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A hole in my life - Not a gaming entry

Lately I've felt there's a hole in my life which I can't fill. I've been going through a hard time lately and nothing seems to be getting better; the problems last year, big as they were, were easy to understand and move past. The problems this year however have been seemingly smaller, but far more complex and harder to resolve. They linger on, a taunt to me, suggesting all my maturity in the last few years has faded. I feel like a child in the face of them and like maybe I'm not ready for this life. 
 
Nothing I'm doing is filling this hole I feel. And it IS there, day in and day out. I seem mostly normal on the outside, but deep inside I can feel it, pushing on my lungs and heart, a constant frog in my throat yearning to just escape. I'm caught in this never-ceasing loop of performing mediocre activities as I drift slowly throughout my life. Is anything I do even important? I'll never accomplish everything I hope to. Life will never give me everything I desire. There is not time enough for it all. 
 
And what is this, this work, this activity, this club, this movie to watch, this game to play, this book to read, this meal to eat? Do they even mean anything at all? What is the point of them? What is the point of life? It seems the point of it is to just disappoint. To do as much as you can in the fleeting time you have but regret everything you didn't do. To feel heart ache and feel you are mature enough to handle it, only to realize you are not. To drift and slide without any knowledge of what it is you do that is of real importance. 
 
If I knew there was another life, I would be happy. If I knew there was enough time to everything I want to. If I knew it was all going to turn out okay, then I'd be happy. But it's not the way it is. And it never will be.

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Lately I've felt there's a hole in my life which I can't fill. I've been going through a hard time lately and nothing seems to be getting better; the problems last year, big as they were, were easy to understand and move past. The problems this year however have been seemingly smaller, but far more complex and harder to resolve. They linger on, a taunt to me, suggesting all my maturity in the last few years has faded. I feel like a child in the face of them and like maybe I'm not ready for this life. 
 
Nothing I'm doing is filling this hole I feel. And it IS there, day in and day out. I seem mostly normal on the outside, but deep inside I can feel it, pushing on my lungs and heart, a constant frog in my throat yearning to just escape. I'm caught in this never-ceasing loop of performing mediocre activities as I drift slowly throughout my life. Is anything I do even important? I'll never accomplish everything I hope to. Life will never give me everything I desire. There is not time enough for it all. 
 
And what is this, this work, this activity, this club, this movie to watch, this game to play, this book to read, this meal to eat? Do they even mean anything at all? What is the point of them? What is the point of life? It seems the point of it is to just disappoint. To do as much as you can in the fleeting time you have but regret everything you didn't do. To feel heart ache and feel you are mature enough to handle it, only to realize you are not. To drift and slide without any knowledge of what it is you do that is of real importance. 
 
If I knew there was another life, I would be happy. If I knew there was enough time to everything I want to. If I knew it was all going to turn out okay, then I'd be happy. But it's not the way it is. And it never will be.

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Wow, the sun is finally shining in this winter darkness and you just totally dragged me down!

I recognize your words, I do, but you can't bury yourself in that empty feeling. Ride it out, there are good times ahead of you yet.

I sincerely wish something happens to cheer you up soon.

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Well if you are that depressed just lay down and sleep. And when you're done sleeping and can't sleep anymore, look at your bedroom ceiling until you can't lay down anymore. Don't care about your job or your friends since they can't help you in this. Finally there will come a moment where you have the choice to wether get up and do something or to starve to death. Choose and follow through.
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@SpawnMan:  
 
Everyone has these thoughts. I use to suffer from serious depression, and literally one single idea completely brought me out of it: 
You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. 
The media and pop culture constantly portray this sense that if you are not constantly so fucking thrilled about everything then there is something wrong with you. That is bullshit. They are trying to sell you something. Life is hard. It will always be hard. Accept that you are not going to feel great sometimes. When you come out it, the happiness you feel will actually mean something. If a roller coaster was just a constant up hill climb, it would really suck wouldn't it?  
Hills and valleys man. 
 
