Is it okay or immoral to date an underage girl/boy? (Question of the Day 8-18-10)

Why is it so wrong to date a 16 year old if you're 18? That's only a 2 year difference.  It's not that big of an age difference. If you're 18 and dating a 13-14 year old. That's a little creepy. But not a 2 year difference.

Since I'm in college, I won't date girls that are still in high school. It's too weird. My church sets the standard at 16 to start dating to avoid emotional problems, complicated friendships and underage sex. And then they recommend group dating till after high school.

" @RandomHero666 said:

" Being 21 I would not date anyone younger than 17 "

What? Man stick to your age group. When I was 21 I was at the bars and clubs trying to pick girls up not at the high school. Go out and find girls that are your age. What are you doing? Lol, goodness.  "

Doesn't feel right. 
 
Even though 15 IS the optimal child-bearing age.

" If you're 18 and dating a 13-14 year old. That's a little creepy. "

If she is 17 and you are 19 its ok but voting yes here also means its ok for a 40 year old dude to date an 11 year old and thats fucked up.

The reasonable gap can expand with age, and I think the your age/2 + 7 rule works perfectly.

It depends on the age of the older person. I don't think there's anything wrong with a 20 or 21 year old dating a 17 year old. Anyone younger would be creepy.

" Depends on the person. I have a lot of friends who are dating/married and their SO's have an age difference of 5 years.   It's all about the maturity level of the people involved. "

" If there's grass on the wicket, lets play cricket!  If they're old enough to bleed, they're old enough to butcher!    and so on. What's the best thing about sex with twenty one year olds? There's twenty of them!  Btw i voted (A),Yours sincerely, Inmate 2756/34 "

I'm just not into children.

" I have a 3 year over/under rule i follow. "

An 18 and 17 year old together should never cause issues... but they still do...

It's a matter of relativity. If you are 19 dating a 16 or 17 year old, it may not be as creepy. but there's a point where you'd have zero interests in common. I was 26, dating an 19 year old. That ended fairly quickly. I was partying and working. She was in school (so just partying). Ha! The person I date needs to be out of school, working, and able to buy their own stuff at the ABC store.

It really depends on the culture and time period.
 
In America today, it's not okay.

" Well, it's definitely illegal. "

If you're 18 and they're 17, I don't see a problem.
 
When the age gap starts to widen and they're underage, then we have an issue.

Immoral dude.

yo, get somebody your own age

half your age plus 7 dawg

What would Jesus do?

" you are going to end up in the cut "

I think Bioshock Infinite will be a pretty decent game.

Well, that would depend on how big of an age gap we're talking about.

If you're talking about a 16 year-old dating a 15 year-old girl in the year below at highschool, sure. If you're talking about a 30 year old dude dating a 15 year old that's pretty much grooming and awful.

Date? absolutely not.  Sex is a different story goes case by case, but 98% of the time, is still really fucked up.

If they're 17 I dont see a problem with it. After that it gets weird

depends. 
1) how much under 18 the girl is
2) how much over 18 you are

I would say it depends on the person. I'm 22 and the age of consent in Illinois where I live is 17. That is a fine age difference to me. I wouldn't date someone under 16 simply because teens are far too dramatic and emotional. 16 is pushing it. Even if I found a 16 year old attractive, I would probably say it isn't worth it. Looking back, I didn't know shit about the world when I was 16. Are there girls who are mature enough both emotionally and physically at 16 that I would date them? Sure, but personally I prefer someone who is at least 18 or 19.

Its illegal. Does that play into this at all or are you just looking for an ethical rationalization from virgin gamers to take advantage of a young girl? They'll tell you what you want to hear for sure.

Once rigor mortis sets in, age doesn't matter to me.

I had a friend that dated a 16-year-old when he was 25. We all gave him a lot of shit for it, and some people stopped talking to him altogether. They're still a couple 3 years later.   
 
She still can't go to the bar.

it's weird for underage. i remember a girl talking about how she is going out with a 21 year old. i just thought she was a slut and he was a pedo. she would have a new boyfriend like every week or a long those lines.

I think it depends on a couple of things. If you're dating someone because they are underage, you're a pedophile, and that's not alright. If you are dating someone that's underage, because you get along well and would have been interested in them regardless of age, thats different.  
 
Secondly, it depends on the definition of dating. Hanging out with a person that is underage and getting to know them isn't wrong, but if your definition of dating includes sexual relations, there are definite moral issues there. Taking advantage of someone in their formative years is all kinds of fucked up. If you're older than 20 I'd say it's probably better not to pursue people younger than 17 or 18. I couldn't really see myself having much in common with a high schooler at this point (I'm 21).  
 
Of course, this is coming out of my upbringing in America, where people who aren't out of high school are still usually fairly immature. In other societies people might develop emotional maturity a little earlier or later, which would make a difference. 
 
I'll also mention that I have a friend who was dating a guy who was around five years older when she was sixteen. I was pretty creeped out about it at the time. However, that was five years ago, and they're still together. They're actually engaged now. Unless it was all some super long term plan for marriage, it seems like they just genuinely liked each other.

I think it really depends on the age of the younger person. "Underage" has different meaning in different states and countries. It's somewhere between 16-18. Thing is theres a huge difference between a just turned 16 year old and a nearly 18 year old. Personally if they're over 18 I have no problem with it. If the age difference is more than 10 years..its a little weird(like when a 18 year old dates a 40 year old..thats gross, but not immoral).  
 
When the age difference is really small, I have no problem, for example a 19 year old dating a 16 year old is fine.

" Eleven is the cut off point. "

I'm underage, though... 
 
Therefore, I say yes. Unfortunately, I've never had a girlfriend :( 
 
If I was an adult, however, I would say no.

Half your age plus seven is a very good judge of the lowest age you can go without all of your friends being weirded out.

" Half your age plus seven is a very good judge of the lowest age you can go without all of your friends being weirded out. "

" @Vrikk said:

" Half your age plus seven is a very good judge of the lowest age you can go without all of your friends being weirded out. "

What if your seven years old?  "

Is this related to Scott Pilgrim in any way shape or form?

2 year rule

" @kmdrkul said:

" @Vrikk said:

" Half your age plus seven is a very good judge of the lowest age you can go without all of your friends being weirded out. "

What if your seven years old?  "

Bang fetuses. "

" 2 year rule "

Definitely not okay

completely depends on the range of age between you and the person, like you 18,other person 17, is okay, you 43, other person 16, kinda sick.

If you're 20 and they are 17, I think it's okay. About three years is alright.