specific and defined sub-genre of human being that can easily be labeled and fit into an easily-identified box.  Obviously.
 
@HellRaiser91 said:
"and if I only like a person,I don't date them,I just be friends with them,why date someone you know you don't wanna spend the rest of your life with,I just don't see the point  it's possible that some people may have a relationship that might not work out,but if they already know it won't,then they're wasting their time with each other "

People enter into a relationship to find out if they are going to make it all the way.  You can't know that for sure until you're an a long, committed relationship, and even then it's hard to tell.  People are complex and emotional, and their feelings towards others can change positively or negatively at a moment's notice.  You seem unable to grasp this concept, which makes me think you might have some kind of social disorder.
 
People enter in relationships that they think probably won't last because some people want to have fun for the short term.  Are you still friends with every friend you've ever made?  Probably not.  Was the time spent with those long-gone friends a waste?  No, because it molded you into a newer (hopefully better) person.  You got a lot of fun new experiences out of the deal, and you learned a bit more about yourself and others.  Taking your argument at hand, we should judge people immediately based on our first impressions and never change them.  Interacting with people on any level must be a waste of time, huh?
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@HellRaiser91: Because bro, you posted this to the forums. The only reason to post something to the forums is because you want people to read your post, and then comment on it. If you want your blog posts to be more personal and private, don't post them to the forums. Just skip that step.  
If you post something on a public forum, you are asking people to respond to it, so lol no, they aren't going to mind their own business.
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 thats sad . But whatever way you look at it , whatever suits you best .

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@HellRaiser91 said:
"All girls want something permanent"
I disagree. At my school, girls are always getting with and breaking up with boys. Some of them think it's a game, and don't seem to want something serious. Not to say that there are some girls more mature than that; it's just that those girls are harder to find nowadays.
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Hit it and quit it. 

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Girls have vaginas.