I pretty much wanted to vent. but it would be nice to hear from you guys. I understand why some people give up on blogs. But for me, It's a great way to keep a journal so I don't mind so much. 

Did you tell him that he acts like a jerk when around other people? It's fairly common in large social groups for individuals to assert themselves buy essentially picking on peers.

Maybe he has no idea it annoyed you so badly? Perhaps you took it the wrong way? If you can rely on the person not to set your clothes on fire or pee in your bed when you go out of the house then I guess he could be an OK room-mate, despite what happened.

"Did you tell him that he acts like a jerk when around other people? It's fairly common in large social groups for individuals to assert themselves buy essentially picking on peers.Maybe he has no idea it annoyed you so badly? Perhaps you took it the wrong way? If you can rely on the person not to set your clothes on fire or pee in your bed when you go out of the house then I guess he could be an OK room-mate, despite what happened."

What did he say?

Face-to-face works best for me.  That way they can see all of my subtle body language and know what's up.  I make it clear to cut that shit out in the future.  He probably didn't think it would bother you, or at least not very much, so you need to let him know how much it did.  Try not to overreact though.

Ok this whole bromance shit, and let's talk about our feelings crap is starting to piss me off.  You're guys, get together, have some beers and get over it.  If he really pissed you of call him an asshole. 


It started with the metrosexual bullshit, leading to guys comparing mangina sizes and watching lifetime together.

Just cause a douchebag is your friend doesn't mean he's not still a douchebag, at least that's what I gathered from your story, he's a douchebag right? Now he shows his douchebagginess to you and suddenly you're the kid on the other side and can see this.

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So he said a douchy comment, and I swallowed it down since I was at his place  and his roommates were there. We actually just finished talking about picking a house for next year and things were going great untill he made his snarky comment.

-Steve

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Dude... sending a text to someone about a serious issue... that's what 12 year old kids do. If it bothered you that much, talk to him, face to face.

"ninjakiller said:

"Ok this whole bromance shit, and let's talk about our feelings crap is starting to piss me off.  You're guys, get together, have some beers and get over it.  If he really pissed you of call him an asshole.  It started with the metrosexual bullshit, leading to guys comparing mangina sizes and watching lifetime together."

Dude , STFU. just because a man has feelings doesn't make him a metrosexual, or a pussy or anything except a human.   It is scientifically proven that bottling up your emotions is bad for your health. 

Now I'm not saying all guys should cry on  each others  shoulders and watch lifetime, but the age of all men having to be emotionless hard as rock manly-men out of fear of being called a pussy is over. So call me a pussy/homo if you want but everybody has feelings.

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sometimes your friends will act like this without even noticing

its sort of sub conscious behavior when you're around people

i use to crack on my lil bro when friends were over. when they left he'd always give me a look and i never knew what it meant till he told me


he probably didn't mean to diss you

"expletive said:

"ninjakiller said:

"Ok this whole bromance shit, and let's talk about our feelings crap is starting to piss me off.  You're guys, get together, have some beers and get over it.  If he really pissed you of call him an asshole.  It started with the metrosexual bullshit, leading to guys comparing mangina sizes and watching lifetime together."

Dude , STFU. just because a man has feelings doesn't make him a metrosexual, or a pussy or anything except a human.   It is scientifically proven that bottling up your emotions is bad for your health. 

Now I'm not saying all guys should cry on  each others  shoulders and watch lifetime, but the age of all men having to be emotionless hard as rock manly-men out of fear of being called a pussy is over. So call me a pussy/homo if you want but everybody has feelings.

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If you said that out loud in a bar or a public place full of men & women, you would be laughed at. Punching your friend in the face a couple of times would probably be the best solution to getting your point across.  Afterwards, nobody will start shit with you if they know you're willing to take it to the next level."

"Lind_L_Taylor said:

"expletive said:

"ninjakiller said:

"Ok this whole bromance shit, and let's talk about our feelings crap is starting to piss me off.  You're guys, get together, have some beers and get over it.  If he really pissed you of call him an asshole.  It started with the metrosexual bullshit, leading to guys comparing mangina sizes and watching lifetime together."

