Hello duders, I have another late blog, this time I kinda need your advice, in all seriousness. Well, if you didn`t already know, i`m in a band, it`s a rock/ rap rock band, pretty sweet, actually, as silly as it sounds, we are actually trying to do all the genres, country, pop, R&B, rap, heavy metal, yeah, sounds pretty wierd, but that`s just how our style is. But anyway`s, I have a really bad problem, well, one of my good friends want`s to " change up " some of our material, first lemme point out that we haven`t even recorded ONE song yet, so it`s pretty pathetic, we`re actually planing to record 9th grade, we`ve planned this since 7th, so, that plan is going well so far I guess, but back to the point, he`s trying to make our lyrics " inspirational ", now, i`m not saying that`s a bad thing, but i`m not necessarily saying that it`s a good thing, he also doesn`t want us to curse, ( AKA, swearing, "cussing" ) and i`m sorry, but that`s just lame, I mean, seriously? i`m trying to be real in my songs, and you don`t want me to express my anger? that`s fucked up, but anyways, his excuse is " if the principle finds out we rap like that, they wont look at us the same way " or " we might fuck up the world with music like that ". I could just start making a whole epic rant about how this is a really stupid excuse, but I prefer to not make you read my bullshit.
 
So, what i`m asking basically, should I just let him push me and my dreams like that? I mean, I DO have a beat maker, and a microphone, but I don`t wanna lose a friend, I mean, I know it`s stupid, and childish, but i`ve always dreamed since I was a little kid to make music, also, I have a few band members who don`t know at all about his idea, so, when we arrive at my buds house to record, suprise, keep your lyrics on a 2nd grade level. The group originally was suppose to be a group about life and it`s struggles, but now that we`re writing " happy go lucky " lyrics, it just really sounds stupid and isn`t my style.
 
So, giantbomb community, I need your advice, what exactly should I do? I don`t wanna just grab the rest of the band and leave, because that`s a dick thing to do, i`m not like that, but at the same time, I don`t think it`s worth letting him change my musical style just so that he can have a " good " record ( if you don`t know what I mean, I mean so that adult`s don`t see him as a " good kid " ), so please, tell me what I should do
 
Thanks for reading and...
 
PEACE!

KISS doesn't cuss in their songs because they think it's cheap. Take that for what you will. 
 
Here's my advice: Push your friend down some stairs.

Make your own music on the side and if he gets too demanding then just tell him to fuck off. 

You shouldn't have to compromise this much. You could always ask the band for a vote. Also, if you want, you can do some songs that he wants, but if you want to do a "dirtier" track, just tell him not to feature on it. He doesn't have to be on every song. If anything ever happens, he can just say he wasn't a part of it. don't know, best of luck. Art is art, you shouldn't cut it up and make it something its not.

Discuss it as a group but don't make it feel like an attack on him. He shouldn't feel like he has to get defensive. If the band stops being fun for you, just do your own thing, it doesn't mean you guys can't be friends anymore though.
 

" Discuss it as a group but don't make it feel like an attack on him. He shouldn't feel like he has to get defensive. If the band stops being fun for you, just do your own thing, it doesn't mean you guys can't be friends anymore though.
 

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" @LordXavierBritish: BUT CIGARETTES ARE BAD FOR YOU....I think. Thats what I learned in health class all the way back in middle school.   Excessive is the key word. If you're swearing every other word then you just have tourettes and thats not cool. "

" @LordXavierBritish: BUT CIGARETTES ARE BAD FOR YOU....I think. Thats what I learned in health class all the way back in middle school.   Excessive is the key word. If you're swearing every other word then you just have tourettes and thats not cool. "

Have A band vote on it, cause its not what HE wants its what the band wants.
 
@HS21 said:

" Discuss it as a group but don't make it feel like an attack on him. He shouldn't feel like he has to get defensive. If the band stops being fun for you, just do your own thing, it doesn't mean you guys can't be friends anymore though.
 

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Let us know how it goes with your band mate.  

I'm enjoying these "advice blazerx9x" memes. 
 
On topic, you discuss a lot of times when you were younger. I can assure you, friend, you're still very young and will be for a very long time. As long as you're young, there's really no need to start segregating yourself from your friends. 
 
I can tell you right now that you don't need expletives to make anything better. They are simple, meaningless words: 
 
Fuck 
Shit 
Piss 
Ass 
etc. 
 
They're short, banal terms designed purely to express an emotion (frustration, rage) as quickly as possible. If you're writing music, I would assume that you'd like to take the time to express your thoughts on a subject or your feelings thereof. There is no deeper expression in the word "Fuck". It conveys only one thing, and, most of the time, we laugh at that in a childish giggle. 
 
I assume that's not how you want people reacting to your music. 
 
Your dreams aren't going to be realized now, because this is the time that you shape them to an extravagant perfection. Make use of that opportunity.

You should compromise with your friend and or the band, because a band is a team and group of artist; no one should be self-centered or selfish. Everyone has their share of talent and potential, so always be sure that there's a unified sound that the band is looking to; but also leave some room for some other different song genres in a album. You can't go wrong with mixing things up instead of having a sound that could be filler if they sound too similar. 
 
As for cussing, for a young person like you, yes people might think you're a mouthful brat if there was swearing. I don't really mind it, I'm not sure if its more mature or not to use swear words. I remember that when I was on a fan's band site when they switched up the lyrics to be more "mature" by adding swear words,t here was a bit of controversy. It can go one way or the other. As long as you don't take cheap shots with swearing and make it repetitive (unless you can implement it properly), its fine.

Look at how that affected Fiddy cent and how his lyrics changed the world, okay never mind. That made him a bit suicide and he tries to kill himself by being shot 9 times and hitting big ass ramps.I don't think you want to head in that direction.

" Look at how that affected Fiddy cent and how his lyrics changed the world, okay never mind. That made him a bit suicide and he tries to kill himself by being shot 9 times and hitting big ass ramps.I don't think you want to head in that direction. "