@Godlyawesomeguy said:
@Do_The_Manta_Ray said:
By depriving yourself of this experience, you're not just keeping yourself from what could be happiness,
At that point, is it really happiness? Or do mates bring us an outside pleasure?
I'm not criticizing you, I'm just interested in your response.
Well, happiness is a highly subjective term, isn't it? People define it differently depending, not only on their preferences and their expectations, but also their standards. What one might consider to be quite dull, another might be see as the greatest thing that had ever happened to him/her. Different classes sends it's best wishes.
But let's get scientific about this, shall we? (FOR SCIENCE!) There is a hormon in the body called "Serotonin", which among other uses, is what quite literally causes the human body to feel what we in our clumsy language define as "happiness". When falling in-love, the amount of Serotonin that the liver produces shoots to a so far unknown high, ergo makes a person get the sensation that they're walking on cloud number nine. This is also the reason for the post-break-up depressum that so many people go through. It is, in it's simplest form, a withdrawal-syndrom from this particular hormon that has nestled it's way so deep into said person's way of experiencing his daily world.
So, scientifically, love does equal happiness, while the lack of love equals depression.
But let's leave that behind and head up a more logical, less feverish approach. As you, yourself, said: "If you have a girlfriend, then that is what makes you content as a being." And that can be true, if as you also mentioned, it is indeed the right person. If they, so to say, tickle all the sweet spots. The entire world associates marriage and spending the rest of your life together with someone you hold dear as what would be "happiness", and while standing out among the crowd is fun in it's own right, there's gotta' be a reason why so many people believe that, right? A relationship allows you to open up in ways you haven't done before, allows you to explore new avenues of sensation and venues of thought. In other words, it frees a person in a way that he/she could not accomplish on their own. These changes tend to be seen as something positive from the person, themselves. It's quite natural, really. It makes them think they're turning into something better, and that there is someone out there who accepts them, adores them and loves them for just what they are. In other words, it makes a person self-content. And it is an unselfish such emotion, despite the paradoxical nature of that statement, as you give as you recieve, and the same effect is made upon your partner.
It is a mutually beneficial business arrangement. Only issue is that the stock-market tends to fluctuate in price-against-value. But again, that's just about finding the right person. I believe that happiness can be derived from loving someone and being loved in return, and I'm just about the most pragmatic, pessimistic bastard you're like to run across. By no means, however, should people attempt to view a relationship as a saving grace, a means to become something more than you are, or rather an "opportunity" to do so. Then you're doomed from the get-go. Without spontaneous thought and with careful planning, it isn't romance, it's emotional prostitution. But yeees, there you are. Maybe there isn't any arguement for what can make anyone happy that actually works, all we've got is clumsy words, but what I can say is, I believe it, I feel like I know it, and I would be quite disappointed if it didn't turn out to be right. (All that money I blew on getting her new shoes, WASTED! WASTED!)
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