I just want to put the following paragraph out there before I get started.
Anyone can like any kind of music and this doesn't bother me. Also, metal is a very odd genre of music... It very much feels (to me at least) like the guys club of music. This is why i'm putting these thoughts out there.
So what is my gut feeling when seeing girls that are as into their metal as I am? Very sadly, it's awkwardness. Videogames and listening to Metal are the two things in my life that are not particularly popular with the girls. But funnily enough, on one hand, a girl that is as into videogames as me is actually very attractive. On the other hand, a girl that is as into their metal as me, is a major turn off.
Why this bothers me, I do not know... But I can only speculate!
A boys Club
Part of the reason might be the reason stated above: Metal is a boys club. I'm not saying that it excludes girls, but the very genre seems to not be very friendly to the opposite sex. In many cases, it's strong, powerful, violent music. Although I acknowledge the fact that a girl can associate to all these things, the matter of the fact is these attributes are more readily attributed to men than women. Metalheads will know the awesomeness that is contained in a metal concert but for those who don't, here is what I enjoy about these concerts.
Although the music is a big part of the experience, A larger part is the crowd. At first it's intimidating standing, waiting for the show to begin and next to you is a biker with a FUCKOFF tattoo and a beard that would help him blend perfectly in viking territory. Alot of these people will look to be nasty fuckers, but if you're looking for the perfect rendition of the saying "don't judge a book by its cover", this would be it. It's awesome how as the concert goes on, the crowd gets wilder and wilder, moshpits are formed and everyone is pushing and shoving in a way only boys used to do as kids and teenagers. but on top of that, there is an underline sense of brotherhood. when you fall in a moshpit, you WILL have someone protecting you while someone else yanks you back on your feet, the guy next to you that you don't know will hold you by the shoulders as he's headbanging like he 's known you since childhood. Everyone is sharing this strong and powerful music together and it's amazing!
Now picture a girl in the mix. She likes the music too but you'll think harder about what would instinctive. You can't push and shove a girl, you can't hold her like a brother. It just doesn't feel right! Like most guys know, you can't act like an immature prick with your friends as much when girls are around. But ask yourself why? maybe because you want to impress, maybe because you don't want to look stupid, or maybe you don't know why... you just don't do it.
Metal is not feminine
For all that metal does, it never is feminine. The genre seems to revel in the fact that it's masculine. The riffs are low pitched, it's fast, is sonbre, the vocals (for the most part) are yelled... non of these are woman friendly. I guess it's odd that with a genre that seems so unfriendly to something it's weird when that very something comes to embrace it. It should not be, but it is!
I say that but....
Now I put it to you GB users! Do any other metal heads fell the same way?
Also feel I should add that I'm sorry if I offended some women users on here :( I did not mean to offend!
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