Also, if some creep tells you that Jesus will fill that hole in your life, tell him to go fuck himself. Because he's trying to sell you something too.
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@McGhee_the_Insomniac said:
" @SpawnMan:  
 
Everyone has these thoughts. I use to suffer from serious depression, and literally one single idea completely brought me out of it: 
You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. The media and pop culture constantly portray this sense that if you are not constantly so fucking thrilled about everything then there is something wrong with you. That is bullshit. They are trying to sell you something. Life is hard. It will always be hard. Accept that you are not going to feel great sometimes. When you come out it, the happiness you feel will actually mean something. If a roller coaster was just a constant up hill climb, it would really suck wouldn't it?  Hills and valleys man.  Also, if some creep tells you that Jesus will fill that hole in your life, tell him to go fuck himself. Because he's trying to sell you something too. "

Please explain to him why life is so hard.
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@SpawnMan:  
 
Everyone has these thoughts. I use to suffer from serious depression, and literally one single idea completely brought me out of it: 
You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. 
The media and pop culture constantly portray this sense that if you are not constantly so fucking thrilled about everything then there is something wrong with you. That is bullshit. They are trying to sell you something. Life is hard. It will always be hard. Accept that you are not going to feel great sometimes. When you come out it, the happiness you feel will actually mean something. If a roller coaster was just a constant up hill climb, it would really suck wouldn't it?  
Hills and valleys man. 
 
Also, if some creep tells you that Jesus will fill that hole in your life, tell him to go fuck himself. Because he's trying to sell you something too.
This man makes a sound argument.
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@McGhee_the_Insomniac said:
" @SpawnMan:  
 
Everyone has these thoughts. I use to suffer from serious depression, and literally one single idea completely brought me out of it: 
You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. The media and pop culture constantly portray this sense that if you are not constantly so fucking thrilled about everything then there is something wrong with you. That is bullshit. They are trying to sell you something. Life is hard. It will always be hard. Accept that you are not going to feel great sometimes. When you come out it, the happiness you feel will actually mean something. If a roller coaster was just a constant up hill climb, it would really suck wouldn't it?  Hills and valleys man.  Also, if some creep tells you that Jesus will fill that hole in your life, tell him to go fuck himself. Because he's trying to sell you something too. "
I declare this the post of the year.
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@McGhee_the_Insomniac said:
" @SpawnMan:  
 
Everyone has these thoughts. I use to suffer from serious depression, and literally one single idea completely brought me out of it: 
You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. The media and pop culture constantly portray this sense that if you are not constantly so fucking thrilled about everything then there is something wrong with you. That is bullshit. They are trying to sell you something. Life is hard. It will always be hard. Accept that you are not going to feel great sometimes. When you come out it, the happiness you feel will actually mean something. If a roller coaster was just a constant up hill climb, it would really suck wouldn't it?  Hills and valleys man.  Also, if some creep tells you that Jesus will fill that hole in your life, tell him to go fuck himself. Because he's trying to sell you something too. "
Wisdom. 
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If it makes you feel better.. I'm going through the same exact thing, What's your age?

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@Galiant said:
" @McGhee_the_Insomniac
@SpawnMan:  
 
Everyone has these thoughts. I use to suffer from serious depression, and literally one single idea completely brought me out of it: 
You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. 
The media and pop culture constantly portray this sense that if you are not constantly so fucking thrilled about everything then there is something wrong with you. That is bullshit. They are trying to sell you something. Life is hard. It will always be hard. Accept that you are not going to feel great sometimes. When you come out it, the happiness you feel will actually mean something. If a roller coaster was just a constant up hill climb, it would really suck wouldn't it?  
Hills and valleys man. 
 
Also, if some creep tells you that Jesus will fill that hole in your life, tell him to go fuck himself. Because he's trying to sell you something too.
This man makes a sound argument. "
As a counter point to his argument, I'll make one of my own from my own Christian faith perspective.  
 
Indeed, those thoughts are thoughts that EVERYONE has, the Bible in fact describes the feeling just as you did, as a hole that is seemingly unfillable. The Bible even states that man cannot live without thinking about the existence of a God, because man will at some point wonder his own existence and the point therein. Questions that few mortal answers satisfy to the absolute.
 
I never will have to wonder about my existence and the point of life. Therefore I rarely feel depressed, because I know that my God placed me here on this Earth for a reason. The Bible states that the commandments above all commandments are to love your God with all your heart and to love your neighbor as yourself. The ultimate point of life therefore is to SERVE. Which is about as polar opposite from the reality of most Westerners and their goals as you can get. As society these days is very consumer-oriented and selfish.  
 
To quote Demon Hunter from their song "Tie This Around Your Neck", 
 
"This is the age of the dead, the generation of pagan and self-led. You can feel the bones shatter beneath your feet, the blood of lust staining our teeth. They feed on pain (Pain!), disorder (DISORDER!), delusion (DELUSION!), the filth of the modern plague. And in this reign of godlessness, the heathens will say. TIE THIS AROUND YOUR NECK. FOOL." 
 
That selfish existence of fulfilling only your own desires in life and giving no thought or consideration to the One who gave you life and those you are here to serve (your fellow man), is like a cancer that will eventually eat you away and rot you from the inside out.  
 
