Yeah, this is a problem.
I guess I never really had any good friends. The people I hung out with through elementary school to junior high were an amusing bunch, but pretty much only time I spent with them was at school or when I was totally wasted. Once I moved to a neighbouring city, I tried to keep in touch but they didn't seem to bother so I also stopped trying. Touched bases with a few of them during military training, but then I moved to the capital and haven't heard of 'em since. That was like 7 years ago.
Made a friend during said military training, but once we got out it just felt awkward - we had similar interests, but the relationship worked only because of the enviroment. So haven't heard from him in years either.
Then we have the work acquintances - some of them I could've become friends, but I've been switching jobs like every 2 years while looking for something interesting to do, so it's really hard to keep in touch. In this last job, I haven't even tried - since I can work almost completely from home, I don't even know all the names of the people who work in the same team with me.
I guess I'm pretty much putting all my eggs into one basket. I'm quitting my current job next month, getting a part-time job and going back to school in January. I'm hoping I can make some lasting relationships in there during those 4 years. Though I'm a bit worried about the age difference, since most of the people on my courses are likely to be up to 7 years younger than me. But I play vidjagames and I know dubstep - I'm hip with the kids, right guys?
Hobbies are a good starting point - joining a club or etc. I was thinking about joining a Go club and learning to play it properly, but trying to fit in with a pre-existing group of friends is even scarier than trying to connect with a random bypasser.
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