@joshwent said:
Something like discouraging an article about these kind of situations is fundamentally different than seeing someone bullied and not doing anything about it. In that situation, you're there, and you can actually act to do something to help. When these shitty things get coverage in the media, those journalists aren't improving the situation, and the people that may go engage with that community afterwards to stop the problem (imagining that that would actually happen, which is a big stretch anyway) will only make the jerks more jerky and rooted in thinking they're fighting an important fight by feeling like they're being attacked.
I never turn a blind eye to harassment when I see it. Even in these forums, when someone personally attacks someone else, I either tell them in the thread that it has to stop immediately, or PM them to discuss it. And I'm just as vigilant in real life. But writing articles about harassment, does not stop harassment.
The recent coverage of "bullying" on games forums and all of that, isn't for the sake of the bullied, it's for the sake of the readers to feel good about themselves that they're better than those bad people. It's self-congratulatory divisiveness, and it only hurts those in a position to actually help.
Consider the coverage of all of the absolutely horrible things written about Carolyn Petit in the comments to her GTA V review. Those things that were said to and about her were inexcusably disgusting, but what have the articles about it done to help? Will those posters question the insults they're moved to write in the future? Neither of us could definitively say, but I'd imagine, no. And I'd also imagine that those assholes, who "bully" people on the internet in order to get a rise out of someone and to get attention, are actually pretty pleased that they managed to piss off not only the people reading that review, but also all of the people reading the articles about the shitty comments in the review.
Basically, direct, personal action is the only way to resolve any conflict, and giving bullies exposure in the media only makes those person to person solutions that much more difficult.
The best case scenario is backers deal with it themselves and stop a minority from lashing out at this woman, and I say, more power to them.
I wholeheartedly agree.
I'm glad we agree on the best case scenario. Unfortunately, that isn't always the case. Instead of discouraging people talking about bad things happening, we can simply hope that they actually take care of it by standing up in their own community. I agree that things can get more out of hand the larger they get, but if a small incident can't be handled by just those in it, it makes sense for others to bring attention to it as well. The concern here seems to be with how quickly things can escalate, and I agree that sometimes things escalate beyond their usefulness to the original incident. Though, at that point, they can still be useful for a larger effort.
As far as motivations, I think we're disagreeing a bit on why these people do terrible things. If we just assume they're all "bully" monsters which thrive off the attention, I can see why someone might believe that any attention is counter-intuitive. Unfortunately, this is hardly at all about those who are genuinely monstrous in their actions. It's about you and me; it's about people in communities just like this. In my life, I have met far more normal people that act thoughtlessly or cruelly than I have met conscience-less monsters. I've mostly met people who believe that they are doing something good or at least okay even when they are treating others like crap or partaking in shocking bigotry. Those with a simple lust for hurting others will certainly not be impacted by attention, and they may even feed off of it. But those people like you and me which may be flawed or misled, well, they have far more hope of realizing that there may be a better way.
Of the bullies I've known in my life, none were senseless bullies, and in fact, most were rather damaged people that eventually did see that they had been wrong. Even online, most of the terrible things I've seen have come from regular, troubled people who are ignorant or deluded. In this very forum, there is a decent contingency of bigotry, but I still believe most can be reasonable. And of those here who are at times cruel and ignorant, they also show moments of kindness or surprising consideration. This is the reality whether we're online or off. We're mostly dealing with people, not just monsters.
Individuals speaking up on cruelty are still just individuals, and as you said, it is debatable whether one loud statement can make any difference. Yet, an individual speaking up does so not only as a repudiation of a wrong but also as a call to others to recognize it, as well. A lot of people denouncing something or actively discouraging something is far more likely to have an impact than single voices, and that's where joining together in talking about something has its strength. The entire concept that there might be some movement against sexism in the gaming community is evidence enough of the power of perception. Ultimately, it's still just a bunch of individuals speaking against something, but together, they represent something greater. And the more voices there are, the more likely some people will hear.
As you said, you don't turn a blind eye to harassment when you see it. You take a personal stand and stay vigilant to discourage it. If you can accept that standing up individually can make a difference on more personal problems, it stands to reason that standing up as a group can make a difference on more general problems impacting a great many people. These personal dynamics are still there whether it's between one person and another, two people and two others, or thousands and thousands of others. That's the dynamic of communities, states, countries, races, etc. An individual stand means less for a larger problem, but an individual stand can garner others to stand together against a larger problem.
I don't think these backers being idiots needs an article or two, but I also wouldn't suggest that an article or two is the real issue. The issue is those acting like idiots and not enough of the people in that community standing up to them. Those idiots are likely people, too, and those not trying to stop them have made just as much of a mistake. If you are a vigilant man, then you understand how frustrating it is to see others choose to ignore problems or see them and simply despair.
I hope he is simply mistaken and there isn't a greater "unrest" amongst backers, but if so, then I hope they take care of it. And if they don't, then I think an article encouraging them to take care of it makes sense. And if a writer wants to point out how it relates to a larger problem, as people being assholes like this is wider spread than just a few Kickstarters, then so be it. Remind people to either don't be the ones causing the problems or do something when these problems arise, that way it -is- handled without the need for any more attention. Remind people to stand not only individually in their own lives but also as a group when larger problems arise. Larger efforts are built upon the individual actions of many.
I believe there are more people that know better here and elsewhere than those who don't, and the primary reason those embracing foolishness or cruelty have such an impact is because of the people that know better either ignoring that it's a problem or doing little to stand against it. That stands true whether it's a single individual or thousands.
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