Why does shyness even exist?

I can't start to understand the function of that shit. We are supposed to be designed to reproduce and survive, but for some reason some of us are too freaking shy.  If it were for me, the human race would have probably become extinct a long time ago. I guess our intelligence has developed at such a rate that evolution can't modify us as fast as emotions and our intelligence does. That is why we are capable of committing suicide, something animals can't even begin to understand.  So, are you shy?, thus fucking up with someone as I obviously have? (hinted with my rage in this post) Or, do you just find any human behavior stupid? Or, do you have an explanation for shyness?

 Yes, I'm very shy.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being shy, as long as it doesn't interfere with your life too much. People who are shy can reproduce just as good as someone who isn't, so what's the big deal?

A personality trait like any other. In time you'll come out of your shell most likely. i've seen it happen with many of my friends. 
 
Also i happen to know a lot of girls find it cute :p

Yeah, I'm shy.  Explanation? I was hated and bullied by the way I looked and the way I thought and eventually I had serious problems socialising with other people. Its not as bad now but its still there. :p

yessir i'm shy. it hasn't come to me yet as to why i am

We're human, therefore there's plenty of aspects of our race that differentiates us from other animals, primarily our intelligence.  Our intelligence causes introspection and also causes us to actually think before acting on instinct, like other animals would do. 
 
It's like asking why homosexuality even exists if that doesn't bring reproduction. 
 
And I wouldn't say I'm shy, because I can talk to anyone and I don't quite care what they think of me, but I just have a general dislike for anyone outside of my close family because I realized how most people can be assholes with the social experience I gained with school and therefore I never will talk to anyone unless it's necessary for work purposes or such.

" yessir i'm shy. it hasn't come to me yet as to why i am "

I'm shy. I find it a good way of keeping out of trouble.

" I don't think there's anything wrong with being shy, as long as it doesn't interfere with your life too much. People who are shy can reproduce just as good as someone who isn't, so what's the big deal? "

Its just a natural thing part of some of us in Humanity. Some of us are shy. And some of us are, well, excessively vocal and very opening. 
 
Nothing entirely wrong.

" @AjayRaz said:

" yessir i'm shy. it hasn't come to me yet as to why i am "

short answer, to get some chicks! "

Nope, I'm not shy. Here's a picture of my naked body as proof.  

" A personality trait like any other. In time you'll come out of your shell most likely. i've seen it happen with many of my friends.  Also i happen to know a lot of girls find it cute :p "

" Nope, I'm not shy. Here's a picture of my naked body as proof.   "

Isn't shyness just a form of being intimidated by potentially more powerful members of society or something?

I wish girls over here found shyness cute. Instead it's more like "WHY DON'T YOU TALK MUCH", "YOU SHOULD TALK MORE", "I LIKE TO SCREAM IN YOUR EAR".

"   It's like asking why homosexuality even exists if that doesn't bring reproduction.

" I wish girls over here found shyness cute. Instead it's more like "WHY DON'T YOU TALK MUCH", "YOU SHOULD TALK MORE", "I LIKE TO SCREAM IN YOUR EAR". "

I'm so shy I don't play online with a headset. Cause I'd have to talk to people I don't know. That being said, I'm not a big hit with the ladies cause of it. Fuck.

" @FluxWaveZ said:

"   It's like asking why homosexuality even exists if that doesn't bring reproduction.

Its a cry for attention.    I believe most of being shy depends on your surroundings when you were little. "

I'm too shy to make a thread for a game that's almost out but no one wants to talk about it :[  
I guess you might be right. Some people say we have almost stopped evolving and now the only way we exist and "evolve" is through technology.

Shyness seems like a defense mechanism. You see a hot girl and you're shy because you immediately fear the rejection.

" Isn't shyness just a form of being intimidated by potentially more powerful members of society or something? "

Shyness exists for the same reason confidence exists. 
 
Confidence is usually held by the strong. The strong are better suited to reproduce more viable offspring.  
 
Shyness is a way to deter you. 
 
Inb4 tons of people tell me I'm wrong because that offends them.

It's so pointless imo. Like a leech that keeps you tied down to the ground, stopping you from making use most of your possible potential =/. Though it is said that most shy people are generally nice, intelligent and in China are even well looked upon to be placed in high positions of society O.o

" I'm so shy I don't play online with a headset. Cause I'd have to talk to people I don't know. That being said, I'm not a big hit with the ladies cause of it. Fuck. "

I'm pretty sure a lot of it is environmental. Most children are outspoken unless they weren't shown how to be out-going by their major influences (parents, TV, whatever). Sometimes outgoing, bright children are then beat down by their social peers (school, friends, et cetera) for a lot of different reasons.  
 
There is a difference between being quiet and shy, however. I am a quiet person most of the time, but that doesn't mean I won't strike up a conversation or shy away from social interaction.

" It's so pointless imo. Like a leech that keeps you tied down to the ground, stopping you from making use most of your possible potential =/. Though it is said that most shy people are generally nice, intelligent and in China are even well looked upon to be placed in high positions of society O.o "  

" Shyness exists for the same reason confidence exists.  Confidence is usually held by the strong. The strong are better suited to reproduce more viable offspring.   Shyness is a way to deter you.  Inb4 tons of people tell me I'm wrong because that offends them. "

In my case, I stay shy by choice, because I know people wouldn't get along with me nearly as well if I made the jokes and said the things that I really want.  It's much less of a hassle to keep friends and relationships around if you're just the nice, quiet, nonthreatening dude in the corner- it doesn't particularly affect my standing with personal relationships, because my particular standing with the opposite sex is and has always been somewhere between nonexistent and Never.

