So if you are overage (over 18) and the person you want to date is underage (let's not get specific but within reason) do you believe it's okay to date them or immoral to do so?
"So if you are overage (over 18) and the person you want to date is underage (let's not get specific but within reason) do you believe it's okay to date them or immoral to do so? "
Well, it's obviously illegal in many states to do so by law. If the law had no implication in the decision, I really wouldn't care. I'm not for one side or the other.
" Well, it's obviously illegal in many states to do so by law. If the law had no implication in the decision, I really wouldn't care. I'm not for one side or the other. "
Actually that's not correct in the USA. It's illegal to BANG an underage person. Not to date them. And the age of consent in the majority of states is 16. Followed by 17, and the least amount is 18 like in my state of Arizona. Most countries if I recall are 16. But that's why the question is really based on whether YOU think it's moral or immoral. Cause laws differ depending on where you live.
@astrotriforce: Oh wow, had no idea it was okay to date underage people in most places. Well, I still don't have much of a stance either way as I really don't have any opinions on that whole dating thing.
" So if you are overage (over 18) and the person you want to date is underage (let's not get specific but within reason) do you believe it's okay to date them or immoral to do so? "
very fucked up, don't do it imo. especially as everyone will percieve you as a pedophile whether you sleep with them or not.
" Depends on the person. I have a lot of friends who are dating/married and their SO's have an age difference of 5 years. It's all about the maturity level of the people involved. "
Yeah this is my stance pretty much. And same for my group of friends due to my younger siblings, I'm pretty much the oldest one of the bunch.
Just save yourself the trouble and BECOME underage yourself. Get a new birth certificate, you can ride that shit for like a decade almost. Just don't smoke, that will age you fast.
Just save yourself the trouble and BECOME underage yourself. Get a new birth certificate, you can ride that shit for like a decade almost. Just don't smoke, that will age you fast.
I'm underage, but I'd say it's immoral because teenagers + puberty = messed up emotions and probably especially with girls. Thus, I could see how it's really easy for an adult (nearly out, or out of puberty) to take advantage of someone that's underage even without trying to. Plus there's that obsession with maturity that pretty much all teenagers have and hence why lots of teens want older boy/girlfriends (college-age) which also skews their judgment.
That being said, the law obviously takes precedence.
like ten of my friends ( who are females by the way ) are dating 17 year old`s and 18 year old`s, my friends are like, 13 and 14, yeeeaaah, it`s really gross
I dated two 14ish girls back when I was 17. It definitely felt weird when I had passed the 18 mark; not because I personally thought I was doing something wrong, but because there are all these weird connotations and (worse) legal issues. Since nothing ever came of either relationship, it didn't matter in the long run. What I did learn from the experience is that it isn't really worth the hassle. No one has any clue what a relationship is at that age, anyway. Don't do it.
It makes you look desperate... just get a girl the same age as you or older. Yes when your 30 you can date someone who is 25 but when your 18 you shouldn't be dating someone that is like 14. Even though you may not be taking advantage of them it sure does look like it.
I don't see what's wrong with it. For some reason, it seems the U.S. doesn't like it when some people love each other. Though I agree that it's questionable how young someone can be for you to date them, I don't see why there would be anything wrong with it. If two people like each other then I don't see why age would be a problem, if someone's in their fifties and is sexually attracted to 10-year olds then I why that could be a problem.
What I do find immoral is calling people pedofiles left and right and saying that it's "fucked up". The difference between a date and child molestation is, believe it or not, very big.
I think it is messed up how people take a juridical definition of underage and conflate that with the problematic of pedophilia which extends far beyond any legal consideration. Most of my friends and acquaintances met their girlfriends/wives when they were underage; as did I. Am I now part of some cult of pedophiles? I'm three years older than my soon to be wive. When we first started dating she was sixteen. Yeah, I'm messed up that way <_<
" I don't see what's wrong with it. For some reason, it seems the U.S. doesn't like it when some people love each other. Though I agree that it's questionable how young someone can be for you to date them, I don't see why there would be anything wrong with it. If two people like each other then I don't see why age would be a problem, if someone's in their fifties and is sexually attracted to 10-year olds then I why that could be a problem. What I do find immoral is calling people pedofiles left and right and saying that it's "fucked up". The difference between a date and child molestation is, believe it or not, very big. "
Like I said, in some cases, I don't think there's anything wrong with that, but as an adult it's easy to see that no one at that age really knows what "love" is, so I don't personally buy the "if two people love each other..." thing.
My philosophy is that there's a pretty obvious line between pedophile and two kids wanting to be in a relationship, and I don't see how 18 is some magical cut-off line where it becomes fucked up in all cases.
I put in yes, but it's definitely a "within reason" sort of thing. If you got some 30 year old guy trying to date some 16 year old girl, that's a tad messed up. And obvious anybody trying to screw around in bed under the age of consent is it's own can of worms. But within reason (something like 4 or 5 years apart) and if both sides are mature enough to be actually dating and not just wanting to go find a motel to get back at their parents or something idiotic like that, I don't have a problem with it.
18 and 17 and 19 and 17 is acceptable i think, but something crazy like 21 and 14 = GTFO you crazy crazy man/woman It really depends on the age in play here so yeah its a weird area.
I don't think it is, my personal rule is 2~ years above or under me, and that usually works out crap too, but there's just so much difference between kids and young adults, whole other mindset, it can't and won't work in my eyes.
It depends. If a guy was 19 and dated a 17 year old, I wouldn't think anything of it. If they guy was 24, I would.
Not sure about the US, but here in Canada legal age of consent is 16, meaning legally it's totally ok for a 35 year old to fuck a 16 year old. Creepy as shit, but technically legal (unless the older person is in a position of authority, like a boss).
In general, I think the "half your age plus 7" rule is sufficient.
More inate creepiness on the Giantbomb message boards, I see.
Personally, I think its kinda weird the way a lot of girls are attracted to MUCH older men. Triple the wierdness factor if one of said individuals is still in school - and this is from someone who doesn't always necissarily abide by the social norms.
I think from 18-21 it's pretty alright to date an under-ager. I knew people from school, like just started while I was just finishing. If someone is the same as me, but like is more intimate, I dunno. There is a limit though.
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