" @Rockdalf: your not funny, I was just being sarcastic. I can disarm knives and guns btw, I take krav maga, I'm not joking. Who do you think you are talking back to me you little shit. You probally think your clever or something and not some generic bottlefeeder. That's why I hate replying back to bottomfeeders with less than a thousand post. "Oh HitmanAgent47. What will we ever do with you?
I've never had a friend.
This topic is locked from further discussion.
" @Wrighteous86: For the op, he of course comes as one who'd benefit from having friends because he's wondering if he'd be better off with some. For my forum activity, I do very much enjoy reading other peoples opinions on various topics, interacting with them, stating my own... however, it's not the same thing as real life interaction. Here, people can't directly judge me on my physique or whatever. Here, the only way I'm represented is by my avatar and these words. You can't hear my voice, see me or anything. I don't need to constantly go through ridicule or insults, here, because of that. Yes, one of the reasons I avoid others is because I'm afraid of making myself vulnerable to another human being. Maybe I'd like to form some kind of relationship with someone who shared the same tastes as I do, but I know that's impossible. Everyone's an asshole; I don't need them. "So you admit that you want friends, but you can't or won't make them, and that people judge you. A friend wouldn't judge you. Therefore, you admit that having a friend is better than not. I'm sorry for the situation you're in, and it sucks. I wish you had friends that could help you through it. I'm sure there are people out there that would be willing to if they got to know you. It's a hard and scary thing for some people to make friends, I get that. But denying that it would improve your life at all probably isn't the best way to go about things. Hang in there buddy, I enjoyed this little debate with you. Nothing's impossible, sometimes it just takes a lot of hard work, or brave leaps of faith. I hope you're truly happy where you are, but if you're not...do what it takes to make sure you are. You're worth it.
For the record, I'm usually not this cheesy and sentimental, you guys just caught me in an off day. I have learned to appreciate the great friends I have though, so thanks for that.
" @HitmanAgent47 said:DUDE HE'S NOT JOKING" @Rockdalf: your not funny, I was just being sarcastic. I can disarm knives and guns btw, I take krav maga, I'm not joking. Who do you think you are talking back to me you little shit. You probally think your clever or something and not some generic bottlefeeder. That's why I hate replying back to bottomfeeders with less than a thousand post. "Oh HitmanAgent47. What will we ever do with you? "
My friends are nothing but a bother to me. They're all morons, and I have nothing in common with them, yet they still talk like "duuuude we need to hang out sometime" and never follow through.
I've heard so much talk about how great a "true" friend is, but I've never had one. As it stands, I could get along just fine without any of my friends.
" Am I missing out? "You already know the answer to this damn question. Of course you're missing out, you wouldn't be wondering if you weren't (hopefully that makes sense). Now look, I have no idea of your age range, nor am I the most popular dude in my highschool, but even one friend is enough.
Who are you gonna share all the memories of the stuff your parents/gaurdians don't want you to? What do you do on the weekends? You can't just sit on this site or play video games all the time. We all need to experience whats out there. Leave your hometown with a friend, get a girl/boyfriend, do something! If you're in college or at least 17, its time you went to a party, a real one, even if you aren't gonna drink.
Trust me, I know this mentality, it used to be me. You watch anime, you hang out with the few kids who do the same shit you do when you get home, and you think everyone out there is a prick or douchebag. It's not true, a lot of people aren't as obsessed with nerdom as you or I may be, but that's something socially acceptable these days.
Example: I don't brag that I've spent 10s of thousands of dollars on video games, I can make fun of myself for it though, because to them its funny. Go get friends.
Geez a lot of these reactions are fucking sad. Make some friends man, someone to empathize with and share experiences with.
People telling you it's okay to be alone; are they happy? I doubt it.
The guy saying trust no one - not everyone rolled with a gang, some of us have experienced love and friendship and not just the pack mentality.
You've never had a friend in your entire life?!?! That's pretty sad, you have no idea on how much you're missing out on. Plus your lack of social skills are going to hurt you in the long run, especially when you hit adult-hood. Also all the people that are being pessimistic and encouraging your lack of friends are just bitter, pathetic, sociopaths.
Everyone needs at least one trustworthy friend, no exceptions.
Seeing how this thread has evolved, maybe it is time to just leave it here. The opening post is something that we have no good answer for,
at least not without a LOT of disagreement.
I think that this is something that goes quite deep for some, hurts even as i reed some comments.
so why just not drop it? Because on the internet arguments are never settled they just go on and on....
