One of my closest friends is gay. I've known him since we were like 7 years old, and coming out was incredibly difficult for him. The day he told me he was so nervous. We'd been hanging out all day and he'd told me he had something he wanted to tell me. I'd guessed what it was - he was always very camp and I'd had a good idea that he was probably gay for a while. But I didn't say anything, I knew he had to do it in his own time. He ended up writing it down on a piece of paper, passing it to me, and he sat on the edge of his bed with his head in his hands feeling sorry for himself. I took a slight glance at the paper to confirm what I already knew and just said "I know. And it's fine". Then he said in the most camp voice I've ever heard come from him "Aw, come here, give me a hug". Then we drank a lot of gin. Well, not that much, but we were like 15 or 16, it was a lot for us.
Everyone else he told were super supportive too. I can't guarantee it'll be the same for you. But I can guarantee that anyone who truly cares about you will accept you for who you are and will want you to go and live life to its full potential, even if that involves a lifestyle they don't fully understand or agree with.
All the best man, I hope it worked out for you. :)
You are who you are, and trying to hide that is always painful so let it out and since they are your parents, they should understand. If they have any reaction to it, I'm sure it will only be temporary and with time they will come to understand, because I mean it's not like you are a different person than the one they cared and loved for all this time.
It might be hard or awkward for awhile, but you have to do it sometime for your own sake, and months or years down the line you'll be happy you did it. Just have the courage to plough through it.
cant give you any advise since i have no experience with anything of that kind but all i have to say is that i think its great and im happy for you good luck with that and everything
This is pretty likely, I know a couple of gay people, and all of them was bloody nervous when they decided to tell their family. And all of them experienced the same, that their parents told them that they kinda had figured it out already.
This is pretty likely, I know a couple of gay people, and all of them was bloody nervous when they decided to tell their family. And all of them experienced the same, that their parents told them that they kinda had figured it out already.
But good luck to you anyway.
Probably right, I'm pretty sure my parents think I'm gay even though I'm not, so i can imagine it would be pretty easy for a parent to know when their son is actually gay.
Just wanted to add my support. I love the community here. Glad everyone has been so supportive and good luck with your dad. Sounds like your mom didn't take it too badly so I guess you are over the first hurdle. I'm sure it must be incredibly hard, but I hope everyone is supportive and you can find love in life. Really it's a great time for the LGBT community with Obama president. Just hope we don't get any right wing nuts in office any time soon and you should be good.
One of my closest friends is gay. I've known him since we were like 7 years old, and coming out was incredibly difficult for him. The day he told me he was so nervous. We'd been hanging out all day and he'd told me he had something he wanted to tell me. I'd guessed what it was - he was always very camp and I'd had a good idea that he was probably gay for a while. But I didn't say anything, I knew he had to do it in his own time. He ended up writing it down on a piece of paper, passing it to me, and he sat on the edge of his bed with his head in his hands feeling sorry for himself. I took a slight glance at the paper to confirm what I already knew and just said "I know. And it's fine". Then he said in the most camp voice I've ever heard come from him "Aw, come here, give me a hug". Then we drank a lot of gin. Well, not that much, but we were like 15 or 16, it was a lot for us.
Everyone else he told were super supportive too. I can't guarantee it'll be the same for you. But I can guarantee that anyone who truly cares about you will accept you for who you are and will want you to go and live life to its full potential, even if that involves a lifestyle they don't fully understand or agree with.
Touching story, but it sucks that you can't talk about pussy with him anymore. Half the fun of being with friends is unanimously admiring big firm breasts.
One of my closest friends is gay. I've known him since we were like 7 years old, and coming out was incredibly difficult for him. The day he told me he was so nervous. We'd been hanging out all day and he'd told me he had something he wanted to tell me. I'd guessed what it was - he was always very camp and I'd had a good idea that he was probably gay for a while. But I didn't say anything, I knew he had to do it in his own time. He ended up writing it down on a piece of paper, passing it to me, and he sat on the edge of his bed with his head in his hands feeling sorry for himself. I took a slight glance at the paper to confirm what I already knew and just said "I know. And it's fine". Then he said in the most camp voice I've ever heard come from him "Aw, come here, give me a hug". Then we drank a lot of gin. Well, not that much, but we were like 15 or 16, it was a lot for us.
Everyone else he told were super supportive too. I can't guarantee it'll be the same for you. But I can guarantee that anyone who truly cares about you will accept you for who you are and will want you to go and live life to its full potential, even if that involves a lifestyle they don't fully understand or agree with.
Touching story, but it sucks that you can't talk about pussy with him anymore. Half the fun of being with friends is unanimously admiring big firm breasts.
In my experience, gay guys like breasts just fine. They just don't want to put their dirty between them pervert.
Anyway... Congrats on it going all right with your mom. Hope it goes just as well with your dad. (Is it possible that your mom might be stalling so she can prep your dad on how to react before you lay it on him, and therefore is being awesome? (i think that would be awesome anyway) where's that alien conspiracy guys picture when I need it, damnit.)
