II don't really have any friends, and I'm having issues making some. See, when I first meet someone or get to know a group of people, they assume that I have friends because I act like it or outright lie to them (because it pains me too badly to tell the truth about something so embarrassing). So, like, at work they think I have school friends and don't pursue me past that point because they think I hang out with school people, and vice versa at school. I mean, my phone contact list is empty, I don't have a Facebook or anything like that, and all my online friends lists are full of people I meet virtually. What can I do to get out of this? Should I add a "I'M LONELY BE MY FRIEND" to my handshake when I first meet someone? I just strive to be normal and confident, so I act like it, and it works so well that everyone assumes I am. I wish I could start at square one...
How old are you? I ask because it makes a big difference how you meet people.
Personally so far I've been lucky in that all my friends sort of imposed their friendship on to me as opposed to vice versa. People showed up at my door as a kid until I was their friend. Helped that I had a lot of game systems and action figures as a teen I guess.
My best advice to you is to do what my friends did to me. Ask them if they want to hang out after school, but at least get to know the people a little in school, hang around and talk to them, don't just impose that on a total stranger. Most of my friendship attaining happened in grade school, FYI.
That being said, to the OP: you just got to stick your neck out there a bit and not be afraid to invite someone to do something. Not sure what that would be, as it really varies by age but the same principal. If you stick yourself out there showing that you would be interested in maybe starting a friendship, people will give it a try.
Listen to this guy said, and you'll have friends."
Not really. This doesn't exactly have a 100% success rate as the odds of finding someone you can be purely yourself with is slim to none so instead, make compromises. Be some of yourself and be some of what others want you to be. That being said, why am I giving legitimate advice in an MC_Izawa thread?
Why are you guys such jerks all of a sudden? Seriously, I though Giant Bomb was a community of mature people but some of the posts in here are just sad.
Anyway, I've been in that situation before, and all I can say is to just be yourself.
"Why are you guys such jerks all of a sudden? Seriously, I though Giant Bomb was a community of mature people but some of the posts in here are just sad.Anyway, I've been in that situation before, and all I can say is to just be yourself."
Yeah and if people don't like you for you well than there not the kind of people you want as friends.
Anyways, when I moved to a different part of the country and knew no one. I was 16 then and just finished school so it wasn't like I could meet people during school and hang out afterwards. What I done was go down the local skatepark and just hang out there and I met quite a lot of duders that I now hang out with still.
If you dont hang with people at primary school where nobody knows anyone (dunno what its called in US), any groups you join you'll be an 'outsider', not an original friend...
Luckily im an insider :p
At uni (collage?) its a new start, so reinvent yourself!
Listen to this guy said, and you'll have friends."
Not really. This doesn't exactly have a 100% success rate as the odds of finding someone you can be purely yourself with is slim to none so instead, make compromises. Be some of yourself and be some of what others want you to be. That being said, why am I giving legitimate advice in an MC_Izawa thread?"
Nothing is a 100% percent success in life, because there are always obstacles and problems that you come across.
I want to be accepted for who I am, not what others want me to be. People start to control you when it gets to the point of what others want you to be. I care for people, but when it gets to the point to where I can't be myself, there is a problem.
"Why are you guys such jerks all of a sudden? Seriously, I though Giant Bomb was a community of mature people but some of the posts in here are just sad.Anyway, I've been in that situation before, and all I can say is to just be yourself."
Hm, say I was a racist, homophobic, Jew hating, wife beating, pedophile who luuuurrrved to fap over CP. You're telling me to be myself, and I'll be accepted? Awesome! :D
"Why are you guys such jerks all of a sudden? Seriously, I though Giant Bomb was a community of mature people but some of the posts in here are just sad.Anyway, I've been in that situation before, and all I can say is to just be yourself."
Hm, say I was a racist, homophobic, Jew hating, wife beating, pedophile who luuuurrrved to fap over CP. You're telling me to be myself, and I'll be accepted? Awesome! :D
brb making friends...
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Congratulations on blowing my statement completely out of proportion and achieving nothing in the process.
"Why are you guys such jerks all of a sudden? Seriously, I though Giant Bomb was a community of mature people but some of the posts in here are just sad.Anyway, I've been in that situation before, and all I can say is to just be yourself."