Dude , STFU. just because a man has feelings doesn't make him a metrosexual, or a pussy or anything except a human.   It is scientifically proven that bottling up your emotions is bad for your health. 

Now I'm not saying all guys should cry on  each others  shoulders and watch lifetime, but the age of all men having to be emotionless hard as rock manly-men out of fear of being called a pussy is over. So call me a pussy/homo if you want but everybody has feelings.

"

If you said that out loud in a bar or a public place full of men & women, you would be laughed at. Punching your friend in the face a couple of times would probably be the best solution to getting your point across.  Afterwards, nobody will start shit with you if they know you're willing to take it to the next level."

really, you solve your problems by punching people in the face? how's that working out for you? I  bet you have a lot of friends!"

I would have just taken it up with him when you were at their place to be honest. He'll never respect you (or outwardly pretend to respect you) if you take it to text messages after you leave :-/

"expletive said:

"Lind_L_Taylor said:

"expletive said:

"ninjakiller said:

"Ok this whole bromance shit, and let's talk about our feelings crap is starting to piss me off.  You're guys, get together, have some beers and get over it.  If he really pissed you of call him an asshole.  It started with the metrosexual bullshit, leading to guys comparing mangina sizes and watching lifetime together."

Dude , STFU. just because a man has feelings doesn't make him a metrosexual, or a pussy or anything except a human.   It is scientifically proven that bottling up your emotions is bad for your health. 

Now I'm not saying all guys should cry on  each others  shoulders and watch lifetime, but the age of all men having to be emotionless hard as rock manly-men out of fear of being called a pussy is over. So call me a pussy/homo if you want but everybody has feelings.

"

If you said that out loud in a bar or a public place full of men & women, you would be laughed at. Punching your friend in the face a couple of times would probably be the best solution to getting your point across.  Afterwards, nobody will start shit with you if they know you're willing to take it to the next level."

really, you solve your problems by punching people in the face? how's that working out for you? I  bet you have a lot of friends!"

he doesn't have any friends. he has a lot of birds and pigeons....and cats."

1. Don't be a pussy
2. Tell him to his face that it bothered you.
3. Fuck him up if he does it again.
4. Have a few beers together and stop whining like a little bitch.

Update: He apologized and said that he didn't mean to come off that way. For the record, he's not a a bad guy. Hence the title "When a GOOD friend...."

"Face-to-face works best for me.  That way they can see all of my subtle body language and know what's up.  I make it clear to cut that shit out in the future.  He probably didn't think it would bother you, or at least not very much, so you need to let him know how much it did.  Try not to overreact though."

4. Have a few beers together and stop whining like a little bitch."

"sometimes your friends will act like this without even noticing.  Its sort of sub conscious behavior when you're around people.  I use to crack on my lil bro when friends were over. when they left he'd always give me a look and i never knew what it meant till he told me.  he probably didn't mean to diss you "

When your buddy makes a jerky bad comment about you amidst bunch of other people the best thing you can do is to confront him later and tell him that you were irritated by what he said earlier ; He either understands or reject it . The former indicates that he is still your friend the latter however, suggests your so called bro is not a real one .

Are you like J.D from Scrubs?

I would need more information before I could give you good advice. Can you give a bit more?

Have it out with him, over a few beers, it's an age old tradition. It's sounds like you are pissed with good reason, over something he said which was inappropriate. My guess is that he said something about your GF?, amirite?


LiquidPrince said:

"I would need more information before I could give you good advice. Can you give a bit more?

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This is the reason why I don't have any "best friends", I have some good friends that I have known for a long time, but I won't go as far to say any of them are my best friend.

a stern text message. OH NOES!

Okay chief, here's some advice from your good buddy, existentnighthawk. When a good friend is being an asshole just assert your manliness and punch him in the gonads. Problem solved.

Source:
Alphamale.

I'd say punch him in the jeans, but it looks like someone beat me to it.

some friends are dicks. there are very few best friends.

Talk to him, see what the fuck is his beef. He is not a good friend and will not be a good roommate if he puts others down to make himself look cool. Accept that. If he has a decent explanation or just says sorry then leave it at that. If he continues to be an asshole then ...