#1 Edited by chocolaterhinovampire (1444 posts) -

I told my mom, girlfriend, and sister. They all know how much this site means to me so I thought I would share it with them because I was super upset (I only shed a few tears when I was talking to my mom which was right after I heard). My father passed when I was 6 years old. I know loss and still this has deeply resonated with me. It is well-known by this point that a bunch of people who never met Ryan feel like they have lost a friend. I feel the same. Me @orange_tory and @shimmy all attended the same school and could not believe it. As soon as Rorie gives us information on how to donate to Ryan's wife I am going to be right there. This makes me so angry that life can be so arbitrary in choosing who it takes away from the rest of us. Ryan gave me a lifetime of joy and for that I will always remember him.

#2 Posted by Rabbykayn (252 posts) -

I had to share with my wife because she needed to know why I was so upset. She doesn't understand the feelings.. but at least I got to say it out loud.

#3 Edited by kadash299 (340 posts) -

I told a few of my friends, my parents and my brother.

Edit: I also told my girlfriend, who was a casual fan of the site. We shared a moment, but she wasn't as deep in as I was.

No one really understood why I was so upset, or crying yesterday, but damn it..

I knew, and so did every single one of you true duders out there.

#4 Posted by Nodima (1557 posts) -

No, although I do have an old friend (of the relationship persuasion) who I know has a cancerous tumor in her leg and isn't seeking help for it because of her outlook on the future and this whole thing has had me really contemplating how to reach out to her.

#5 Posted by RawknRo11a (555 posts) -

@rabbykayn: same here. she agrees that it's sad but didn't really get why I was so upset. She just doesn't have the kind of connection I've had with Giant Bomb over the years with anything herself so I suppose it's understanding that she wouldn't understand.

#6 Posted by TheHT (12682 posts) -


#7 Posted by geirr (2939 posts) -

Did I suddenly bawl all over my wife? Yes. The manliest bawling there is of course, but still bawling.

She too treasured Ryan though and we've posted a little image in the 'raise your glass' topic thing.

#8 Posted by Godlyawesomeguy (6421 posts) -

I was so upset and my parents wanted to know why so I explained it to them in the best way I could. I told a couple of my friends because I needed to say fucking something.

#9 Posted by Nick (796 posts) -

I told my girlfriend. She told me she understood, but I don't think she really did.

#10 Posted by StarFoxA (5258 posts) -

I told my mom about it, as she's an incredibly empathetic person.

#11 Posted by Milkman (18095 posts) -

I wrote a thing on Twitter, which only my close friends would see. One of my friends sent me a text afterwards asking if I needed to talk, which meant a lot but that was it.

#12 Posted by believer258 (13046 posts) -

I told my parents. They didn't really get that I wasn't feeling so great that day.

#13 Edited by Sanity (2063 posts) -

No, id like to, but i know how that conversation would go, its hard to explain to someone who doesn't follow the site.

#14 Posted by RonGalaxy (3719 posts) -

I didn't tell anyone, but my mom would probably understand. She gets emotionally attached to a lot of famous people, and cries like a baby when they pass away. I'm reallllly good at hiding my emotions though, so no one would ever notice my sadness anyway.

#15 Posted by Abendlaender (3009 posts) -

No. Thankfully I'm alone at the moment, I wouldn't know what to tell my parents

#16 Posted by MikeHawk (425 posts) -

I told my parents and sister about it, but they don't exactly care about the game industry. When I tweeted about how he influenced me despite me never knowing him personally, my sister said "Normally when people say someone influenced them, they don't mean with Gameboy stuff." This is the kind of family I live with...

#17 Posted by Jackhole (405 posts) -

I told my parents, once I compared it to losing a close friend, they understood.

I also told my brother, who is a casual fan of the site. He knows how invested I am in the crew, so he gave me a hug and a knowing look. That made me feel better.

#18 Posted by daddy_gab (24 posts) -

Told my wife about it. I work from home and listen to the Bombcast and she hears it too. She was sad about the fact that he died so young and just a few days after he got married. She remembered the episode where Ryan was talking about his bridal registry.

#19 Posted by NekuSakuraba (7803 posts) -

I told my parents, that's it really. A couple of my friends know about the site but don't use it much, I'll probably let them know next time I see them though.

#20 Posted by natetodamax (19421 posts) -

My 12 year old nephew just posted about his death on Facebook and wished his family and friends well.