Hm, say I was a racist, homophobic, Jew hating, wife beating, pedophile who luuuurrrved to fap over CP. You're telling me to be myself, and I'll be accepted? Awesome! :D
brb making friends...
"
Congratulations on blowing my statement completely out of proportion and achieving nothing in the process."
No, he does have a point. Not everyone is a good person and I'd be willing to bet everyone has something that they think/believe/do that wouldn't be accepted by a majority of people.
"Why are you guys such jerks all of a sudden? Seriously, I though Giant Bomb was a community of mature people but some of the posts in here are just sad.Anyway, I've been in that situation before, and all I can say is to just be yourself."
Hm, say I was a racist, homophobic, Jew hating, wife beating, pedophile who luuuurrrved to fap over CP. You're telling me to be myself, and I'll be accepted? Awesome! :D
brb making friends...
"
Congratulations on blowing my statement completely out of proportion and achieving nothing in the process."
No, he does have a point. Not everyone is a good person and I'd be willing to bet everyone has something that they think/believe/do that wouldn't be accepted by a majority of people."
"Why are you guys such jerks all of a sudden? Seriously, I though Giant Bomb was a community of mature people but some of the posts in here are just sad.Anyway, I've been in that situation before, and all I can say is to just be yourself."
Hm, say I was a racist, homophobic, Jew hating, wife beating, pedophile who luuuurrrved to fap over CP. You're telling me to be myself, and I'll be accepted? Awesome! :D
brb making friends...
"
Congratulations on blowing my statement completely out of proportion and achieving nothing in the process."
No, he does have a point. Not everyone is a good person and I'd be willing to bet everyone has something that they think/believe/do that wouldn't be accepted by a majority of people."
I have tried to "be myself" with several ex's in the past. They pretty much all ended with either a hard slap to the face or a swift kick in the pants... either way with me being at the receiving end.
I have the same problem but I dont dont go to school and Im looking for work right now. How do I make friends when I dont have work or school? Im 25 if you were wondering and shy at first that what makes it a bit hard for me to make friends.
Not really. This doesn't exactly have a 100% success rate as the odds of finding someone you can be purely yourself with is slim to none so instead, make compromises. Be some of yourself and be some of what others want you to be. That being said, why am I giving legitimate advice in an MC_Izawa thread?"
Yeah, wait until you can trust said friend before you start acting totally like yourself.
Ask them to do something, you could just say at work is anyone going out, if they say they're going the movies or something even if you dont want to see the film just say you do and see if they invite you along. Sitting through a film you hate might open up into making friends so it's not all that bad, that applies to other things aswell if they're just going somewhere just imply you'd like to do that that way you don't seem needy and like you're forcing yourself on them but like you're interested and want to do something.
Incase I never explained that: Person A (You): hey you guys up to much this weekend? Person B (Them): Going to see X-men. Person A: hey that's look good, want to see that myself but none of my friends do. *Hope person B asks*
You could also just ask if anyone wants to go with you because your friends think it'll be crap, I know that's lying again but it's for an means to a good end so it's not all bad.
I have a similar problem but I'm out of school and at the age where friend finding is difficult. Perhaps if you had a hobby, you could meet people with the same interests.
That sucks, I kinda know what that is like.I don't have a lot of friends, let alone any friends that I socialize outside of work.This has kinda been an issue for me since my best friend died on me a couple of years ago.
I'm disturbed by the amount of 4chan memes in this thread. That shit is so juvenile and annoying. Go post in gametrailers if you want to post that tripe.
Life is hard...there's not much more to say. The main piece of advice I'll give you is to never compromise on being yourself. Don't change just to please other people because if you do you'll never be truly happy. I'm not saying don't change at all though. There are always things we can do to improve ourselves, but always remember to be yourself.
Hmm...I guess you could like join a play, organize a talent show, something that forces you to work with some peeps to connect with, know what I mean? My advice would be to figure out your own talents and say it were music, start a band... know what I mean?
FrenchFriedFool said:
"Cool story bro.
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unfortuntately, the /b/tard in me laughed when i saw this :P
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