I switched over to ps4 for this generation and ended up leaving some longtime halo friends behind, but when Destiny 1 came around I found a pretty good group of people to run the raid, nightfalls, and just mess around in pvp. As that game went on, i got off put by the grind of it all and fell off as well as many of the core group were so obsessed with the loot that they would run all the content at reset which is 5am here on the east coast. And as an adult I often would not find the time to do those activities until a little bit later in the evening and raid on the weekends, often long after most members had completed the content using LFG. And while the clan keeps expanding, I do not see too many people active at any given point. I suppose the real problem comes down to my perceived toxicity of some of the core / admin members of the clan. Most notably some horribly misogynistic tones that really made my girlfriend feel unwelcome in the clan and some casual dropping of the n-bomb that made me feel complicit when minority members of the clan were around.
While I enjoy the loot chase as much as anyone, I always felt the thing that made Destiny so fantastic was the social experience. I am torn between using the clan messaging to ask for company on endgame activities out of anxiety of having one of the toxic players chime in with some sort of marginalizing comment if not joining in on the larger group activities. And the idea of trying to find a new clan gives me stress like trying to start dating after a long break. Not to mention making a clean break, which i probably should do, would mean losing out on luminous engrams.
Is anyone else having such a conflicting emotional experience with this game and its social functions? Any leads on a relaxed clan that is inclusive?
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