For the love of Taylor Swift, please don't reinstall SMB1. SMB1 is inefficient and insecure. https://blogs.technet.microsoft.com/filecab/2016/09/16/stop-using-smb1/
Huckleberries are very small, so they became slang for "a little bit". They were sometimes contrasted with persimmons (a persimmon being a much larger fruit). This led to the phrase "a huckleberry over one's persimmon", which meant "a little bit beyond one's abilities". This, in turn led to "I'm your huckleberry", meaning "I'm the right person for the job."
@orion1189: Intention matters, but it isn't "everything". If you kill someone accidentally, you're still guilty of manslaughter, rather than 2nd degree murder; if you make sexist comments without meaning to, you're still being sexist.
You concede that I and others are speaking out against sexism with good intentions, but you still claim we are harming the conversation by doing so. That's how we feel about the (perhaps unintentionally) sexist comments. Is it really the case that intention is everything, but only in one direction?
Finally, consider the end result if everyone followed your proposed rule. There would be less arguing about sexism, sure. But sexism would be implicitly allowed, except for the most blatant forms. Some people are uncomfortable with it, but they don't complain because that's just the way it is. Women feel less welcome in the community.
Under my proposed rule, people speak out when they reasonably interpret something as sexist. The original poster, if well-intentioned, says, "Oops, sorry that wasn't my intention. I'll try to do better next time." Sexism is not tacitly accepted. The people who feel uncomfortable or get pushed out of the community, if any, are the most prejudiced ones.
However crude the method may be, speaking out at the very least stops others who feel uncomfortable from thinking, "Well, everyone else seems to be okay with it." And it does, sometimes, eventually, get through to people.
@orion1189: I want to push back against this notion that the real problem is someone calling out sexism. It sounds like we both agree that said commenter was subsequently proven correct about the comments being sexist, so is that really the problem? Would the comments really be that much better if people waited until 30 posts were made complaining about Abby before calling it sexism? I think no matter what arbitrary number you and I agreed on, someone else would say it's too low because they don't want to hear that criticism at all.
The truth is that even if it was the first comment on this specific page, it wasn't the first such comment on Giant Bomb, or the Internet in general. It isn't necessarily unreasonable to identify sexism from one post on this video when it looks a lot like those other comments elsewhere, and from the fact many of the complaints about Abby's arguments apply to Dan's as well.
To be perfectly clear, this isn't about labeling other people as evil sexists who should be ostracized. The goal is to make the *behavior* not socially acceptable because it harms women and pushes them out of the community. Often this behavior occurs because people subconsciously judge women more harshly without realizing it; I catch myself doing it sometimes. When called out on it, many people get defensive and say "How dare you call me sexist!" because they weren't trying to be. (Not accusing you, by the way.) But not trying to be sexist doesn't mean it isn't sexist.
Ideally, calling out such behavior will cause some people to reflect, recognize that their behavior is colored by sexism, and try to adjust it. (I have been on the receiving end of such call outs in the past, and eventually they got through.) On the other hand, the people who genuinely, truly are not being sexist should recognize that the general comments about sexism are not directed at them, and not get defensive, as they have nothing to be defensive about.
@dracomaster01: I will not fuck off. I'm not saying Abby is above criticism or couldn't have elaborated better on her arguments, but to claim that sexism isn't a factor "AT ALL" in the level of vitriol she has received for this is insane.
Her reasons for not liking Nier are valid, and I say this as someone who has a near-Alex level of love for that game. She didn't go into it looking to dislike it; something about it put her off, and she wasn't particularly looking for reasons to forgive it, that's all. That makes me a little sad, but it's totally valid.
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