If you've ever seen very old athiests, you'll notice that most of them are very bitter people, and ultimately lack joy in life. That's not true of everyone, but there are plenty of examples (including in my own family). The spark of hope for life, for a life after life that is GOOD, and for a purpose to serve and lead others to the fulfillment in Christ that you have, that fulfillment that there is MORE to life than the 9 to 5 job and the wife and the slog of living, is something that scarcely comes when you take God and His roadmap and His wisdom out of the picture.  
 
Although I don't purport to have all the answers, I urge you to check out a church and talk to a pastor there (follow that up with talking to others until you've gotten a good feel for the place). Even if you an Athiest like my boss always was all his life, you may find that you have an epiphany and realize you don't know all the answers to life on Earth and your existance, and like my boss you may just find yourself turning into an Agnostic; or maybe even a believer. But I tell you that the fulfillment and spark in life is found not in the material and everyday, but in the spiritual, the wisdom, the calm, the joy and the peace that comes from the body of Christ, trust in God, and living a life based on the principles of his Word.  
 
Just the other day me, my four roomates and my two friends gathered together in our living room and we spent an hour holding hands and praying for others. THAT is what makes you feel good about life. I'm the oldest of the bunch (at 26) and I'm telling you that having that kind of experience with a group of friends at this age is practically unheard of. But when you are in this type of environment, know these types of people, and believe in this faith, nothing can bring you down. And you can only know this Truth when you experience the love of God for yourself. No one can give it to you. You have to feel it and find it yourself. That's why no comment on Giantbomb is ever going to shake me up, much less what I encounter in the real world. "Forgive them Father for they know not what they do.", I got the wisdom of ages backing my views, "not the slurs of the youth" (another Demon Hunter quote) ;) So I don't pay it any mind, I got the light inside me and nothing will contain it or shut that door, for I've seen the evidenced truths with my own eyes and in my own heart and the hearts, and lives, of others.
 
Anyhoo hope you find what you are looking for. I'll lift you up in prayer and feel free to send me a message if you wanna talk more or have any questions, I love helping people and I'd be more than happy to help you out. Take care man. 
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I know what you mean OP. 
 
I've been trying for two years to get into the same university (a very nice one, but my program takes 65 people out of 1000+ entrants), and have made it within the top 2% each time, but still not enough to get in. This year I'm broadening my applications, but either way... I feel like the past two years since I graduated have been wasted. I just want to get my life started, and instead of being cooped up at home or at my job, I want to be in a place where I can socialize and learn (like a university). I'm kinda wasting the prime years of my life here, and it's leaving me empty feeling. 
 
It's not a matter of lack of faith for me or anything. I know exactly what I want in life, but am facing lots of obstacles. It's like looking at what you want behind a glass window. So close, yet so far. 

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" Although I don't purport to have all the answers, I urge you to check out a church and talk to a pastor there (follow that up with talking to others until you've gotten a good feel for the place). Even if you an Athiest like my boss always was all his life, you may find that you have an epiphany and realize you don't know all the answers to life on Earth and your existance, and like my boss you may just find yourself turning into an Agnostic; or maybe even a believer. "
I don't think you'll need an epiphany to realize that you don't have an answer to those things. And you can be an atheist and an agnostic at the same time, just like you could be believing in a higher power (or someting like that) and be an agnostic at the same time.
 
I personally don't think anything serves a purpose, everything just is there because it is there, and I'm still a pretty damn happy person.
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I can put something in that hole for you.

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@astrotriforce: I respect the fact that you believe in something I don't, and your intention may well be to help this guy (on a forum like this, who knows, you might just want to start some sort of argument because religion usually does that and the internet has all kinds of people). But there's something about your blind faith that really scares me. This may not be the place for it, but I was hoping you could explain to me the "wisdom of the ages" backing your views, the Bible says a lot of things about a lot of things and many of them are pretty gruesome. Who chooses what not to follow in the Bible today if God's word is absolute? The world the Bible describes and sets rules for does no longer exist but people still hang on to many old traditions and ways of life, while neglecting others.
 
Please PM me about this, as I'm honestly curious and I don't have any religious friends I can discuss these questions with.
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@astrotriforce said:
" @Galiant said:
" @McGhee_the_Insomniac
@SpawnMan:  
 
Everyone has these thoughts. I use to suffer from serious depression, and literally one single idea completely brought me out of it: 
You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. 
The media and pop culture constantly portray this sense that if you are not constantly so fucking thrilled about everything then there is something wrong with you. That is bullshit. They are trying to sell you something. Life is hard. It will always be hard. Accept that you are not going to feel great sometimes. When you come out it, the happiness you feel will actually mean something. If a roller coaster was just a constant up hill climb, it would really suck wouldn't it?  
Hills and valleys man. 
 