Not everyone wants friends. It's ok, sort of. As long as you don't completely close yourself off from other people.
" @JB16: Some people like being alone though. Not everyone wants friends. It's ok, sort of. As long as you don't completely close yourself off from other people. "Yeah, lots of people like to be alone. But it's way better to have at least someone. I love being alone, and I am a lot of the time, but I still have a good group of friends that I know I can turn to if I get bored. Having no friends means having less choices of what to do, which is sad. I don't want to tell people how to live their life, but there's no bad side to having friends.
Giant Bomb, I am disappoint. I'm not sure what's worse about this thread; Hitman saying everyone with less than a thousand posts is an idiot, people in the thread warring with each other, or the people telling the OP he's a backwards retard.
To the OP I'd say as long as the way you live doesn't damage anybody else's quality of life you can do whatever you want, if you like being alone that's fine, however, I believe you're missing out from not having friends around. I wouldn't say I'm a social person and I'm very introverted, I often enjoy being alone, but I still have friends. Yes, it's true that even the people closest to you can stab you in the back but I've found even if you're a very reserved person having friends can be very fun, very fulfilling, and often help keep you from going completely insane. Don't be fooled into thinking that having friends is about going out and getting drunk or "hanging out with your bros, yo", it's just about finding some like-minded people that you can enjoy life with in whatever way you like to. It doesn't matter if you're socially outgoing, very awkward, nerdy, a jock, smart, dumb, good-looking, not so good-looking, or whatever, whoever you are there will be people out there who you can likely enjoy life with.
If you've never had a friend before it will be hard stepping out of your comfort zone but just get out there and be yourself. All great adventures in life will put you outside of your comfort zone, but you only live once. The best case scenario is that you'll find some friends and it'll change your life, the worst case scenario is that you'll have learned something major about yourself and you can you were brave enough to make the steps you did.
" Giant Bomb, I am disappoint. I'm not sure what's worse about this thread; Hitman saying everyone with less than a thousand posts is an idiot, people in the thread warring with each other, or the people telling the OP he's a backwards retard. To the OP I'd say as long as the way you live doesn't damage anybody else's quality of life you can do whatever you want, if you like being alone that's fine, however, I believe you're missing out from not having friends around. I wouldn't say I'm a social person and I'm very introverted, I often enjoy being alone, but I still have friends. Yes, it's true that even the people closest to you can stab you in the back but I've found even if you're a very reserved person having friends can be very fun, very fulfilling, and often help keep you from going completely insane. Don't be fooled into thinking that having friends is about going out and getting drunk or "hanging out with your bros, yo", it's just about finding some like-minded people that you can enjoy life with in whatever way you like to. It doesn't matter if you're socially outgoing, very awkward, nerdy, a jock, smart, dumb, good-looking, not so good-looking, or whatever, whoever you are there will be people out there who you can likely enjoy life with. If you've never had a friend before it will be hard stepping out of your comfort zone but just get out there and be yourself. All great adventures in life will put you outside of your comfort zone, but you only live once. The best case scenario is that you'll find some friends and it'll change your life, the worst case scenario is that you'll have learned something major about yourself and you can you were brave enough to make the steps you did. "/thread
Please, /thread.
" I was really popular in high school and college, and still have the same large group of close friends I've had all my life. I'm good at meeting new people, but have trouble balancing so many people with demands on my time."I find my self in a similar situation. I have friends, but it not really a group like I used to have in highschool. My friends are spread out socially so I find it difficult balancing those people with school as well as finding time for video games, but its still
cool to hang out with people
Threads like these make me wonder if the growth of internet 'culture' such as message boards, virtual communities of all types, online gaming, etc. have started to colonise people's lives to the point where they never get outside enough to learn social skills and develop friendships. If you're in school or university then this is where most long-lasting friendships will be made, you really ought to make an effort to find like-minded people. Even if they're only people you'd play games with once in a while or something.
Some people prefer fewer and deeper friendships and that's fine, but to have no friends is far from ideal for your development. Put yourself out there more and best of luck.
In all seriousness though... One of the most precious things on this earth is human interaction, especially with those who share the same interests that you do. Don't be cynical and put yourself on guard because you MIGHT get hurt. Be smart about the people who you choose to interact with and if you find someone who you do connect with, open yourself to them a little. Every relationship is unique and the resulting emotions from friendship cannot be replicated anywhere. Life is short dude, try your hardest to experience every unique and beautiful thing that we humans have the privilege to comprehend.
