@thatpinguino said:
@truthtellah: Yeah I haven't seen anyone put together an instruction guide for dealing with internet jerk tactics before in a proactive manner. Most of the armchair experts just give you the old, "don't feed the trolls" response, but I think we know that plan doesn't work on dedicated harassers. The I like that the stuff Crash Override has been espousing allows you to keep your life mostly normal.
That's quite true. Keeping things normal or working on returning to normal is not always particularly easy depending on the kind of harassment you're receiving. It's common for people to give cold advice with little regard for the emotional aspect of it. And while "don't feed the trolls" is common, that doesn't account for systemic harassment or intentional efforts to not just get a rise out of someone but to get them to shut up. Few of these people are only ever going to act against -you-. Almost always they treat others in a similar manner. So when you ignore it, you're just leaving them to hurt others.
No one has to feel obligated to fight back against harassment when they're facing it, but in the end, a lot of problems which fuel harassment don't go away by ignoring them. When who you are is enough to get prejudice and hounding, you can't simply stop being who you are. In the long term, acknowledging and standing up to it may be the only way anyone else will recognize it, as well, and hopefully, people can slowly improve things for you and others like you.
More people need to realize that, for many who face prejudice online and in person, they're doing the best they can to just keep things "normal". For those who see what is happening, you have the chance to actively work to improve things and call out the problems you see. Those who are hurt aren't necessarily going to have all the answers for fixing things even if they wish they did, but since it's what they've experienced, they can usually tell you what's wrong and encourage you to try to somehow figure out ways to help. Think for yourself and consider ways to make things better.
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