#21 Edited by wrecks (2449 posts) -

She was a little suprised by the magnitude of my emotions, but my wife totally gets it. I spend more time with these silly bastards than I do with her alot of times. I don't think anyone else I know would really understand.

#22 Posted by cblanknz (26 posts) -

I live in New Zealand and when I found out he had passed I was lying in bed on twitter. I turned to my girlfriend and told her then just cried. She understood because she saw how happy Ryan and the rest of the crew made me feel and would witness me sitting on my PC for hours watching live streams losing my shit. I think she was upset as I was and just as shocked.

#23 Posted by dungbootle (2501 posts) -

Since she asked why I didn't go to class today, I told my mom that "my friend" died. She reacted dismissively. Yeah, I'm gonna move out as soon as I can.

#24 Edited by cthomer5000 (1036 posts) -

1 friend texted me because he knew it would be huge news to me (he's a big gamer but doesn't really follow this site, but knows I do). We sort of exchanged texts. I provided context for what a big loss this was, and how exceptionally bad the timing was due to his marriage.

Sort of explained it to 1 co-worker and an in-law, because I just had to talk to someone about it. I would say this is the most upset I've ever been about a 'celebrity' death. I'm the same age.

I read Dave Lang's words while at work today and actually had to fight off tears. Some other people have written some beautiful things, but for some reason his hit me a little harder.

It's still all quite surreal, and it's going to take quite a while for that to wear off I think. I don't even know how the guys are coping with it in office. I'm sure they've woken up a few times since wondering if it actually happened. Nothing but time is going to make this easier for anyone.

#25 Posted by Shepuisat (31 posts) -

Told my mother and sister, who were both very empathetic. My father died when I was 20, and Ryan's death brought back a lot of those emotions, and both were amazing about just listening to me ramble about this amazing guy off the internet I never met.

#26 Posted by Tireyo (6712 posts) -

Yeah, but they have no idea who he is.

#27 Posted by TheHT (12682 posts) -

@mikehawk said:

I told my parents and sister about it, but they don't exactly care about the game industry. When I tweeted about how he influenced me despite me never knowing him personally, my sister said "Normally when people say someone influenced them, they don't mean with Gameboy stuff." This is the kind of family I live with...

Bleh, you have everyone here duder.

#28 Posted by revolve (49 posts) -

I informed my girlfriend, and she was sympathetic, because she's seen me watching videos on the site before.

#29 Edited by revolve (49 posts) -

I informed my girlfriend, and she was sympathetic, because she's seen me watching videos on the site before.

#30 Posted by pinner458 (1063 posts) -

I don't really have "friends" IRL so when I first heard my only option was my Mam. I balled my eyes out to her and I'm sure she thought I was ridiculous for being so upset about someone who never even knew me but Ryan was like a friend to me. He was such a powerful personality. His laugh.... Miss you already Ryan, Peace and Love.

#31 Posted by TheUnsavedHero (1275 posts) -

I first heard about it from my cousin and we talked about it. Other than that, I live alone so I can grieve privately.

#32 Edited by SpaceRunaway (911 posts) -

I kept mostly to myself on Monday, and after the Harmonix tribute stream and watching the other Twitch stream I was feeling a lot better, in that I could at least watch footage of Ryan and laugh. I went upstairs feeling more at peace and my mom, having seen my brother's facebook post, asked me who it was that died. I couldn't even say his name, I broke down right away. I tried my best, but it was really hard to explain to her why I was crying, and how much he impacted me and the community. I'm still not entirely sure why this has devastated me like it has. Oh look, now I'm crying again.

#33 Posted by pinner458 (1063 posts) -

I also talked about Ryan with a person I wouldn't consider a friend but more of an acquaintance. I spoke of him as someone I knew personally. I think if I had said he was a person that I watched playing videogames he would have thought I was an idiot/madman but I grew to love Ryan Davis and felt like he was a friend. Peace and Love buddy.

#34 Posted by Reisz (1608 posts) -

Told my wife when she asked how I was doing, has been genuinely upset and concerned for his loved ones ever since.

#35 Posted by CornBREDX (6772 posts) -

I wrote a tribute on my facebook so they know. I didn't need to share it anymore than that.

I don't really hang out with or know anyone that goes to this site. So, like gaming, I am kind of the only person I know that's into Giant Bomb so no one else would really care or get it really.

#36 Posted by RenegadeSaint (1630 posts) -

No, but I did contemplate it.

