I don't know what to think about this chick at my job.

If there's no sex involved there's nothing illegal about it. Her parents could not approve and maybe forbid the relationship or something, but the cops aren't going to arrest you over it.

Also I don't think a grocery store job is really the type of important job where the consequences of a failed romance are going to matter that much. Worse comes worse you find a different crappy job.

@zeik: Well, yeah. The other thing is, and I realize this is an unpopular opinion, but sometimes age of consent laws make a hell of a lot of sense. I know there's not a lot of difference between a 17 and a 21 year old inside a relationship, but there's a world of difference between a 17 and 21 year old when it comes to making good decisions.

I don't know if I agree with that. 21 year olds are pretty dumb. They're only marginally better at making decisions than a 17 old. In many case they're worse, as their parents are no longer legally responsible for their stupidity.

Also, even if that was true, a 17 year old certainly doesn't become magically more responsible at 18.

@zeik: I fully agree that the leap from 17 to 18 isn't one that's very enlightening, however I do understand why an arbitrary limit needs to be imposed to make the law enforceable.

From my own experience, I would say I was a hell of a lot smarter at 21 than 17. 17 year old me took a shitty job because I needed one and I just grabbed the first opportunity possible, whereas at 21 I was job searching again and held out through a couple potential offers and wound up at a fantastic job. That's really a matter of opinion, though.

Dude, just ask her out! Don't wait until you've made 6 threads about it.

@quid_pro_bono: I'm not saying anything about age laws. They have their place. (Which is why I'm not suggesting he break them by sexing up a 17 year old.)

I'm just disagreeing with the notion that 21 year olds are not still dumb kids. There are always exceptions, but 21 year olds make really really really dumb decisions all the time. Also, I think the amount of 21 year olds out there actually looking for serious jobs are also a rarity. Most still have shitty jobs at that point.

@ottoman673: I do a lot of similar things to the girl described in OP's post, but never when I'm actually flirting. People think I'm flirting when I'm not, and think I'm disinterested when I'm trying to flirt. I'm not very well-versed socially. Could you clarify a bit, please?

dating.....

dating never changes

Seems like everytime I see her we end up into a conversation. I honestly don't know what's going to happen in the future, but aleast I feel like I can be myself around her. I told her I'm a gamer and talked about why I like working out. She likes reading books and exploring different places...even abandoned areas. She said she almost got in trouble for climbing onto a building one time. I thought that was kinda weird, but I don't judge.

She also seems like she might have some issues with her mother. Sounds like they argue with each other from time to time. Thinking about it I know my mom didn't like her mother too much either. Even though I don't hate my grandma we was never close.

@falserelic: Get her social link rank up to about 7 or 8 or so, then give her a Jack Frost doll and she'll be all over you.

Well hey, ask her out!

Also look up your local consent laws while you're at it. I know some places blur the line.

@ben_h said:

Err... just to be safe:

Also, be careful with the whole dating coworkers thing. It can get really awkward. Trust me on that one. I posted something about this that was happening to me at the time in your old thread. Things went south a bit and now work is kinda awkward.

came here for this picture, was not disappointed.

Tangent: I'm really tempted to call this as "Romance in the Grocery". :P

Touch her shoulder

I'd believe her over your co-worker about knowing how old she is. Just sayin'.

@2headedninja said:

@ben_h said:

Err... just to be safe:

Also, be careful with the whole dating coworkers thing. It can get really awkward. Trust me on that one. I posted something about this that was happening to me at the time in your old thread. Things went south a bit and now work is kinda awkward.

came here for this picture, was not disappointed.

I aim to please.

Sounds like maybe she's actually 17 but didn't want to say that to you. I.e possible jailbait, thread lightly my friend.

@2headedninja said:

@ben_h said:

Err... just to be safe:

Also, be careful with the whole dating coworkers thing. It can get really awkward. Trust me on that one. I posted something about this that was happening to me at the time in your old thread. Things went south a bit and now work is kinda awkward.

came here for this picture, was not disappointed.

I also came here for this picture. Top work sir.

Ask her really tough questions about 1980s anime.

Then you'll know.

Then you'll know.

This really is the case for me. As I said I used to be shy and I think about girls from back in the day I never put the moves on, even though I'm sure most of them had no chance to be anything real. It's a dumb thing to have regrets about.

Wish I wasn't shy like that when I was younger.

Or get her to do the Ninja Rap.

This might have been a typo, but the phrase is "lo and behold".

Ask her out for coffee.

Just ask her if she wants to hang out outside of work. Absolutely no harm in it.

Yeah. Coffee is great for anxiety.

YOLO!

Hit it and quit and it.

Nah just kidding. Ask her if she wants to get a coffee or grab a bite somewhere or something. She seems to like talking to you about stuff. A chance to do that outside of work might do you both some good.

ask her what her favorite pokemon is, if it's not a gen one pokemon, then she too young...

Many people are way too worried about age, I could understand if she was 14-15. But whats the difference really mentally between a 17-18 year old? I guess its a cultural thing. But either you like her or you don't, let people think what they will, as long as you aren't being creepy about it.

I live in Denmark and I have dated girls much younger than me, mostly by coincidence. And the most I have gotten is teasing about it.

That was me like 6 months ago. I was 23 and in grad school, she was 18 and a Senior in high school. I look young though so no one said anything haha.

