I quit smoking using an e-cig. I started out at 24mg nicotine (enough that if I puffed on it for the length of time I would smoke a cigarette I would feel ill from the nicotine) and slowly tapered down over time. Every 3 months or so I'd go down a few mg, took me 2 years to get down to 0mg and get off the e-cigs entirely. I tried to quit many times before the successful one with an e-cig and it was by far the easiest time I had (though still, hard as hell). I used it with 0mg for about 6 months after that before quitting entirely because of what has happened to my Dad.
I apologize for any anxiety the below causes you, but please, show it to your Dad. It's too late for my Dad but not for yours yet.
My Dad is 56, same kind of deal as your Dad, smoking since he was a teenager and really started to worry us once he hit late 40s early 50s. 75 days ago he got pneumonia, on top of the emphysema he had been hiding from all of us, as well as a neuro muscular condition that made him very weak that is another rare side effect of smoking. He was sitting out on the front porch smoking when he blacked out because he just wasn't getting enough oxygen. We called an ambulance and he had to have a breathing tube inserted. He was unconscious for 10 days before he was able to wake up again. At this point he's been in the hospital for 75 days and it's looking like they aren't going to be able to wean him off of the ventilator. He's too weak to leave the bed, so he is fully bed ridden and tied to the machine. He is too vent dependent to even be able to speak or eat solid foods. People keep saying if he had quit smoking even a few months before he was admitted it could have made a huge difference. He is medically stable, it doesn't look like he is going to die anytime soon. Now he is stuck with the knowledge that this is all that he has left, it's his fault, and he wishes desperately that he could have quit smoking earlier.
I smoked for 10 years, my wife and I both did, we remember the conversations about how smoking might shave a few years off our lives but they'd be years we didn't want anyways, so fuck it who cares. My Dad's condition is so much worse than anything I could have imagined. It's not just a few years, it's decades of his life that he will lose or have severely reduced quality of life. I feel bad complaining about my side of it, but I know that Dad's often are more concerned about their family than themselves. Seeing him like this every day is awful for myself and my Mom and my Brother, I feel like our whole family was dropped into hell 75 days ago. Every time his condition improves a bit we get our hopes up that maybe we'll be able to get him off the vent, every time it get's worse we are terrified we are going to lose him. Every day I walk into the ICU to see him and try to muster up as much positive energy as I can, but he just gets more anxious and more depressed as time goes on and he doesn't get any better and it's killing me knowing there's nothing I can do to help him. My son loved playing with him, my son is 4.5 years old and he was the one who found my Dad on the front porch unconscious. He asked me the other day if 'andpa was going to die, I just don't know what to say.
Again, I apologize for any anxiety this has caused you, but I hope it might be a wake up call for your Dad. Take care.
EDIT: I did buy e-cigs for my Dad on a couple occasions and he did at least sub out some cigarettes for the e-cig, but kept smoking. As a lot of people are saying it's his decision, there's only so much you can do.
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