There's no reconciliation at this point. The Gamergate truthers are never going to stop being angry and the gaming press is never going to cop to the fact that there were some salient points brought up, because why should they? Once people start flinging boulders of shit at you, you're not going to bother to dig around and find the snowball of truth.
Most of all though, I think these past weeks have shown that video games are not the forum to talk about social ills. Neither the readers nor the press has shown that they can both have this conversation in any shape or form. I think game developers should still try to make the games they want to make, but please, let's stop pretending like games media is the platform to really talk about it. Everyone, from the readers and the writers, are full of shit.