"...so where do you go to school?"

1. She names a high school

2. She names a college/university

3. She isn't in school ("Oh so you decided not to go to college after graduating high school?")

A perfectly reasonable way of finding out if she is still in high school or not.

Just got off of work and it was a long fucking day. I had to work in the Bottle Room, change the crates in the machines, write up slips for people, throw away the trash and cardboard, stock up the milk, work in the grocery aisles etc...and be in charge of the grocery phone. I hate the phone I didn't even want to touch it, but o well. At first I thought april didn't work today, but I got a chance to see her later on. When I was on my way to the backroom she came out.

She was heading towards the restroom, she greeted me and I waved. I couldn't say much because I was on the phone dealing with a customer. Anyway, when I clocked out of work I decided to walk over to her work station. At first I wasn't going too, but I figured she came over to see me before so why not. So I went to the deli area where she works and I surprised her.

I said '' they got you working pretty hard today huh?'' and she said ''what are you doing back here? You can't be in here without a hairnet...I'm just joking''. Then asked ''How come you came over here, what do you want?'' I'm like ''I was just passing by and came over to check on you'' then we just had a brief chat. She seem pretty happy to see me. At first I thought I was going to regret going over there, but I didn't.

@falserelic: It honestly sounds like you had a friendly conversation with a coworker today.

Even if I did asked her out. I don't even have my drivers licence yet. Then again that will only be an excuse, next time I'll see if she wants to head somewhere on break. At this point it can't hurt I guess.

Demand to see some ID and a clean bill of health. Can't be too careful these days.

In the immortal words of David Spades dad:

You know the drill. 18 is legal. 17 with consent. 16 with a note. 15 if her dad's in the room. Low five!

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0233528/quotes

So is every man who ever lived! Get proof before it's too late! If she is, get in there!

*Le Sigh* Romance of any kind forever eludes me...

OP for godsakes just ask this girl out to dinner. You can deal with the age thing if and when it becomes an issue.

I don't normally care much for David Spade's comedy but this is a winner quote right here. :'D

This is how a girl interested in me asked how old I was. She knew I was out of high school so she asked how many years I had been out of high school.

For those who don't want to read the whole thing, this pretty much sums it up.

@falserelic:

Regarding the age thing, one day bring up how horrible you think your drivers license photo is, and see if she'll show you hers for a bit if a giggle. Check birth dae. Get your answer.

I asked afew co-workers today. People that know her and they said she was 17. I asked the guy that first told me she was 17, to make sure if it's true. He said he was there with her when she said it at their orientation. Then I asked april when's her birthday and she said in January. I didn't bring it up I just let it go at that point. Next thing we was talking, and she said she was thinking of transferring from deli to grocery. I know she hates working in deli, but I wasn't expecting that at all.

At this point I'm going to take a co-worker's advice. He told me to get to know her more before you ask her out, and see if she doesn't have a boyfriend already.

@falserelic: Getting something to eat is a beginning, getting to know someone type move. Dude really, just go for it.

Trying to be romantic isn't something I'm used too, but I'll give it a try. Tomorrow I don't have to work, which gives me time to think of what I'm going to do next. Even though it pains me to say this...trying to ask her out turned out harder then I thought for me, but I know I have to be more aggressive with it or else ruin the opportunity..

Yeah, as much as I enjoy hearing about young love, there's a possibility that all of these interactions are simply friendly conversations with another human being.

Shit, man, I don't even know what to tell you, @falserelic. I dated a girl when I was 22 and she was 18 (for several months until I realized we were miles apart as far as life experiences went), but I knew her and was friendly with her when she was 17 and in high school. At the time, I was at college in a town 2.5 hours from home. We both worked at a small shopping mall that hardly had any customers after a certain time (I worked at a restaurant, she worked at an ice cream shop), so both of us had a lot of downtime to talk and get to know each other. By the time she turned 18, she broke up with her boyfriend (who was around my age, hmm) a couple months after. She mentioned she was always interested in me, so it kind of worked out between us after that, but it took a little convincing for me to be comfortable with the situation. What made me feel better was knowing a lot of her friends were my age and some of them were people I already knew, so it wasn't like I was surrounded by teenagers 24/7.

Honestly, if she's 17, I'd take a step back for a while. You're still young, and at least you have the satisfaction of knowing that a person likes you enough to go out of her way to start conversations with you. Personally, I would go continue being nice, but go about my business and not get too hung up about it. Just because something doesn't work now doesn't mean it can't later.

Touch her shoulder... or maybe just take it easy?

@falserelic: Just go for it and see what happens. I can tell you're probably putting pressure on yourself but really, take a deep breath and just try to care less moment to moment about every little detail. Just try to have fun. If she's interested in you, she will like you just being yourself.

My point keeping telling you to ask her out is that just these little talks at work aren't really ways to get to know someone and you won't be able to tell how much you actually are interested until you do so out of work hanging out.

I liked this girl I worked with but it wasn't until we grabbed dinner together one night that I really had feelings for her. So just go for it and have fun.

And also, I can tell your a shy guy, EVERYONE can. And that's not something to be embarrassed about or pained. Just admit it! And work on it. I used to kind of run from the fact but since I've become more honest with myself and that helped me deal with it and get out of my comfort zone.

@falserelic: Grow up and stop calling people chicks.