Also, if some creep tells you that Jesus will fill that hole in your life, tell him to go fuck himself. Because he's trying to sell you something too.
This man makes a sound argument. "
As a counter point to his argument, I'll make one of my own from my own Christian faith perspective.   Indeed, those thoughts are thoughts that EVERYONE has, the Bible in fact describes the feeling just as you did, as a hole that is seemingly unfillable. The Bible even states that man cannot live without thinking about the existence of a God, because man will at some point wonder his own existence and the point therein. Questions that few mortal answers satisfy to the absolute. I never will have to wonder about my existence and the point of life. Therefore I rarely feel depressed, because I know that my God placed me here on this Earth for a reason. The Bible states that the commandments above all commandments are to love your God with all your heart and to love your neighbor as yourself. The ultimate point of life therefore is to SERVE. Which is about as polar opposite from the reality of most Westerners and their goals as you can get. As society these days is very consumer-oriented and selfish.   To quote Demon Hunter from their song "Tie This Around Your Neck",  "This is the age of the dead, the generation of pagan and self-led. You can feel the bones shatter beneath your feet, the blood of lust staining our teeth. They feed on pain (Pain!), disorder (DISORDER!), delusion (DELUSION!), the filth of the modern plague. And in this reign of godlessness, the heathens will say. TIE THIS AROUND YOUR NECK. FOOL."  That selfish existence of fulfilling only your own desires in life and giving no thought or consideration to the One who gave you life and those you are here to serve (your fellow man), is like a cancer that will eventually eat you away and rot you from the inside out.   If you've ever seen very old athiests, you'll notice that most of them are very bitter people, and ultimately lack joy in life. That's not true of everyone, but there are plenty of examples (including in my own family). The spark of hope for life, for a life after life that is GOOD, and for a purpose to serve and lead others to the fulfillment in Christ that you have, that fulfillment that there is MORE to life than the 9 to 5 job and the wife and the slog of living, is something that scarcely comes when you take God and His roadmap and His wisdom out of the picture.   Although I don't purport to have all the answers, I urge you to check out a church and talk to a pastor there (follow that up with talking to others until you've gotten a good feel for the place). Even if you an Athiest like my boss always was all his life, you may find that you have an epiphany and realize you don't know all the answers to life on Earth and your existance, and like my boss you may just find yourself turning into an Agnostic; or maybe even a believer. But I tell you that the fulfillment and spark in life is found not in the material and everyday, but in the spiritual, the wisdom, the calm, the joy and the peace that comes from the body of Christ, trust in God, and living a life based on the principles of his Word.   Just the other day me, my four roomates and my two friends gathered together in our living room and we spent an hour holding hands and praying for others. THAT is what makes you feel good about life. I'm the oldest of the bunch (at 26) and I'm telling you that having that kind of experience with a group of friends at this age is practically unheard of. But when you are in this type of environment, know these types of people, and believe in this faith, nothing can bring you down. And you can only know this Truth when you experience the love of God for yourself. No one can give it to you. You have to feel it and find it yourself. That's why no comment on Giantbomb is ever going to shake me up, much less what I encounter in the real world. "Forgive them Father for they know not what they do.", I got the wisdom of ages backing my views, "not the slurs of the youth" (another Demon Hunter quote) ;) So I don't pay it any mind, I got the light inside me and nothing will contain it or shut that door, for I've seen the evidenced truths with my own eyes and in my own heart and the hearts, and lives, of others. Anyhoo hope you find what you are looking for. I'll lift you up in prayer and feel free to send me a message if you wanna talk more or have any questions, I love helping people and I'd be more than happy to help you out. Take care man.  "
I don't want to get into a drawn out argument on religion. Just let be say this: I was raised Chistian. My father was a minister for 25 years. I have a BA in theology from a fundamentalist Christian college. I am not saying this to give myself a boost, i.e. the logical fallacy, "argument from authority". I just want it to be clear where I am coming from. 
 
The biggest cause of stress, pain, and confusion in my life was cause by the many internal conflicting beliefs brought upon me by Christianity. It is true that someone who is looking for help can find a social support system within a religion. But the promises that the religion makes are false, and the WILL fall away. Christians are in a constant, often times, manic race to maintain all the warm gooshy feelings you describe. These things do not last. Even as a Christian you have this "hole" in your life at one point or another. Once the religious fervor wears off, one is left right back wear they started.  
 
