Well since we're all on this site we all probably enjoy video games as a hobby more than most, I was just wondering if you guys find it important enough that you want a partner that shares in the activity.
I think it's important for my s/o to at least have something she's passionate about so she can at least relate to how much I love video games. Luckily, I do have a gamer wife.
I really wish my girlfriend shared the same passion for games that i do but ive never been able to get her to like them the same way i do. Its enough for me that she plays Professor Layton on her DS and will play Rockband or any on the rails shooters i have. She has shown some interest in my Wii but can only really play the likes of Mario Kart, she cant seem to grasp controlling the character with one stick and moving the point of view with another.
I can't stand gamer girls, they're the most obnoxious beings in existence. So if I have to choose between a game-hater and a gamer girl, I'll go with the former.
Luckily my girlfriend can play games without being a gamer girl so it's perfect.
My ex played Starcraft with her brother sometimes, and it's not like it took our relationship to another level or something, she just happened to play Starcraft and sometimes we'd talk about how awesome Blizzard is. My current chick has serious problems with video games though, thinks they're a waste of time because they're not "real" or something haha, she crazy. I prefer the old models outlook on gaming to the new talents.
D. Besides for the girl in one of my lectures who used to play WoW, I've never met a female who plays video games who wasn't either completely shit at them or some obnoxious stereotype.
@HandsomeDead: I chose B but honestly I kind of agree with what you're saying. I have yet to met a girl who was into games the way most guy gamers are. They usually like wii party game type stuff or are obnoxious and have poor social skills (im sure i come off that way to certain girls but w/e).
I'd like to think theres girls out there who would get excited for a new gears of war type game and that could equally share in my enthusiasm for playing it. My current gf has no interest in games and only plays some casual ones to appease me, it's not as fun when i can tell she sees it as a chore.
B. relationships are not one sided. If she only took an interest to know what I liked but wasn't particularly into them herself, that's fine. Same goes the other way around though, I'd have to take an interest in whatever shes into as well. People that expect their significant other to love the same thing they do are in for unhappy lives. Relationships are also about sacrifice. You should be more willing to spend less time gaming and more time with your girl if it came down to it. Granted she shouldn't expect you to quit gaming entirely, as that's lopsided, but there has to be a middle ground.
A relationship is a two way street, so anything you expect from her expect to do the same FOR her.
I'd say it's pretty important because it's one of my main interests. I wouldn't date someone who I didn't share any mutual interests with. Talking about ME2 with a guy I was dating awhile back (while I was actively engaged in the story, playing through for the first time) was like talking to a brick wall. The relationship didn't last long. I like plenty of other things, sure, but it's the same as talking to someone about this movie or book you love and having the other person blink and shrug. I could never be in a relationship like that.
My current boyfriend mostly only plays TF2, but he'll watch me play RPGs or play Borderland co-op with me, so I think it works out pretty well. It's not like video games are the entire relationship, but I think it would be much harder to date someone who didn't care about them. I'm sure my boyfriend wouldn't want to date me if I had zero interest in any of his hobbies.
Also, there's some pretty lame misogyny on this thread. Gross, guys.
@___pocalypse: I couldn't have said it any better myself. If all the girl gamers you guys know only play Wii Sports, aren't skilled, or are obnoxious, you need to look harder. And I know a couple who absolutely love Gears of War.
They'd have to tolerate my gaming, but I wouldn't put it as a requirement for them to be a good gamer or to be one at all. I rank other qualities much higher.
I don't consider it a requirement, that would be incredibly stupid, but I would like to be with a guy that does like video games or has some sort of basic understanding of them. As someone said earlier, relationships are, to some degree, about sacrifice, so just as I would try to show an interest in things any prospective boyfriend had, I would expect the same understanding of my love for video games and gaming news from him, if not a shared interest. The more things we could have together, the better, afterall.
I remember when my girlfriend and now wife bought me the SNES for Christmas the year it launched. I loved that Christmas and she was amazing. Then she bitched about me playing video games all the time and not paying attention to her. (A complete fabrication)... (Maybe) Next thing I know, I got a new video game. Worked out so far.
I don't really care if my girlfriend plays video games or not. It's a huge pet peeve of mine when people passionate about games require it from others.
I've had boyfriends that do and boyfriends that don't game. For the most part I've had more fun with the ones who do. I don't believe it would be a reason not to go out with someone though, unless gaming was a problem to them or they saw it as being immature.
I don't really care if she plays. If she doesn't like that play, bye bye. I'm not giving games up. It seems most girls now don't really care either. With stuff they Dance Central they are more willing to play games even if it's not the traditional Halos or cod blops.
It's pretty cool to have them do so, but the real key is that she wouldn't mind. It wasn't really a problem for me in high school (even the "cool kids" play Super Smash Brothers) but I've also known a few people who either have no interest or have issue with games. Those people would probably need to share in some of my other (and, in some cases, larger) interests (books, movies, writing, music) in order for me to continue the relationship. It's not a relationship-killer if they're not into video games, but at the same time, it does make the barriers in that relationship stronger. If they were outright anti-games, I'd probably talk with them about it, and try to work out their issues with them. If they'd refuse to listen, they're not just anti-games; they're also completely ignorant and stubborn, just like those who would resist movies "because they're stupid and brainwash you." I'd probably leave her on the basis that she is hateful toward something I love and respect.
All said, though, I play a lot less video games when I'm in a relationship. It's not out of expectancy or anything, the games just go down in priority against everything else going on in my life. When I'm in a relationship, I get highly productive, and so school work and literary pursuits rise in their necessity; I'm more productive, but also a little more frantic. When I'm single, I play more video games, and I listen to more music; I'm lazier, but I'm more laid back. So she definitely doesn't need to play the same types of games I play, or even really play; she just has to understand that it's what I do.
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