I never met Ryan, but I followed him, jeff, and brad back in their gamespot days when I was in middle school. He was a part of my life for a long time, and I can't help but be shocked and saddened by his passing. Rest in peace, Ryan. You will be missed more than I can say.
I think both games are great but when it comes down to it, I plowed through P3 during my first playthrough. I played P4 for 20 hours, didn't touch it for months, restarted, played 25 hours, didn't touch it for months, then inched my way through it over the course of months. It wasn't until I heard P4: Arena was coming out as a "sequel" that I really soaked myself in P4, eventually logging 100+ hours. Having said that, I think I wanna go back and play P3.