A Serious question about love...

"I don't want to turn this into a typical "LOVE" thread, but more to the point I need some opinions.

I'll keep this short, and won't drag anything out.

I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now, we're 22, and our relationship is pretty good. I love her dearly but there is a big problem for me - we don't have sex. She's a devout catholic and I'm not religious. We had sex when we first dated, and I took her virginity. She was pretty willing at that point, but it really stuck with her since then. We haven't had sex for about 1 year 4 months (I'm counting).

I have had other sexual relationships before her, but I was her first. She wants to wait until we tie the knot down the road (4-5 years). And it's not that we just don't have sex... we don't do anything except kiss. And it FRUSTRATES me so much. I love her, and I show it to her, yet my body is.... seriously, I don't think I can take it much longer. I tell her all of the time how hard it is to not even touch one another (fool around) and she says it makes us stronger.

She is the love of my life, but it's causing a rift between us. I can't simply be content with kissing at 22. Seriously, I feel like I'm in elementary school. I hate to think that the fact for me breaking up with her is over the lack of sex, but it's really driving me crazy.

Plus, in order to get married to her I have to become Catholic according to her mom. Be baptized, go to church, study in catholic school and then take confirmation. I.... I don't want to do that either. I don't believe in a God and that's my choice. I've told her "why should I fake it?" and she says "its for our children, so they don't grow up in a broken home."

So what do I do? Please don't post stupid remarks, I'm looking for some genuine input here guys. Thanks.

EDIT - WAY WRONG FORUM. Can a forum mod move this to OT? Didn't even notice I posted in it general. Thanks."

You're so young. You really need to go out and see what else is out there, get some more experience, and be with a girl who shares your interests. Trust me I know. I got married around your age and am now divorced. I had know idea who I was when I was 22.

If you marry this girl and have children does she want to raise them Catholic? What if she doesn't want children at all? What if she wants/her family wants a Catholic wedding? You'd have to go through the whole conversion process- classes, baptism, etc... Where are you two going to live? What about the Army?

You already had sex with this girl, so whatever she says about "husband and wife making love" is total bullshit. You're holding on to her because she is tied to your tour in Iraq, and I know it's hard but you need to break up with her before things get very tough. Try couples counseling, or maybe counseling for yourself. Talking to someone who can give you an objective eye might really help you out. I've done it before, and I'm very thankful I did.

You might also want to look through Dan Savage's podcasts/articles about relationships because I'm pretty sure there was someone in your situation. I'm pretty sure it was in his podcast a few weeks ago.

Well, I'm 18 and I can't  stay content with just kissing. I can imagine how your feeling. In my opinion, I don't think it will last that if you don't believe in god and she does. You guys are just basically stalling until the inevitable happens. It's either you turn catholic or she drops the religion stuff and lets you show her how you feel about her. And by the looks of it,  neither of you are going to change.

"Well, I'm 18 and I can't  stay content with just kissing. I can imagine how your feeling. In my opinion, I don't think it will last that if you don't believe in god and she does. You guys are just basically stalling until the inevitable happens. It's either you turn catholic or she drops the religion stuff and lets you show her how you feel about her. And by the looks of it,  neither of you are going to change."

As hard as it must be for Hulk's little buddy Jax, Hulk have to be honest and say it's time to let her go.  Jax girlfriend obviously have many different views and beliefs than Jax which are only going to lead to even further problems down the line.

Never knew hulk had such a cold heart

"Never knew hulk had such a cold heart"

Well with the sex thing, if you really love her and you KNOW your going to marry her and if she really is about this no sex thing, then you just need to bear with it. Now about the catholic thing... I dunno... if you don't believe in God and she does, unless you both can find some middle ground, then I don't know how that will end. I have a long distance girlfriend, and it gets hard sometimes, but I know that she's the one so I bear with it. My girlfriend is a Seventh Day Adventist, and I am... well I am not. But we don't let religion become an issue. That's my two cents, hope I helped in any way.

"Yes, that part's important.  You don't want to be one of those wierdos who has sex with male horses."