I'm more "out of one" than "in one" Like Vince, I too have been focusing on school but one Saturday this past winter I went to my schools library to study(which was a rare occasion). While I was chill-jamming to some Erik Mongrain (who was featured on a Whiskey Media Happy Hour) I a girl strolled in and I gawked uncontrollably. She was average height, blond, cute face and a nice set of big, beautiful...eyes. Well this library was vacant becasue of it being Saturday and all, so she could have sat in some empty corner to study without distraction. But she plopped down at the table right next to mine.
Well I looked like sheit; unshaved, haven't showered in like 3 days, and sporting a Green Bay Packer Hoodie. As I sat thinking of how I would "make my move" she kept dropping her pen and tapping her feet and it felt like she was doing so in my direction. So despite greasiness I decided to man up and hope that she would mistaken my appearance for rugged good looks. I waited for my opening to come...
She dropped her pen loudly and swore a little to loudly for a quiet library, this was my opening! "Hey its okay, everybody drops their pens every once in a while," I jokingly said trying to pull off an easy going smirk, all the while mentally face-palming my self furiously at the stupid opener. But that's all it took, we started chatting; at first it was school, then interests then plans for the weekend. She talked about video games and what games she liked playing, I played it cool knowing that freaking out on her about how much more video game knowledge I have would probably make her want to run away.
Long story short she ended up being a stage 5 cling-on and I had to end it for my own sanity. My grades had fallen, I was stressed out, and I didn't have any time for myself. So now we just get together every once in a while for some fooly cooly but besides that there are not many strings attached.
If you are looking for a relationship you've got to put yourself out there. The easiest is to go to bars and clubs with your friends because not only are the girls all dressed up and ready to mingle, but you get some liquid courage and hopefully a few faithful wing-men to take care of the cock-blocking chicks that are just jealous that you approached their friend and not them. Fair warning though is you have a very low probability of meeting a decent chick out on the town.
But if you can't go to, or don't like the bars just look for the ladies at other local hangouts. Places like Barnes and Nobels or coffee shops a pretty good because the atmosphere is easy going and the you can meet some very interesting girls. The conversation starters are pretty good too because based on the situation you can ask her what book shes reading or what coffee shes drinking. You always have the chance to get lucky and meet a girl completely at random in like a laundry mat. Just the fact that you met at an odd place like that makes it more fun and less pressure because you have the mid set of "what the heck, I'll never see this person again if I make myself look like a fool."
Besides those places, just go to your normal hangouts and keep an eye open. If you go to tabletop gaming store just keep an eye out for the curios ladies that come in and want to learn D&D. (Chances are too, that you are the coolest one in the store if its a tabletop store so having the balls to go up and talk to a girl really won't be an issue. Also the other nerds there will think you are god afterwords) If you enjoy going to the park with your friends, bring a frisbee and when a girl checks you out while your hanging out just toss her the fris and invite her to play.
The main idea of all this is to be as much of yourself as possible. I'm not saying completely nerding out on a chick on the first date, but saying the same jokes that you tell your friends and talking about your interests are key. Also don't worry about "what do I talk about when I go up to her" cuz it honestly doesn't matter. As long as your talking to her about any topic thats good because chances are you are making her day more interesting anyway. Start off with the easy stuff like school and stuff, then move onto what her interests are, then share something about yourself; but as long as you are asking her questions, the convo will go smoothly. You may not even get a word in about yourself if you ask the right questions, plus she will leave thinking you are a great conversationalist! Then after a good convo you will know if shes interested or not, then just ask her for her number so you can meet up again. You can hook her in by reminding her a a joke she found particularly funny during your convo or say that you would like to sit down and get to know her some more because she seems interesting. Tell her the truth.
So all an all. I don't suggest a relationship Like Vince said, that is if you want to concentrate on school and your own life. But if you still want one, go out and get it, you have to be the one that makes the first moves(girls like that, even if they deny you they still get a kick out of the fact the a guy approached them). Be honest, with her and yourself. And don't take it so seriously, life after all is just one big game.
GLHF
~ DV
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