@nick: I wasn't saying you were an asshole, and I wasn't saying you were dishonest. I have met a bunch of people calling themselves "honest"--usually with the word "brutally" for extra heft--and they tend to fall into that internet category you're describing. It's also quite common that when I point these things out they scoff, or otherwise play it down with fervor if not becoming outright defensive.
I was saying that attempting to be tactful usually yields the exact same results, with the added benefit of people not wanting to avoid you the next time.
It's not so much for now, as for when you call upon us later. Same thing when someone strongarms a business negotiation: nobody will deal with that person again, unless they are absolutely forced to.
I sincerely hope it isn't your modus operandi to people you meet.
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