So yes, one could find momentary relief from religion, but in the end it will only bring more confusion. When that person finds out that their prayers don't get answered, that healing really doesn't happen to them or there loved ones, when someone dies tragically, when they start to see that the world DOES operate exactly like it should if a god didn't exist.  
 
In the end the religion will only put that person in an even worse state, now having gained a set of conflicting beliefs on top of the old problems.
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@Gabriel said:
"I can put something in that hole for you. "

Ha ha ha. That is just wrong 
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I used to suffer from depression myself, since my social anxiety left me a wailing ball constantly in fear of what people though, but them I stopped giving a shit about what others thought and understood my chances of getting jumped are slim to none here. Now I don't get gloomy or fearful much, though I still get the physical response of an adrenaline rush when around groups of people, makes it hard to eat lunch. 
Though now I have gotten an extreme dislike of gloomy people, now I'm not Mr Sunshine and Rainbows, but seriously, what has sitting around being all sad ever done for you? Cause for me it didn't do shit. 
 
EDIT: I guess what I'm saying here is to take things one day at a time and sure, you're most likely going to crawl out of the life-pool covered in shit, but the treasure you can find in that pool is worth a lot more than that shit, so just take a shower. 
 
If  that didn't help, it might be good to know I haven't slept in two days.

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I can relate to the original post. 
 
And that same happened to me. I am still trying to fill that same void. My solution I think is connected with spirituality. 

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@Gabriel said:
" I can put something in that hole for you. "
Could not believe there hadn't been a joke post yet. I give you a B+
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@SpawnMan: O.o 
 
You sound like my roommate.
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@McGhee_the_Insomniac: I'll have to disagree with your ultimate conclusion, I'll just say that as many people "fall away" from it as you describe and as your own personal experience attests, so to do many people return to their faith the older they get (probably in larger numbers). I don't feel like getting into a long-winded discussion on religion either, so I'm not gonna get into it. My post speaks for itself, but its not about warm gushy feelings, but about a fundamental truth and faith, as well as ones own experiences with their God. Often times when people do go to a Bible College they end up losing their faith, that's how my Bible Study teacher was. He nearly became an Atheist like most of his friends; nowadays he takes apart their arguments in seconds flat and has returned to his faith stronger than ever before.  But its an interesting story.
 
I'd ask you to watch Ben Stein's "Expelled" if you haven't seen it before, the words that Richard Dawkins says out of his own mouth are priceless and IMHO epitomize the eternal flaw in Atheism. Not to mention the inherent contradictions he espouses.
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@Galiant: My faith isn't blind. Sure I'll PM you but I've been writing since 2am and I'm tired. I've already spent too much time on Giantbomb, so don't know if I'll do it today. We'll see. I'll give you a follow and PM at some point later. I'll make a note of it. Take care.
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"Lately I've felt there's a hole in my life which I can't fill. I've been going through a hard time lately and nothing seems to be getting better; the problems last year, big as they were, were easy to understand and move past. The problems this year however have been seemingly smaller, but far more complex and harder to resolve. They linger on, a taunt to me, suggesting all my maturity in the last few years has faded. I feel like a child in the face of them and like maybe I'm not ready for this life.  Nothing I'm doing is filling this hole I feel. And it IS there, day in and day out. I seem mostly normal on the outside, but deep inside I can feel it, pushing on my lungs and heart, a constant frog in my throat yearning to just escape. I'm caught in this never-ceasing loop of performing mediocre activities as I drift slowly throughout my life. Is anything I do even important? I'll never accomplish everything I hope to. Life will never give me everything I desire. There is not time enough for it all.  And what is this, this work, this activity, this club, this movie to watch, this game to play, this book to read, this meal to eat? Do they even mean anything at all? What is the point of them? What is the point of life? It seems the point of it is to just disappoint. To do as much as you can in the fleeting time you have but regret everything you didn't do. To feel heart ache and feel you are mature enough to handle it, only to realize you are not. To drift and slide without any knowledge of what it is you do that is of real importance.  If I knew there was another life, I would be happy. If I knew there was enough time to everything I want to. If I knew it was all going to turn out okay, then I'd be happy. But it's not the way it is. And it never will be. "


I have recently had this exact same feeling, so this hits home really hard for me. 
I felt like I was constantly on the cusp of drowning in freezing cold water, and that I was so numb to everything that I no longer felt anything any more. (No I'm not some weird goth type that can only see negative.)
I sat down and thought hard about it and realised that I feel this way because I'm in a serious rut. 
 

This's me a week ago. (Read through it because yes it is depressing but you'll get to a good bit later on.)