" Threads like these make me wonder if the growth of internet 'culture' such as message boards, virtual communities of all types, online gaming, etc. have started to colonise people's lives to the point where they never get outside enough to learn social skills and develop friendships. If you're in school or university then this is where most long-lasting friendships will be made, you really ought to make an effort to find like-minded people. Even if they're only people you'd play games with once in a while or something.Some of the great letters of history are from people separated because of time and space. Friendships lasted through words written... is the internet not a letter written in real time?
Some people prefer fewer and deeper friendships and that's fine, but to have no friends is far from ideal for your development. Put yourself out there more and best of luck. "
Edit: I'm presuming that the thread creator is young and wondering about his social situation. If they're older than my advice would differ significantly.
" @Claude: Very well said and I agree with you Claude. I think the internet is valid means of communication and one can certainly form friendships through it, but I really think that it's limiting one's ability to negotiate real-world challenges and social settings that are more demanding than one finds on the internet typically. I wouldn't want to put down the internet but it should be balanced by RL friendships and activities. "Balance in life goes a long way that's for sure. At least I don't type LOL, LMAO or some shit, oh god, just shoot me if I do.
" Go to a party and get stoned out of your mind. Guarantee somebody will want to be your friend after you do something so stupid that everybody dies laughing. "That's how I made half of my college friends.
" @owl_of_minerva said:" @Claude: Very well said and I agree with you Claude. I think the internet is valid means of communication and one can certainly form friendships through it, but I really think that it's limiting one's ability to negotiate real-world challenges and social settings that are more demanding than one finds on the internet typically. I wouldn't want to put down the internet but it should be balanced by RL friendships and activities. "Balance in life goes a long way that's for sure. At least I don't type LOL, LMAO or some shit, oh god, just shoot me if I do. "
Ya just did. Can i shoot ya now?
As for friends, everyone i've met has either been a total asshole, or is just lazy and doesn't ever want to do anything. Or they're always totally drunk and make me want to just smack them across the head everytime they say something.
" Am I missing out? "That depends on the type of person you are. I am a bit of a loner and like to spend a lot of time alone, but I still have friends. I had a friend that I knew in high school over last night. We hung out and played games and stuff, and it was fun, but I only enjoy doing that every now and then. The fact that you post on a forum tells me that you enjoy some interaction with other people, therefore you would probably enjoy having a friend.
@Rockdalf: your not funny, I was just being sarcastic. I can disarm knives and guns btw, I take krav maga, I'm not joking. Who do you think you are talking back to me you little shit. You probally think your clever or something and not some generic bottlefeeder. That's why I hate replying back to bottomfeeders with less than a thousand post.Wait, wait. You use post count to measure people's worth? Consider that for a moment.
Also, why can't I flag posts on the mobile site?
As for the TC, if what you're saying is true then all you really need to do is learn to be happy on your own and friends will find you.
Yes you're missing out. Go socialize, make a friend. It's good to have a couple really good friends.
You're not alone, man. I don't have many "friends" either.
I can't even remember that last time I've been in a social situation with someone other than my family. It's depressing, really. I remember back in high school when I would socialize with people all of the time. I wish I could get that back. :(
I don't remember where this quote is from but I take it to heart. "A friend is just an enemy in disguise." That is all a friend is.
The amount of posts someone has does not matter. What matters is the quality of the post. If you don't like a post that is fine but don't insult the person who wrote it. People with less than a thousand posts are not bottom-feeders." @Rockdalf: your not funny, I was just being sarcastic. I can disarm knives and guns btw, I take krav maga, I'm not joking. Who do you think you are talking back to me you little shit. You probally think your clever or something and not some generic bottlefeeder. That's why I hate replying back to bottomfeeders with less than a thousand post. "
Ironic even Nietzche had friends , albeit for a time ....
Friend or not friends? I thinks is one of the biggest tragedies of human existence ,
A.- You feel like shit if you dont have at least some sort of human interaction whatever the medium
B.- Have too much good faith in other people and you will end up hurt
I too dont have any proper friend ( people who arent family members ) and it sucks a lot , because sometimes theres stuff I want to talk about but I dont like sharing with my family ... also when it comes to creating stuff you rarely get an honest opinion (in a good way) , awwww FUCK cant write what im thinking , so anyway OP you should seek people out , but dont trust blindly , and sometimes you only need to be just a nice person to others and just talk with someone from time to time , it doesn't hurts to
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