I got a new job back in May it was a seasonal job which was the same company I worked for last year as a casual. This time I am full time given a place to be in charge of with a fellow colleague and we run the place top to bottom (mostly by our selves) it is a very small cafe/gift shop at a tourist site. We are social and hard working on our own, yet I fear for the other people in the social circle as I see right through the sociopaths and yet my colleagues do so a degree yet they forget...I do not forget. I stew over every wrong doing they do to me or other for three days (takes me that long to forgot tbh) yet I remember and I do not let people repeat wrongs.
Brace yourself its a long one......this is only like a few things I have a tonne more...they are at my work ALMOST EVERYDAY FOR THE LAST 4 MONTHS!
We have two regulars that I never met last year and yet I came in this year (without the authority) and met them. They are charming nice and very warm people, they made friends with me and my colleague as we took over the place to run better than before as per our bosses wish. So of course I had no reason to question things, in past they got discounts and special treatment and well I was new didn't want to rock the boat so I followed suit and had no authority.
Eventually I got the authority and yet I was already hooked in, slowly but surley I started to question the regulars...they say one thing but never mean it, they give you a rule book on how to treat them and its never right. They tell outlandish stories which others did not question yet I did, then the facts come. They helped me alot with my bike and getting into cycling so I could commute to work.
They told 6 stories about me and my colleague to a new guy covering for us. Yet those 6 stories were now combined into one...with all the name places and times mixed up completely. I kept correcting them "No that was not, that happened the month before...that happened before I was hired...that wasn't her....that wasn't him.....she never said that." they ignored me as I corrected them and said the correct names and places. All the while the new guy is confused.
So I am going "ok they have shit memories so do I, no real harm...except all the bad stuff in these stories were getting dumped on the past colleagues who were running the place...when in fact some of these bad things were me...and I admit these faults happened due to me. Yet all these good things are me and my colleague when half of them was not, they were the old co workers...." I tried to correct them yet when they did engage me they just blew me off and said I remembered wrong. The two fo them would swear by each other and go "Nah you have it wrong." so its two against one....telling me WHAT I DID AND DID NOT DO.
I am getting a strong vibe of sociopathy yet had not put a word to it at that time.
The time I realised they were getting very dangerous was when I was making them coffee and they asked to put it on their tab and they will pay tomorrow...my college at the time was part of the older crew and she was never comfortable doing such and voiced as so, I trusted her and I wasn't comfortable with it either yet apparently they owed from the day before. So I said "Sorry you have to settle from yesterday or its getting too messy. I honestly do not like doing it anyways." it was then one pulled a little card out to play almost instantly "Remember those cycling shorts, mind ye still owe us 10 for them...." she said snippily. I vaguely remember it and I had 10 in my back pocket rare, so I destroyed her card by going "Well here you go..." she was instantly happy thinking she had manipulated me (she did yet she did not make me feel guilty like she wanted too) I won in the game of "Shut up" yet lost in the game of manipulation. It paid for the drinks and things were calm for a while.
Another incident of danger was when I decided to open up and complain to her about the old manager of the place ( worked under them and I never agreed with their choices...and neither did the bosses...they agree with my choices and they fucking ecstatic with how the place is run this year anyways.) and how my old manager treated me strangely (I was studying hospitality had was making the exact same coffees on three diffrent kinds of machines at college, yet my manager banned me from making coffees...despite being more trained than the 16 year olds she would put on the machine..I was 26 at the time) the wife regular she just ignored that at attacked me instead as she was friendly with the old manager (WHO STILL PHONES UP AND TELL ME HOW TO DO THE JOB! The job of which I am doing waaay better than she was doing, She would always tell me how to do everything yet left 16 years olds with one instruction and that was it.)
Complained about the micromanagement to me alone and her reply was to ignore it an attack it me. Saying "Well I could have been your manager....." I just brushed her off and said "yeah......possible." then she followed with "Well your not so perfect yourself." I confused yet always receptive of criticism asked "Oh right sorry, what did I do wrong?" she them told a story that never happened...at least with myself. Supposedly when collecting the chairs outside, some kids were on them and with no parents around I shouted and pointed "MOVE!" my instant reaction was utter disbelief as this is not at all in my nature, I cannot do such a thing. I even have a hard time trying to verbally replicate it in an authentic manner as It is simply not in my nature or character. I let her get to me and just kept shouting out "noooo...naaahhh thats not me.....I cant. I wouldn't." she then got very angry saying "ARE YOU CALLING ME A LIAR!" and my reply was "I am saying you misremember, that was not me. I do not remember and I have never done anything similar... and thus...I never did it. Maybe you saw someone else and thought it was me." then we were just in silence as I cleaned up the place.
That kind of lies is very dangerous when it involves work and more so now as I keep standing up to them, I am on their black list and the people I call friends and colleague they keep trying to turn against me. They do not seem to be taking the bait to be honest yet I do knot they have not rejected the regulars in the same fashion as I...which why I am not the social pariah.
