I feel you duder. I've been through a very similar break-up about a year ago. I'll try sharing what I learned.
I believe everyone should face break-ups heads-on. Don't run from it, but instead acknowledge it in every possible way (both factual and emotional); and then OWN IT. What I mean is: your objective should be to come out of this gruelling episode thinking "Damn, I'm much stronger then I thought I was", not "I'm miserable, I hate this b*tch for destroying my life". I use the word "objective" intentionally, 'caus you should really regard this as your new mission in life. A mission to become a better man, the best man you've ever been. Don't let this break-up go to waste, it's a great opportunity to re-invent yourself.
First of all stop contacting her. If she wanted to break up, agree with her decision and go ghost. She made her bed, let her sleep in it. If you initiated the ending, be a man of your word. Nothing good will come out of staying in contact with an ex. At least not yet. This is the first step in achieving some peace of mind. Finding it too hard to stay away from her? Considering burning all your past bridges. Seducing her best friend should do the trick.
Start working out. @kcin summed it up pretty nicely why you should really consider it.
Start chasing a dream. Take that one thing you're truely passionate about and start chasing it like a mad man. This thing should become your sole reason for existence. F*ck moderation. Haven't got a passion? Invent one. And no, "she is my dream" is not a valid answer.
It won't be easy friend. But we got your back.
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