Over the last few days I have noticed myself getting a bunch of random friend invites on Steam while playing Team Fortress 2. I have no idea why I get them, as I usually never talk in game unless it's to remind the team that we don't need 5 snipers or to point out that our team is needing a certain class to get past situations. So whenever I get them I just decline them, and move on. I was curious however, to know what others do when they get them.
To me, friends lists are for people that you know well, and if I put someone on my friends list than I want them to be there so I can get to know them better and vice verse. I just don't see the appeal in having a friends list full of random people you don't know. If you are on my friends list it's because I think you are a good person and I want to get to know ya better, and I can only do that with about 5-6 people before I start getting everyone mixed up. Which is especially hard on Steam when people change their name so often.
@Boxing_Snatcher: I think of doing that, but if we ever start talking then I have gone too far and it hurts me to remove them. I know they are just strangers on the internet that will forget I existed by the end of the day, but it just feels impolite and rude to do that to them. Which goes against the type of person I am.
Sigh... Next time it happens I may just roll with it and see where it goes.
Always decline. Unless the person is smart enough to send a message with it. State your business or you have no business in my business.
Now that I think about it, I think that's a big part of why I decline as well. Just give me something to go on as to why I should accept your advances. Like a "Hey I thought you were good in that game and you know your stuff. Mind if I friend ya so we can play together some time and I can learn something?" Or even a "Hey, we did good together in that game. Lets play together another time." etc.
If they didn't say a word to me at all, decline. I have the same policy on everything - Facebook, Steam, Giantbomb, Xbox Live. All it takes is a little conversation and I'll accept it if you're an alright dude, but just a random request out of nowhere is a definite "no".
Always decline. Unless the person is smart enough to send a message with it. State your business or you have no business in my business.
Now that I think about it, I think that's a big part of why I decline as well. Just give me something to go on as to why I should accept your advances. Like a "Hey I thought you were good in that game and you know your stuff. Mind if I friend ya so we can play together some time and I can learn something?" Or even a "Hey, we did good together in that game. Lets play together another time." etc.
Exactly, goes for any site with friends in my case. Too often I get blank invites or people who once left me in the cold who suddenly want to be friends. The times I accepted randomly were mostly bad, from screaming kids on game services to unmature horndogs going mental on profile sites. At least write, so I can have a moment to decide if I want to mess up my mental stability again. ^^
If somebody sends me a request on PSN with no text, they automatically get rejected. I'll at least consider adding them if they manage to write something.
Almost always decline, because i usually get them when i'm doing really well in a game or something. I have no idea why that compeles people to send my a friend request. I only use a mic while playing with other friends too, so usually i won't end up meeting somebody that i'd be cool with adding when i'm playing anyways. If i do end up adding somebody, it's usually somebody i already know, or somebody who i might want to play something with again. The one exception is Steam. Almost nobody i know personally plays pc games, so i'll usually add a lot more people that i normally wouldn't cuz sure why not.
When it comes to Steam I try to solicit friends from Giantbomb whenever I can so I accept random requests and assume they are from GB. I always like to see what people are playing or to compare achievements and what-not.
By the way. SuperWristBands is my Steam name. Add me, kay?
I accept most of the friend requests over XBL, if I get them I peruse their profile before I accept or decline. You never know who is going to send you an add. I general don't send the adds though as in general unless someone sticks out in a game to me. I get adds from matches in Halo: Reach and Brotherhood but I won't accept them without looking. I try to make it very clear about who I am on Live and I encourage Duders to add other Duders.
Haven't got any on Steam, but I used to get them on Xbox when my gamertag was a movie reference. Always declined unless we talked in game and they were cool, then we would never play together again and I would end up removing them.
I don't like random people trying to glom onto me. I also get really tired of seeing them pop up when I'm playing. I just think, "this asshole I don't really even know is invading my xbox," So after adding a couple in the past I removed them and quit taking friend requests completely.
I usually decline them. My friend and I will sometimes play some Black Ops, and almost every time I'll get random-ass adds from squeaky, underage kids who have about 3 trophies and have Black Ops as their first game.
I'll look at their trophies to see if they play a variety of games and then I'll add them. If that random person is offline for 3 weeks or more or I don't like their comment, I delete them.
To those who decline... just keep on sucking it, since you're probably going to be shot (not shunned... SHOT) by me later on in the future when I reach my breaking point and slaughter you all 'Falling Down' style.
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