 
I wake up at like 6.00 in the morning to go to a job that I truly despise due to my boss having issues with needing to control everything. I just lie in my bed saying: "Just 5 more minutes, just 5 more minutes." 
And then when I have no more snooze time I end up thinking: "I really, REALLY can't do it any more I want to call in and fake that I'm sick today." (I never have but I hated the job that I do this damn much.) 
Once I'm at work conversation is always stale and lacking. Especially when I'm trying to keep my boss happy and I can't seem to get any headway with her controlling manner. And I feel like I've lost the ability to socialise effectively with people I like. 
It's been like this for so long that I've become partially/fully depressed and I've got a dominant negative inner voice instead of a dominant upbeat positve inner voice, that simply won't allow me to find joy in most things and life in general. 
Once I get home I usually stick my pc on and sit there wondering what to do with myself, so I end up coming to the GiantBomb website(Which shouldn't reflect what I think of the site). Then once I've done this I pretty much check my e-mails, none from any friends because I don't really have any, check amazon to unhealthily see if I can buy something to give me a small buzz of good feelings and then jerk off to porn (you may think this's gross but let's call a spade a spade and get straight to the issue.)  Before I get into bed to watch something on my TV. At the moment I'm working my way through all eight seasons of 24 on DVD.  
And the sad thing is that this's a description of every single day, monday to friday. Yes even on friday I have nothing to do at night as well. On saturday and Sunday I pretty much spend all day in my room half-heartedly playing a video-game of my choice and then come monday It starts all over again. 
I'm on a spiral downwards 

This's me only a week after I've met up with a life coach and started working on myself and my goals in life. 
 
I've changed the way I put myself across to people, I make myself smile and when I walk past people in the corridors at work I purposefully ask how people are, and when the inevitable response comes back: "I'm alright how're you?" I now say: "That's great, I'm doing really well today myself. How come you're only alright?" 
Conversation ensues and people get the chance to see how much fun I can be. 
I'm making a concerted effort to tell my negative inner voice off and then replacing any negative thoughts with positive thoughts. (Yeah I know all of this sounds like hocus pocus BS but it is actually helping me feel good and enthused about myself and life again so why knock it and me?) 
When I wake up in the morning and I'm lying in bed snoozing I repeatedly tell myself in my head that "today is going to be a fucking awesome day, I can't wait to get to work and see how I can help out today", "Today will be a good day", etc, etc... 
Having told myself this the first day of work, on a monday, after my first life coach session on the previous day I rode my bicycle into work and had more energy than a little kid does after drinking sodas, I even cut five minutes off my normal time getting to work I was that much happier. 
 
Sure life hasn't changed dramatically yet, but it's only been one week and I already percieve and feel much better about myself and other people, plus life in general is becoming easier to deal with. 
I'm currently working on more positive ways to say things, so instead of saying: "I will do something in a second" (Which I literally mean as: "As soon as we've finished conversing I'll head straight there and do such and such a job", but my bosses experience has taught her that this usually means: "I'll do it when I feel like it, or maybe never I dunno...") 
Instead I'm now responding, "I'll do it straight away". 
My bosses reaction is greatly improved nowadays and we can actually laugh with each other on the odd occasion. 
 
I've also gone and bought myself that P90X workout thing and I'm now on my 4th workout, I already feel so much better for it. :-) (I'll be posting videos of my flabby self on YouTube getting thinner soon. (Oh? Yes... I'm one of those people ha ha.)  

I'll be giving myself more to do soon but I want to carry on focusing on all of this for a short while first, to get it down and permanently fixed into my brain before I move on to fry bigger fish. 
 
Get a life coach if you feel as bad as I felt dude, mine is definitely helping me a lot. 
If you can't afford or you're interested in helping yourself

by yourself

first before you'll get a life coach, if you get one, then feel free to contact me via PM for a few tips or whatever. 
Don't worry, if you did contact me I'd be completely comfortable only talking about you and I could tell you what else my life coach said I should do to feel better to sort of pass on the buck as it were, I feel like if I don't put out this olive branch I'll feel like I'm betraying what I'm working to become, a better and happier me.
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@McGhee_the_Insomniac: Thank you for the sound advice, but I already know this. I know what the point of unhappiness is. That's not my problem right now - like I said, the problems in my past we large but understandable. THe problems I've been facing lately have no point at all. They're just random instances with no moral to earn from them, no solution, no way to look on the bright side. They're just there. I'm fine dealing with problems of any size if I understand them, if they have a point, but they don't have a point. They have no point whatsoever. And if my pain, which I had learnt from up until now, no longer has something to teach me, then it's obvious there is little point to life.
 
