Hm, I've never had a relationship. Closest I ever came to one was many years ago when I was at a middle school friend's birthday party a few days before I moved away from town; one of the three other people including me who came put her hands on my shoulders while I was on the computer and said that she was going to miss me. Sorry I can't answer your question but it seems like an extremely personal one where nobody couldpossibly give you the >correct< answer for your own situation despite statistical leanings toward "no man don't do it".
" Yeah it's a terrible idea. Sorry to be the one to tell you but that is not a good move. Don't do it. "
Oh don't worry, your not the first to tell me not to :D It's a pretty hard thing to not think about though... "
It's only hard to think about until you meet the next one, then you'll realize what an idiot you were being thinking of getting back with her in the first place.
@sodiumCyclops: In my experience if you broke up, there is a reason that you wanted to break up. This is doubly the case if the breakup was mutual, since you both agreed there was something wrong with the relationship 0.o. There is always a chance (in my experience, a pretty good one) that this problem will come up again.
Mind you if you just want the relationship for sex or something, go for it. I'm assuming you want something longish haha
" @MB: Good call. Anything to add from personal experience? "
Here's a personal experience. Me and a girl broke up and a few months later I started to talk to her again. She knew that I liked her still and knew what I was trying to do. Right before I was about to go out with her again, I found out another girl liked me that I could "relate" to more than my ex. I then had to make a decision between the two and I choose the other girl and now my ex completely hates me and refuses to talk to me. So, before you try to get together again, make sure there isn't anyone else interested.
But, if you will attempt to restart your relationship, try not to ever bring up the breakup, it's a bit of a taboo.
@Tru3_Blu3: I think people look at relationships differently when they like someone they know, I go over times when I would like to be in a relationship and other times I'm reminded how happy I am with the way things are right now.
Theres pros and cons to both sides so don't assume that being in a relationship always makes things harder. If you've found the right person, usually life gets better.
Do it, you clearly want to or you wouldn't be posting on the forum. As long as the reason for breaking up wasn't something to do with being unfaithful as that would probably cause permanent doubt in your mind.
It's about personal experience, the only way you'll gain that is to make mistakes, if the relationship works out for a while, then good, you had some good times, if it doesn't what's the worst, you're back in the same situation now, but with more experience about how to go about things.
Go with what you truly want to do.
To add, those posting on this forum, are either talking from experience, or have no idea about the matter, if it's the latter why are you listening to them, if it's the former maybe your situation will work out differently.
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