If she was in a happy relationship then no I wouldn't. But, if I knew the guy she was with treated her like shit, and that I had even a remote chance with her, then yes I would.
I reaaally wanted to pick the chocobo. I said no. The way I see it, I wouldn't want some guy trying to break up me and my girlfriend so I'm not going to do that. Unless it's Travis Strong....I hate that guy!
A bit of a toughie. I'd need more context here but my gut instincts would be to leave that be. Now technically, male thinking says that all girls are fair game, whether dating, engaged or married. However, gentleman's code states that you don't break up a relationship if the girl's with someone. You wouldn't want that to happen to you, would you?
Why? She has a boyfriend. And it's funny to assume she would break up with her current boyfriend because some guy said he likes her. All you're going to do is look like a lonely nerd.
You know your wasting your time because no one is going to break up just for you. Also you will seem like your desperate and stuff and she will say she can't. You could hint at it until she cheats on him, that's the best you can hope for.
God more of this. Seriously what does this generation do 20 years ago? Lay in the fetal position in the corner. if you can't even manage simple choices like this you can't expect to sustain a relationship.
" D. It depends. If she was in a happy relationship then no I wouldn't. But, if I knew the guy she was with treated her like shit, and that I had even a remote chance with her, then yes I would. "
Shouldn't this kind of decision only be made considering circumstances? I mean, if she's happy with her bf, and not interested in you, why would you want to set yourself up for rejection? If she's miserable with her bf and hes a complete ass, confides in you and sees you as a good friend and has indicated she likes you in some way then maybe you could, but either way, you have to be ready for rejection.
" Shouldn't this kind of decision only be made considering circumstances? I mean, if she's happy with her bf, and not interested in you, why would you want to set yourself up for rejection? If she's miserable with her bf and hes a complete ass, confides in you and sees you as a good friend and has indicated she likes you in some way then maybe you could, but either way, you have to be ready for rejection. "
Well yeah I understand being ready for rejection either way.
But could you live with the regret of not knowing what would happen?
Interesting question considering I was actually in this exact situation a good few years back. I ended up telling her, but not as an act of thinking she'd break up with him to get together with me, but rather because I needed to do it to get over her.
" Interesting question considering I was actually in this exact situation a good few years back. I ended up telling her, but not as an act of thinking she'd break up with him to get together with me, but rather because I needed to do it to get over her. "
@RJay_64: If I believed she had feelings for me too and we had a strong enough friendship to know we weren't going to be going our separate ways any time soon, sure could hold out awhile without feeling regret. You're the only one who knows the situation though, so the replies you are getting can't be based on much really.
" Interesting question considering I was actually in this exact situation a good few years back. I ended up telling her, but not as an act of thinking she'd break up with him to get together with me, but rather because I needed to do it to get over her. "
Did you get over her? "
Yep. That was about 5 years ago. I've been in a relationship for the last 3 years.
Dude you need to nut up and grow a pair...If you want to be in a relationship with that women you got to go for it unless she's dating one of your good friends, you got to remember BROS before HOS
No because I doubt you really understand the dynamics of their relationship and would you want someone moving in on your girl just because you're having a rough patch. I've had this happen to me and all it did was put more stress on my relationship and in the end, she isn't with me or the douchebag who made the move. No one wins
" Interesting question considering I was actually in this exact situation a good few years back. I ended up telling her, but not as an act of thinking she'd break up with him to get together with me, but rather because I needed to do it to get over her. "
Like that scene in 'Love, Actually', that romantic comedy that I totally didn't watch...because I'm a man and spend my time making fire and eating meat.
" No because I doubt you really understand the dynamics of their relationship and would you want someone moving in on your girl just because you're having a rough patch. I've had this happen to me and all it did was put more stress on my relationship and in the end, she isn't with me or the douchebag who made the move. No one wins "
Well I never said it had be because the relationship was in a hard patch. I think if 2 people really wanted to stay in a relationship though, nothing would stop them, a 3rd person shouldn't be able to break that.
No I wouldn't want someone "moving in on my girl" but...that's why I put the "every man for himself" reasoning in the poll.
" D. It depends. If she was in a happy relationship then no I wouldn't. But, if I knew the guy she was with treated her like shit, and that I had even a remote chance with her, then yes I would. "
" God more of this. Seriously what does this generation do 20 years ago? Lay in the fetal position in the corner. if you can't even manage simple choices like this you can't expect to sustain a relationship. "
I pick C because Chocobos are way awesome, even though I have a real answer.
A close friend of mine gets tons of love admittances from her guy friends, but she has a boyfriend and they know it. So she rejects them all and then they are almost always not friends anymore.
Don't be retarded, just because a girl is being friendly towards you doesn't mean she likes you, especially if she has a boyfriend. A lot of girls (and guys) flirt a lot more when they are dating because there are less or no consequences to it.
So if you are going to tell a girl who is in a happy relationship your feelings for her, you should really think about what the consequences will be. At best she will say 'I like you too, but I also like my boyfriend, so lets just be friends', which is actually just a soft rejection. Or at worst she says 'i have a boyfriend, I was just being nice to you, I don't like you in that way', which is 9 times out of 10, a friendship ruiner.
If she is dating someone, its not like someone else is gonna steal her from you or something, so just stay friends, and if she becomes single, maybe thats your chance. If she likes you too, chances are things will work out, and if not, at least you didn't lose a friend?
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