I mean when I am doing my job and they start saying to the friends "He is becoming an arse, acting like the manager, trying to brown nose his bosses."....I have this reputation with them because one day my boss phoned a closing "Hi so I will be coming down to visit tomorrow." which I think "ooooh shit...gotta make sure the place is perfect for her in the morning..." then she said "and my boss coming doing." so I have my boss and her boss to deal with and then she said "If you could reeeaaly make sure the place is clean and nice and orderly it would be great."
Funfact It was a busy day and honestly no fucker had cleaned some corners in months so I borrowed a steam cleaner and spent three extra hour doing extra cleaning after telling my colleague was free to leave once the regular cleaning was done, I called it quits and went home. It was my day off and I came down to wash the windows and do a few things I missed the night before. I did this so my colleagues would not have to do it or get bitched at by our boss, it was a super busy day and they physically could not do it for the amount of customers. My boss never came and neither did her boss, so it was all a wasted effort, naturally I was peeved and I got over it.
The regulars however called me a brown noser and suck up, trying to win points with the boss...I was trying to keep my job and have my colleagues keep theirs with no stress....also I work in a food environment...if you do not clean right Environmental health comes and kicks your ass....and your bosses and bosses boss and so on. Good cleaning is important, yet they could not understand this....I was doing it to be "nice" I was doing it for "no reward" they simply did not understand.
My boss never knows the good or the bad that happens, all they see is the figures and no one complains to us. So we are totally on our own we get no credit yet we also get no grief, so how the fuck am I supposed to be brown nosing people who I cant get them to see my nose up their ass?
Same thing happened last week, my college had to rush off to get a friend from the airport and I said "Nah you can go, I can survive by myself your friend needs help now." so I had to clean up by myself...yet we also had a secret dinner the regulars were not invited too as alot of us are sick of them and the last dinner with them was actualy kinda embarrassing and jesus fuck was it loud.
I am alone cleaning up a super busy day and taking my time, the regulars hang around all this time and I even said to cover my ass "I am doing a bit fo a deep clean." again I was doing this...and again ITS FUCKING HEALTH AND SAFETY!
This comes back to things the next day by the way the dinner was great without them.....next day the dinners plans wednesday (today) they texted my friend who set it up saying "Nah we are not going to dinner, Richard is trying to score points." they actualy brought my work ethic into social life, what I do for work to keep mines and others jobs....others are punished in a social setting. To be honest the dinner was their plan and no one has even thought about it untill this came up and since everyone who was going to their dinner went to the secret dinner, we were all on the same page of "Oh thank fuck for that."
So in a weird way I am a hero by saving us all the pain...yet they are getting worse and worse and soon enough they are going to cost me my job...EXACTLY LIKE THE LAST PERSON who was sort of Manager and not realy. Me and my friend/co worker we are both just sales assistants yet we both have the same responsibility to run the shop, the last person also was just sales assistant with that responsibility. The regulars got her fired, not because they wanted to because they treated the workplace like their own place, free coffee and other stuff and coming into the kitchen and just yeah....their customers (sadly I have let them in the kitchen aswell....well they got in and I didn't say anything, and I am not going to have to stop that as more non employees are coming into the kitchen and its just a fucking joke now, if the wrong people see such them fuuuuuck me I am going to get fucking hung and I will have a few extra bodies join me as Coworkers get strung up too.) so alot of stuff like that got the last person hassled by bosses and interrogated which led to her going off sick with stress and just horrible.
When I came into the job with my new responsibilities and authority my boss and the HR leader visited us and had a chat saying "Watch out about giving to much info to people, we had to investigate people down here for talking too much." this was a slight warning to us...followed with then telling us that the two regulars I currently have issue with sent an email knowing too much about the company....info only employees have. Right from the start I had my guard up...let them melt it and now I have it up and its never going down. I mean...I think I could actualy go to my boss and ban them....yet that's going to fucking ruin the social life and might be me as the bad guy.
Essentially because for four things they hate me, I am part of the authority, I reject them, I see through them, and I set them straight when they're wrong.
Everyone else may not follow yet they do let them walk over them and yet I am starting to get worried they are following or are in fear of them, I too was at one point and I keep warning people yet now I know all the red flags I am honestly scared and worried...not for me (well my job) I have dealt with people like this. Which is normally "Naaaah am fine." or "oh sorry cant help." "I have plans." "That? sorry I lost that a year ago..." "sorry can't loan you any money barely got any myself!" and giving them no emotional response and boring the shit out of them. Like I say I know the script, the problem is this is the first time I have other people I care about to worry about with them. I do warm them and now I have the proper word I shall be saying "SOOOOCIOPATHS! THEY ARE UTTER SOCIOPATHS!" yet never to the regulars.....fucking that's going to be an explosion of denial followed with them forgetting and us all remembering.
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