@galacticgravy said:
Good friend of mine is a personal trainer and power lifter. Being a chubby dude, I'm looking to lose some weight and maybe put on some muscle as an added bonus. Years ago (like 2003) in high school I played Lacrosse and was fit and got female attention for the first time in my life. It was AWESOME, but during college I got fat again. 4 months ago I enlisted his help (paying him, of course. Well, the gym he works for really) and now train 3 times a week at his gym. A terrifying realization has crossed me, as 4 months in I look nearly the same: I need to eat better. He told me to eat better (and gave me some tips and stuff), and I'm wishy washy about it. I have friends who are a GOD AWFUL influence on me. As in "HEY MAN LETS SPLIT A PIZZA AND SODA AND THEN GO GET ICE CREAM AND THEN DO IT AGAIN."
A problem with me is that, not only do I have an attachment to bad food (I associate it with feeling happy and fulfilled, just like an alcoholic can't imagine having a good time without booze, I can't imagine feeling at my peak happiness without a belly of sloppy Thai Coconut Noodles) but I also have no true endgame here. In high school I had a real reason, and that was that I was lonely and depressed, and my goal was women. I have a girlfriend (going on 4 years, now) who loves me this way and, while she doesn't want me to die at 40 (and I'm sure wouldn't mind me being more in-shape), she's not overly concerned with my health at age 26. So right now my only reason to get fit is "..uh...because it's like...you're supposed to I think" and it's just proving to not be enough.
Of course I'm just a fat nerd and need to shut the hell up and eat what I need to.
I wasn't nobody special in High School. I was chubby, anti-social, and didn't get alot of female attention either. Though alot of the females were ignorant and was into thuggish guys, guys that basically treat them like shit and fucked other chicks, but I wasn't like that at all.
In someways I know how you feel. There's times where I fall off the wagon and end up gaining weight. Sometimes the craving for certain foods can takeover, and I get to a point where I don't care about the calories I eat. When that happens I'm usually in a depression, and I start thinking about the foolish mistakes I've done in the past, but after sulking I start thinking that I need to focus on the future, and how to improve my life as it is now.
Afterwards I get myself back on track and keep going with the plan. Sense I've lost alot of weight I decided to keep a positive mindset. On top of that I got alot of benefits from losing weight. I got alot more female attention, I'm healthier, more wiser, and more confident then ever before. I also like to encourage other people to get in shape too. For some people it might seem impossible, but its not.
Anyway man good luck on your fitness goals. As long as you have determination you'll reach it.
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