@astrotriforce:
 Please don't start preaching religion to me. Religion is what started this mess. I was shunned from my church because of my beliefs and my Christian "friends" lied and excluded me from their lives. If they claim to know God better than I, is it me that is wrong, or them? How can I ever know? Is it a lesson on obeying God, or a lesson on sticking up for my own morals despite what is said? It is unclear, therefore this pain I am going through is unclear, and therefore I cannot learn anything from it, and therefore it is pointless! And if pain, which in reality is life because that's all life is about, pain and suffering, is pointless, then it means life itself is pointless!
 
@Sin4profit:
 I'm not too young sorry. In my twenties. 
 
@craigbo180:
 A B+? I give him an A at least, it was pure comedy gold!
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@SpawnMan:   
 
  This video always cheers me up :D I mean, he says always look on the bright side of DEATH! There IS no bright side to death, and if he can look see a bright side to that, we should at least try looking on the bright side of life no?
Anyways, if you feel like you've pretty much lost everything, try this out: Try remembering what your childhood dream was, or what you really enjoy doing. What is it that you always wanted to be? If it was to be a soccer player, GO FOR IT. You might not end up getting into the premier league or something, but at least you'll get somewhere. About 10 years of your life will be used in doing something worthwhile. You've got only one life, don't be scared, just break out of the monotony, join a small soccer club and work upwards. When your life's at an end, you'll at least feel really happy about the fact that you tried, and won't have anything to regret. (That is, obviously, if being a soccer player is your dream lol. depends what your dream is)
 
I freaking love sketching. I can sit and sketch for hours. And also, it has been my dream to work in the games industry since I was a kid. Unfortunately, I somehow got caught up in Architecture and am studying in the first year. But I realized something was wrong and have already applied for colleges offering comm design! (involves animation and stuff. hope I can get into NID) Sure, there's a lot of competition, and a concept artist is not an easy position to get into, but I WILL TRY! Even if I have to start at the bottom, I will go through it. All this already makes me feel better than most of the people who just got caught up in a line somehow.
 
Also, I'm sure everyone feels like writing a book sometime in their life, and I've just started writing one. Makes me feel GREAT! And who knows? It might even get published and I might become a celeb! I mean. why not? I think it's a great story :P Which reminds me of a very important thing. CREATIVITY. The feeling of creating and bringing something new to the world that has never been seen before is one of the best and most satisfying feelings ever. Pumps up your self respect a lot. Whether it is a song, video, game, art ANYTHING. If you have skills, try creating something and expressing yourself.
 
Oh and never be scared of anything (except maybe death :P which is a good thing as it makes you value life) You know, I never take an umbrella with me EVER, even in monsoons (unless my mom forces me)
It's a great feeling to just get soaked and walk without any umbrella on the road as if the sun is shining while other people run like crazy to cover themselves from the rain as if it's gonna get burn them. I just love watching them look at me as if I'm some crazy person, while I just keep getting soaked and walking as if nothing's out of the ordinary. 
So never be scared, and never listen to what people say. Oh and one thing to always remember if you want to be happy : Try doing the opposite of what everyone does. Just be the complete opposite. It makes sense doesn't it? Cuz everyone's doing similar things and no one's happy, so that must mean they're living it WRONG! :P 
 
 Please also note that I'm only 18 and have a LOT to learn in life, and I'm willing to learn if anyone disagrees with me (but no stupid arguments please). Things could happen that could modify my views. But i'm sure some of this will at least make your life better than what it is now, so give it a try!
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@SpawnMan: Oh and read "the monk who sold his Ferrari" by Robin Sharma
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@SpawnMan:  
 
I'm not saying this to insult you, TC, but you might need to see a psychiatrist. You definitely need help.
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@astrotriforce said:

" @McGhee_the_Insomniac: I'll have to disagree with your ultimate conclusion, I'll just say that as many people "fall away" from it as you describe and as your own personal experience attests, so to do many people return to their faith the older they get (probably in larger numbers). I don't feel like getting into a long-winded discussion on religion either, so I'm not gonna get into it. My post speaks for itself, but its not about warm gushy feelings, but about a fundamental truth and faith, as well as ones own experiences with their God. Often times when people do go to a Bible College they end up losing their faith, that's how my Bible Study teacher was. He nearly became an Atheist like most of his friends; nowadays he takes apart their arguments in seconds flat and has returned to his faith stronger than ever before.  But its an interesting story. I'd ask you to watch Ben Stein's "Expelled" if you haven't seen it before, the words that Richard Dawkins says out of his own mouth are priceless and IMHO epitomize the eternal flaw in Atheism. Not to mention the inherent contradictions he espouses. "