Turn on "Dancing Queen," sashay out to the living room where your parents are sitting, do a flamboyant snap of your fingers, and say, "hellooooooooo mommy and daddy!"
Great. It won't change who you are or your happiness or contentment. Gay or straight, we are all just duders tryin to make our way through the universe.
One of my closest friends is gay. I've known him since we were like 7 years old, and coming out was incredibly difficult for him. The day he told me he was so nervous. We'd been hanging out all day and he'd told me he had something he wanted to tell me. I'd guessed what it was - he was always very camp and I'd had a good idea that he was probably gay for a while. But I didn't say anything, I knew he had to do it in his own time. He ended up writing it down on a piece of paper, passing it to me, and he sat on the edge of his bed with his head in his hands feeling sorry for himself. I took a slight glance at the paper to confirm what I already knew and just said "I know. And it's fine". Then he said in the most camp voice I've ever heard come from him "Aw, come here, give me a hug". Then we drank a lot of gin. Well, not that much, but we were like 15 or 16, it was a lot for us.
Everyone else he told were super supportive too. I can't guarantee it'll be the same for you. But I can guarantee that anyone who truly cares about you will accept you for who you are and will want you to go and live life to its full potential, even if that involves a lifestyle they don't fully understand or agree with.
Touching story, but it sucks that you can't talk about pussy with him anymore. Half the fun of being with friends is unanimously admiring big firm breasts.
In my experience, gay guys like breasts just fine. They just don't want to you their dirty between them pervert.
Anyway... Congrats on it going all right with your mom. Hope it goes just as well with your dad. (Is it possible that your mom might be stalling so she can prep your dad on how to react before you lay it on him, and therefore is being awesome? (i think that would be awesome anyway) where's that alien conspiracy guys picture when I need it, damnit.)
i lol'd
edit: I can mention that I have a friend that came out to me. The only other person he had told was his mother. I was proud that he dared to do so, and I'm pretty sure your friends will be too.
I came out to my parents about being an atheist about 2 years ago. It was hard (and I was outed by a friend on accident no less) but it was a great feeling once it happened. A huge weight was lifted from my shoulders. I wish you luck and I think you'll do just fine.
I take it your parents are fairly religious?
A bit, yes. But they were very understanding and we did have a long conversation on why I felt the way I did. They didn't shun me or try and disown me or anything. Their reaction was a lot worse in head than it was in actual reality.
One of my closest friends is gay. I've known him since we were like 7 years old, and coming out was incredibly difficult for him. The day he told me he was so nervous. We'd been hanging out all day and he'd told me he had something he wanted to tell me. I'd guessed what it was - he was always very camp and I'd had a good idea that he was probably gay for a while. But I didn't say anything, I knew he had to do it in his own time. He ended up writing it down on a piece of paper, passing it to me, and he sat on the edge of his bed with his head in his hands feeling sorry for himself. I took a slight glance at the paper to confirm what I already knew and just said "I know. And it's fine". Then he said in the most camp voice I've ever heard come from him "Aw, come here, give me a hug". Then we drank a lot of gin. Well, not that much, but we were like 15 or 16, it was a lot for us.
Everyone else he told were super supportive too. I can't guarantee it'll be the same for you. But I can guarantee that anyone who truly cares about you will accept you for who you are and will want you to go and live life to its full potential, even if that involves a lifestyle they don't fully understand or agree with.
Touching story, but it sucks that you can't talk about pussy with him anymore. Half the fun of being with friends is unanimously admiring big firm breasts.
You know, I can think of several occasions when I'd be hanging out with him and I'd comment on the attractiveness of a lady followed by realizing my audience and saying something like "But I'm the only person in the room that appreciates that". But either way, his sexuality made no difference to our relationship at all. He's an amazing friend, regardless of where he wants to put his dick. I've even been to gay bars with him, and it's always been a good laugh.
Alright. So my dad just sent me an email saying that he wants to have dinner today, just me and him. Assuming this isn't about something entirely unrelated, today could be the day that I come out completely. I've been holding off on telling my friends and whatnot on Facebook until my family knew first.
I know people who are openly homosexual, but I have never really talked to them about the experience of "coming out" - I guess it's different where you are in the world, and attitudes are more relaxed in major cities like mine.
Regardless, it's a brave and beautiful thing. It's always important for people to be comfortable about who they are, and for people around them to love and understand them. I wish you nothing but the best in this matter.
Coming to this late, but I want to wish you the best of luck. I'm sure it will (or does) fell great to finally not have to hide it. You have my support, duder!
I think it's odd how this site repeatedly ostracizes people who talk about how they are depressed, lonely, in need of girl advice, having suicidal thoughts, etc, but without fail always makes coming out of the closet a top issue.
No disrespect and I wish you luck, just something I had on my mind.
Another tree hugging bastard trying to make relationships all about love and admiration and adoration and partnership and all that welfare healthcare Marxist junk! God didn't make Adam & Steve, He made Adam & Eve & Adam's secretary & Adam's Craigslist hooker & Adam's daughter's field hockey teammates' photographs that Adam wanks off on top of and takes his own picture of the results and posts them on an underground reddit subforum- also made by God.
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