Edit: And that's one of the reasons I love the internet.  It's so much easier to hold a conversation via text and without seeing faces for me that it makes me wonder if there's something mentally wrong up there in my head.

" Shyness exists for the same reason confidence exists.  Confidence is usually held by the strong. The strong are better suited to reproduce more viable offspring.   Shyness is a way to deter you.  Inb4 tons of people tell me I'm wrong because that offends them. "

" @jadeskye said:

" @AjayRaz said:

" yessir i'm shy. it hasn't come to me yet as to why i am "

short answer, to get some chicks! "

pfft i don't think any girls here think shyness is cute :P  "

" @gingertastic_10 said:

" I'm so shy I don't play online with a headset. Cause I'd have to talk to people I don't know. That being said, I'm not a big hit with the ladies cause of it. Fuck. "

I usually just use the headset with my friends for the same reason, specially if I have to speak in english. I'm not that confident with myself (my native language is Spanish). Anywas yeah, ladies don't fancy that much shy people. I've fucked up in various ocassions with ladies I liked because of it. "

Shyness exists because everyone is different, and people deal with situations in different ways. It's a defense mechanism. 
 And if it's about girls, some like it and some don't.  Just like some like the bad-boy and some like the nice guy.  Cute means more than hot, even if it doesnt seem like it. 

Yes, I'm very shy, and my reasoning is justified. 
 
1. People think I'm weird once I talk to them and look at them. 
2. My self-confidence is shot because of the negative feedback people give me even when it's said behind my back and I find out later. 
3. I'm not generally liked because I'm not a typical man. (Don't like sports, drink, like being outside etc....)
4. I'm not a very good looking person.
5. The negative things are much easier to believe than the positive things. 
 
So yeah, I'm pathetic. Thanks for creating a thread that got me depressed again, and right before when college is about to start.

because of anxiety

Yuuuup...

" Yeah, as someone shy myself, I can definitely say that shyness is something that happens after-birth and isn't any ''natural'' thing. I remember being very outspoken as a kid up until Grade 6, I had an AWFUL teacher that year and I was betrayed by some of my friends. After that, I had alot of trouble doing presentations infront of the class, while before I had no problem performing even infront of everyone's parents. Grade 7 came along, and I got even more shy, and stopped becoming talkative to people I didn't know (shyness from my experience doesn't affect how you talk to friends you've already made). Grade 8 was the peaking point where I started finding it a problem being shy, and started to stutter more often than usual.   When I moved onto High School though, things slightly improved. Why? I chose to go to a private school instead of a public one so that mean't less crowded classrooms and I became more independent. I had LOTS of trouble meeting new people during the first 3 months, but after awhile, I started making more friends (I still find it hard to start a coversation with someone I don't know though). Since alot of the dudes at this school are total assholes though, I had to become more aggressive with people to not let them take advantage of me.     Ehh, I AM now am popular with the ladies though ;) so it may not be as bad as it sounds-but I still hate my shyness. I also had to deal with rejection that year though because I didn't have a well understanding of relationships (also due to shyness), it led to ALOT of embarassment because the girl I liked spread rumours about me around the school and shit. Over time things got better again since I had some really supportive friends, but events like that really drag me down. :( Ever since then, I started working out, getting better grades, keeping loyal and close to the current friends I have, tried participating more often, and things are getting better I think.   Oh and also, my shyness wasn't just caused by the things I mentioned, but many other things as well. I'd rather not get into that kind've detail though. Just because you get bullied, doesn't mean it will automatically turn you into a shy person, but it can contribute to the problem.  -----------------  Another thing I'd like to get cleared. Shyness doesn't mean a person is incapable of doing anything, it means they are less eager to do so and fear more negative results. I'm not as shy as I use to be, so I may not be the one that would know this, but shyness doesn't lessen productivity at work or reproduction, it probably increases it actually. Shyness definitely has let me focus on things I haven't noticed before hand, and I'm alot more observative than before. Intelligence is also most likely increased, as I spend less time talking and more time learning in class. Sorry for the sort've long post, I didn't know it would get this long O_o "  

" Yes, I'm very shy, and my reasoning is justified.  1. People think I'm weird once I talk to them and look at them. 2. My self-confidence is shot because of the negative feedback people give me even when it's said behind my back and I find out later. 3. I'm not generally liked because I'm not a typical man. (Don't like sports, drink, like being outside etc....)4. I'm not a very good looking person.5. The negative things are much easier to believe than the positive things.  So yeah, I'm pathetic. Thanks for creating a thread that got me depressed again, and right before when college is about to start. "  

Shyness like Alcoholism is bad for the human race and should theoretically be eliminated overtime. However it stays around because it probably gives some advantage in some situations or else both would be gone. 

" @Tireyo643: Man college is the perfect time to start new! Fuck what other people think, think positive about yourself and it will reflect on others "

I know how you can deal with shyness.  Circle jerk.  Solves everything really.

" @plop1920 said:

" @Tireyo643: Man college is the perfect time to start new! Fuck what other people think, think positive about yourself and it will reflect on others "

People often say that—how college is the place where you can change the way others perceive you socially as it's a fresh start—but I can't believe that it would be so easy for someone to reconfigure the personality they had for most of their life up until that point. "

I hate being shy.