Oh please, I have watched Expelled, and it is so full of lies and distortions it is utterly despicable. I actually guffawed when I read "Ben Stein's "Expelled" in your post. I don't have time to debunk the whole film here, nor is this the place. So if you like, go here: 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p3QHsUS3Lp4&feature=related 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F5ixmLNwF9s&feature=related
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Meh, my life sucks right now too. My school sucks and I'm in a program I don't belong in, a program designed for retards and fuck-ups, and to top it all off, I have to fucking commute there. There's no college memories to be had when you're forced to commute to school, especially when your school is full of cocksuckers whose arrogance practically creates a toxic cloud over the campus. I feel like I just don't belong there, and no matter how many times I tell myself to keep my head up and that things will eventually work out, it's easier said than done. All you can do is keep pushing forward and hope things eventually start to look up, man. It's all anyone can do.

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I've never been depressed, so I don't think I can help much. Whenever I feel like there's a hole in my life, it's usually just because of lack of sleep. I'm not necessarily a religious person, but the belief that God has put you on this Earth for something I think is a very strong thought that can help push people through some tough times. And remember, this is coming from someone who was raised Atheist, and puts absolutely no faith into the Bible. But the idea of God can be helpful if you're willing to look past the crazy shit that some religious people do.

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@McGhee_the_Insomniac said:
" @SpawnMan:  
 
Everyone has these thoughts. I use to suffer from serious depression, and literally one single idea completely brought me out of it: 
You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. You are not suppose to be happy all of the time. The media and pop culture constantly portray this sense that if you are not constantly so fucking thrilled about everything then there is something wrong with you. That is bullshit. They are trying to sell you something. Life is hard. It will always be hard. Accept that you are not going to feel great sometimes. When you come out it, the happiness you feel will actually mean something. If a roller coaster was just a constant up hill climb, it would really suck wouldn't it?  Hills and valleys man.  Also, if some creep tells you that Jesus will fill that hole in your life, tell him to go fuck himself. Because he's trying to sell you something too. "
This. And try talk therapy. It helped me with drugs, which i was using to fill the hole. And some days i feel that hole youre talking about...but most days i dont anymore. Also, start working out 4 days a week. I workout 6, and it does me wonders. Seriously.
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To me, there's a void in every person's life that only Jesus Christ can fill.The empty spot people feel is their soul.

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@spudtastic: Also,stop trolling dude, it dosent have to be any major/minor religion,just spirituality...a sense of purpose, knowing that something happens for a reason...it makes life easier.
Yeah,i get that,a big empty hole where your heart should be...and you have no clue why...I kind of lost faith,so i started questioning existence...which led me to question the existence of a purpose to life...came to the conclusion that without an after life,without continuity, nothing we do matters, everything turns to dust...so yeah,kind of became a nihilist for a short month or two,then i saw Big Lebowski again and said fuck this ;)
All better now...
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Yeah, I think most people feel like this at times. My advice: Get out and be around people. Sometimes listening to daily podcasts helps.  
 
If that doesn't do the trick, I might recommend reading up on mindfulness meditation.  Reading Jon Kabat-Zinn's Wherever You Go, There You Are is a great starting point. 

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@SpawnMan said:
" Lately I've felt there's a hole in my life which I can't fill. I've been going through a hard time lately and nothing seems to be getting better; the problems last year, big as they were, were easy to understand and move past. The problems this year however have been seemingly smaller, but far more complex and harder to resolve. They linger on, a taunt to me, suggesting all my maturity in the last few years has faded. I feel like a child in the face of them and like maybe I'm not ready for this life.  Nothing I'm doing is filling this hole I feel. And it IS there, day in and day out. I seem mostly normal on the outside, but deep inside I can feel it, pushing on my lungs and heart, a constant frog in my throat yearning to just escape. I'm caught in this never-ceasing loop of performing mediocre activities as I drift slowly throughout my life. Is anything I do even important? I'll never accomplish everything I hope to. Life will never give me everything I desire. There is not time enough for it all.  And what is this, this work, this activity, this club, this movie to watch, this game to play, this book to read, this meal to eat? Do they even mean anything at all? What is the point of them? What is the point of life? It seems the point of it is to just disappoint. To do as much as you can in the fleeting time you have but regret everything you didn't do. To feel heart ache and feel you are mature enough to handle it, only to realize you are not. To drift and slide without any knowledge of what it is you do that is of real importance.  If I knew there was another life, I would be happy. If I knew there was enough time to everything I want to. If I knew it was all going to turn out okay, then I'd be happy. But it's not the way it is. And it never will be. "
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