I like how some people here are actually angry about people doing something nice for a fellow human being. Like, what?
Also, GB/the community raise money for charity every year. We raised over 100 grand last year in 2 days for extra life.
Seems like most of it is for kind of silly reasons, but to be fair it is really weird. It's one thing to give a buddy $50 because he got robbed or cover lunch or whatever. It's another to have the internet completely take care of something like this. I could understand people reaching out for a really serious loss. But the guy lost maybe $3000. I think it's a little uncomfortable for him to get that just magically taken care of because he's on the internet. I think things like that are what make fame such a potentially toxic thing. And I think that a lot of people believe that when you go through a hard time you should have to lift yourself up. Not just to prove that you can or that you're "worthy" but because it's what you should do.
I would gladly help a friend I knew who'd been robbed. But the fact is none of my buddies could get even a $3000 loss just taken care of unless it was because they were responsible with their property and insured it.
There's a balance between helping out your fellow man, your neighbor, your countryman, and just throwing money at someone because they are popular. If I see Dan this weekend at PAX, I'll give him a pat on the back, tell him I'm sorry and that shit sucks, and leave it at that. The fact is, he can take care of himself and I think it's reasonable to see money that unquestionably does not need to be given to the guy, no matter how great he is or how little he deserves it, and feel uncomfortable about it.
It doesn't help that, in theory, his job roughly resembles journalism.
Had the guy lost $30,000 or something, I could see trying to raise a few grand to help soften the blow. But $3000? That sucks to lose but I also know that Dan could have taken care of that on his own. Maybe it would have taken a bit longer but he wasn't hurting in a real serious way. His way of life was not threatened, and he's not going to have to sell his kidney just to keep his job or his place of residence.
And it's also fair to point out that almost all of what he lost was pretty unimportant. Other than the data on his phone and laptop, which money will not bring back, he just lost some devices that range from "nice luxuries to have" to "useful but not essential for work."
Had this been a "replace Dan's phone!" thing with the rest of the money going to Child's play, I would feel way more comfortable giving. But I don't think charity is the answer to someone losing their video game consoles.
I also don't like that people are so against the idea that the money could have been better spent. $2700 could do a lot of good for some sick kids. I believe that priorities are important, and I believe that a lot of people aren't helping to be helpful but just because they get to interact with fame in a novel way. Maybe that's cynical, but it's not exactly central to my feelings on the subject.
All of that said, while I feel it's a little uncomfortable, I think most people (on both sides) are over-reacting. And I don't blame the guy for accepting the money. He's in a shitty situation and if that brings him comfort and makes his life easier, it's totally sensible to accept what was willingly offered.
I just wish people would see there's more to life than internet stardom. There are as many people incensed that anyone is suggesting that money should be put to better use as there are people incensed that it's going to replace a grown ass man's video game consoles. It's easy to get caught up in these kinds of things and feel the need to help, but it would not hurt to redirect that desire to help someone in a more effective direction. Send Dan kind words, wish him a speedy financial and mental recovery, and send a few bucks to help dieing kids die a little less often.
It is very cool to see how supportive this community is, I just think it ended up being a little misguided and over-blown. Personally if I had suffered a loss of the same scale, I would not have accepted any help from anyone beyond someone helping to clean up if the thief managed to fuck up my place in any meaningful way.
I sorta just wish people would stop bickering about it though. I don't care what side you're on, it's not really something that warrants the kind of "conversations" I've seen on this thread and the other.
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