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Am I a Jerk?

 On valentines day, in my psychology class, when class had just ended, one of my classmates came up to me and asked "Do you have a valentine?"
My answer was no.
Then she asked "Would you like a valentine?"
I then replied "No, I am not interested"
I think when I said it, I sounded a little cold.  However at the time I was sick a few days prior carrying 64 oz of Gatorade just so I can avoid
dehydration while in school.

It isn't uncommon for women to hit on me.  Then let it play out casually until she falls out of interest.  It's not that these women are unattractive or anything, its just that I find dating to be a vice in the current point in time.  It eats away at ones resources rather than acquiring assets.  In addition I am trying to make life more comfortable when I get older.  Rather than working for thirty years because I need, I want to choice to work or not to work. Maybe I'll have a family, and I know I can support my son at his little league games or something.  I do like the idea that I can give someone else a better life than I got when I was a kid.  I always took measures to look into future and neglect most of the experiences I could have in the now, because it has been extremely important to me to have a strong future with as many doors available to me of all different sizes.

However, this is the first time I have been seriously been reflecting on my decision to effectively reject a woman.  I remember being asked out at prom by a handful of different women and rejecting each and everyone of them. Never went to prom either. Never was considered important to me.  Never regretted the decision either.  Now a random person asks me to be their valentine and NOW I am reconsidering my stance on dating.  It has been eating away at me. I think it was because of the way she frowned the following class.  I looked into her eyes and saw in her facial expression of despair.  But why should that bother me? I already rejected women who showed similiar expression.  Whats wrong with me?

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