You think chivalry is dead?

Nope ... but has bad rep for making it seems that women cant do things which I think it is silly D: ... I am chivalrious out of respect ... not any sort of misogynistic power house trip.

Edit: And yes I m chivalsious to other people too , even if I dont like them in how they look/are , unless they are assholes , fuck em´.

@spaceinsomniac said:

I'm upfront with the fact that I put the onus of payment on the invite-er. Regardless of the genders or situations, I except to pay someone's way if I invite them along barring an agreement otherwise. Since I invited her, I assumed I would pay (this was a topic that had already come up before), but I didn't insist on it when she decided to. "Insist" is the key word. Paying for a date isn't a bad thing, it's never letting the lady because "they aren't supposed to" that's bad.

It is subjective, which is why you shouldn't just assume. Motive is important too. I find it incredibly creepy for a guy to act in a way that he would usually not just because it'll get get him dates or laid (which is what this thread was mostly about when I posted).

Of course chivalry is alive. I am a knight of the round table, and as such I am sworn to such chivalry.

Of course not. Chivalry toward one another is still quite alive. :)

At least, in the sense of pursuing personal courtesy, bravery, and honor for the betterment of yourself and others.

Dude, your polls. Dude, your grammar. Dude.

I don't necessarily think chivalry (in the sense of the poll) is dead, especially since so many guys are still chivalrous. A lot of them will pay on at least the first date, and they will open and hold doors open and things like that. Some things have really died down, like pulling out the lady's chair (I always thought that was really awkward, but that's just me) but the other things I feel are perfectly acceptable and not outdated at all.

When I was in college (a whole month ago...) whenever a group of friends would hang out and play games or study, if a lady was going to leave to go back to her dorm or apartment, one or more of the guys would always insist on walking her home unless she was going with at least 2 other girls. This was chivalrous, and something that they would do specifically for the ladies, but I didn't see anything wrong with it.

That said, I do think that women should at least offer to split the bill on any date though, and opening and holding doors is really just courtesy, so it isn't really gender-specific. I hold doors open for everyone.

Kaboom.

Also I hate the idea of being chivalrous towards a woman cause it "might get you some." If your intent is to fuck her, you're not exactly doing it out of respect, are you?

Naw man tons of people still play chivalry.

Always be nice to the ladies and be bros to the guys. Some of the "chivalrous" actions like holding the door for someone are just basic courtesy. You don't need to be "chivalrous" for your girls, you can be polite and courteous to everyone, even strangers. It's not that hard.

Having said that, plenty of girls have told me they preferred to be treated as a lady and like being chased. If making them feel special is being chivalrous then I guess it ain't dead at all.

Gender equality is probably more important than getting "laid." Almost certainly. Probably. ...Maybe.

But no. It is.

The modern equivalent of chivalry is self-professed nice guys wearing fedoras and jorts.

It's only dead as much as it's seen as socially... odd. If you can pull it off without being super awkward about it then you're good.

Paying the full dinner bill, though? That old habit will die as the finer points of gender equality are ironed out. Women are no longer stay-at-home wives. They have jobs and can pay for their own food.

we need to surgically remove any physical differences between the two genders. its the only way to ensure that this form of inequality never happens again. also, genetic modification of babies, and grow them in tubes.

People will always act courageously to defend those that they hold dear.

Regardless of gender!

I hate how showing 'chivalry' now a-days means you're lookin to bang.

Being nice just to be nice ain't a thing anymore. I show universal chivalry naturally. I don't do it to accomplish anything.

You know what REALLY killed Chivalry? Modern lust frenzy. Interpret that how you will.

When my album drops....... That'll be the name of the first track. XD lol

If that is your intend it is pretty stupid. When I am out i mostly hold doors out for women or let they go first but not because I want to bang her or I think she is pretty but because of that is what a person I am. Do I do the same for men? I do it for elder men sure but not for the younger ones. I do it with a smile and move on. Do I feel better by doing it or superior? Hell no that is just how I was born.

And one more thing if you really think that this is sexist I think you have a serious problem. But I guess people in the west have too much privileges and freedom if they already have to think about that while women elsewere getting killed by the judges just because they were married and got raped which is adultery. Why not try to fight at the right places instead of such meaningless ones.

I like holding doors open for people, it's a nice thing to do!

The servers were pretty populated last i checked

Doesn't Chivalry die with feminism?
Like mentioned above, if we are equal.. it is kind of looking down on someone.

Common courtesy seems to be the more relevant question, which i still think is present.

It quickly became one of my favorite games, but yea the huge player counts = mega lag.

Until you get a 5 minute lecture on how she is not some weak woman who needs to have the door hold open for her. I still do it though because fuck the kind of feminism where you can't be kind anymore.

Hold door open for old man, thanks.
Hold door open for man, thanks.
Hold door open for young man, thanks.
Hold door open for teenage boy, thanks if he's learned that good habit.

Hold door open for old woman, thanks.
Hold door open for woman, thanks.
Hold door open for young woman, FUCK YOU YOU FUCKING RAPIST CHUVANIST MURDERER PEDOPHILE WOMANHATER YOU'RE PUTTING DOWN WOMEN EVERYWHERE MAKING US SEEM LIKE THE WEAKER SEX IM CALLING THE COPS AND SAYING YOU RAPED ME RABBLE RABBLE RABBLE.
Hold door open for teenage girl, the younger the more likely to say thanks and not act like above.

If I hold the door open for a non-white young woman straight outta Somalia or Syria (we're taking in a lot of people from both countries here) I get the word for "thanks" that they've learned from a Swedish for Immigrants class, and god bless. This isn't wait for 30 seconds away with the door held open shit, this is 1-2-footsteps-ahead holding the door open, a situation where many wouldn't give a rats about the door and just let it close in the face of the person behind. Hold the door open, if someone isn't too busy in deep thought to talk (even I am sometimes) it's a good indicator of what they are like on the inside. You can see that most people are beautiful.

I'd imagine few would react that way, though. I've never encountered it. Then again, I don't get out much & I'm a girl, so...might have something to do with it. I'd personally appreciate it. :)

I was raised to do that sort of stuff and can't help it now, giving up your seat all the time is kind of a pain.

I'd imagine it wouldn't be much fun to be around a girl who constantly makes the people she's with worry about what doors they do or do not open.

But yeeeah, I don't think it's very common to get a lecture about female empowerment when holding a door for someone. Besides, I'd like to think it's common courtesy to hold a door for someone, regardless of what's in their pants...?

The seat thing is total different for me. 'I only offer my sea to either a pregnant women or to a older person who has trouble walking etc. And only if there are not many other seats available.

I had that happen to me before...I wasn't even holding it open for her, she was on her phone, i was holding it open for the guy in crutches 20 feet behind her...

After seeing the whole bigger picture about the term chivalry. It kinda makes me want to remake the thread, but it is interesting seeing the different view points of other people.

Man all this sexism and patriarchy .back then... Thank god we live in different times...

/sarcasm

I try to be a gentleman towards everyone in real life not just women. Maybe because of people's prejudice towards me (being a half blood gipsy and all), but this is my way of trying to prove them wrong and frankly it feels way better to be a "good guy." The effort that goes into the little things people appreciate (holding the door, giving up your seat, making way for bicyclists, help them when they need help with something, etc.) is basically nothing, so why not do it.