#37 Posted by Brodehouse (10728 posts) -

@nick said:

I told my girlfriend. She told me she understood, but I don't think she really did.

My girlfriend actually broke the news to me. I told my mother and she didn't seem to get that I cared.

Also that's a great Matthew Good b-side album.

#38 Posted by ki11tank (734 posts) -

Told my girlfriend and my mom when she called and asked how life was. They only got the surface of it though, which is fine as long as they know. They don't need to know or understand why a video "game personality" passing has me kinda fucked up...

#39 Posted by RollingZeppelin (2341 posts) -

I told my girlfriend, but she's away and can only talk on he phone. I haven't told my parents yet but I plan to, just need some time to calm my mind, but everytime I even try to remember him I can't hold it together. I want to be able to explain to them, in a way that they will fully understand, how this person whom I never met was such a huge part of my life and is a huge part of who I am today.

#40 Posted by NoobSauceG7 (1334 posts) -

I called my mom as soon as I found out and texted my dad. They both knew how much I love Giant Bomb. I also posted my favorite videos of Ryan on facebook and wrote something about him on Facebook even though most of my friends don't know what Giant Bomb is. My dad was able to relate it to when he was younger and his hero Robert Clemente died at a young age from a plane crash. Both of them were our heroes and had to leave us too soon.

#41 Posted by crusader8463 (14756 posts) -

No. I don't really have anyone in my life to talk to. I have a guy I play games with on Steam but he doesn't really go to the site so he doesn't care.

#42 Posted by Rick_Fingers (525 posts) -

I spoke to my wife and a few friends. I was pretty upset.

#43 Posted by pinner458 (1063 posts) -

@noobsauceg7: Glad you were able to relate with someone. I wish I had someone who didn't just think "oh he didn't even know this guy, he was just someone who p[played dumb videogames".

#44 Posted by LiQuidBioniX (9 posts) -

I did. I had to.

#45 Posted by DennisTM (30 posts) -

I told my wife. She wanted to know why I was so upset. Took a few tries to get it out.

#46 Posted by 49th (3129 posts) -

No, I don't think they would understand. It was weird talking to my parents like nothing was wrong but I think it is a difficult thing to explain, especially when they hardly care for games in the first place.

#47 Posted by figurehead00 (208 posts) -

@pinner458: Exactly, me too. I tried to tell a friend about it, but I couldn't figure out how to explain it.

#48 Posted by joker2k3 (45 posts) -

I told my wife, who knew how much I loved the Giant Bomb Crew. She read the post by Rorie and cried. She understood and hugged me while I cried. I'm also 6'2 250lbs and have a huge beard she is 5'3" and tiny. What a sight, lol. I love my wife.

I didn't expect it to affect me so much. I almost pride myself on my ability to hear about celebrity deaths and think "that sucks" and move on. But Ryan, or any of the Crew for that matter are a HUGE part of my life. 3hrs of podcast a week, 2hrs of TNT, 3hrs of Unprofessional Fridays and countless other videos, I spend more time with them than most other people. I blame GB for making feel this way, they made a site based on personalities and getting to know these people....

Ryan was somebody I specifically looked up too, him and his wife reminded me of my wife and I. Even our weddings seemed very similar. I'm 28 it seems odd to look up to some one 6yrs older than me, but Ryan seemed like a real grown up but he still seemed like a kid. Thats how I want to live my life, grown up but still a big kid at heart.

Anywho... yes I did tell my wife.

#49 Posted by DoctorWelch (2817 posts) -

I told my girlfriend and my mom. The GB guys have been so inspirational in my life and I know I wouldn't be doing what I am today without them. No matter how shitty things were I always saw GB as this awesome place of joy and fun, and now I feel like that is slowly falling apart. It just feels crazy that the death of someone I've never met could shake me to my core in a way nothing else ever has. This makes it really hard to talk to people that don't really understand what these guys mean to all of us who have been following them for so long.

Thankfully, they understood as best they could and they didn't make me feel weird about it. I'm still pretty upset about all of this, and I just want to hear what they guys have to say on the podcast. Hopefully we can all use this tragic event to motivate us to be even half the man Ryan was.

#50 Edited by sirdesmond (1317 posts) -

I spoke to my fiance and my mom about it throughout the day yesterday. Both of them understood my feelings. My mom is a big reader and we came to the conclusion that even if you haven't met the person doesn't mean losing them won't hurt, like losing your favorite character at the end of a great book... only in Ryan's case, he was real and therefore I feel like it hurts much more.