The Internet, like video games, has grown from a niche product to something that is a part of mainstream culture. Enthusiastic and social video game players still exist, it's just that the crowd size has grown so exponentially large that you have to sift through more people to find what you're looking for. With the growth of mobile games, MOBAs, free to play games, etc., doesn't mean there are less niche or hardcore games like Dwarf Fortress and Elite Dangerous, you just have to dig deeper to find the things you want. There are millions more messages boards than there were 10-15 years ago, and more communities spread across different Discord servers, Twitch App communities, built-in clans in games, group chats, Facebook Groups, and others.
What I found is that you have to put in more effort to find the type of people you're looking for. Be assertive about the things that you want, and take initiative when you meet new people. Don't always expect players in a group or clan to message you first, asking if you want to join them. If you're looking for other playmates, message anyone who interests you, then sort them out and build up friendships afterwards if they click with you.
One reason why some people are less forthcoming about forming new relationships, is that since there are so many communities out there now, a lot of people have already found a clique they're comfortable in. So those people are less compelled to talk to strangers. You might end up doing the same thing too, after you've found a circle of friends you're happy with. But in the meantime, you just have to keep looking, and look harder. Don't let failures discourage you from trying to meet new people.
Log in to comment