Do Handshakes Matter Anymore

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#1  Edited By SensuousLettuce

Growing up, I'm pretty sure all of us were told about the importance of a good firm handshake and how much that tells the person you're shaking with.  Doesn't seem to be much value placed on it anymore because lots of people that I've shaken hands with in previous months- from sales people to colleagues to executives to people conducting interviews have that limp fish handshake that leaves you thinking this person needs to be gored by the luchadeer.
 
Now I'm not advocating the 'I'm an alpha male' handshake crush of doom, but put a little muscle behind it.
 
Thoughts?

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#2  Edited By Gargantuan

Handshakes are still going strong in northern Sweden.

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#3  Edited By thebatmobile

Of course they matter. 

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#4  Edited By Extreme_Popcorn

I couldn't trust a person who gave a weak handshake

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#5  Edited By Yummylee

Whether they matter or not I still like to keep the tradition going! Plus a lot of my job interviews begin with a firm friendly handshake so they're definitely still.. practiced... in the UK.  I think they're just not as commonplace anymore because of the new generation and the rise of social awkwardness amongst society, lessening the use of physical contact for greetings. I mean I'm apart of that ever-growing issue, but fortunately I've still grown adept to giving a solid handshake. 
 
Not to mention that a handshake is probably enough to file a lawsuit for sexual harassment these days in the work place as well. /hyperbole

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#6  Edited By beforet

I try to open every introduction with a handshake, so it still matters to me.

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#7  Edited By nintendoeats

I tend to use handshakes as a sign of respect when parting ways with somebody. Mine is not firm however.

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#8  Edited By Karl_Boss

For job interviews yes it is.

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#9  Edited By Scooper

It's important. A wet, limp handshake tells you what you need to know.

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#10  Edited By Commando

Handshakes are a sign of politeness and maturity here in the south.  
Every time you meet someone new or someone you haven't seen in a while, you shake their hand.  Same thing when you're saying bye to them.
If you don't it's considered impolite, and some people find it insulting.

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#11  Edited By KarlPilkington

Yes they do, it is polite.

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#14  Edited By Twitchey

In Texas handshakes are a competition of who can squeeze harder.

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#15  Edited By Belonpopo

Handshakes are the basis for our society.

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#16  Edited By melcene

Even as a female, I feel that it's stupid to give a really lackluster, feather-light handshake.  What kind of respect does that command from someone?  I prefer to give a firm handshake, but I also have to be careful not to be so firm that people think I'm... butch.

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#17  Edited By Sarkhan
@Beforet said:


                    I try to open every introduction with a handshake, so it still matters to me.

                   

               

This with a smile :)
 
And i hate weak handshakes.
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#18  Edited By ryanwho
Yes. If your handshake is some sweaty limp thing, that tells me something about you. If you nearly break my hand and give me a rash cus your skin is so fucking coarse, that tells me something about you. If you're a man, you should do everything possible to have the latter. If you're a girl, you should shoot for neither. Maybe do the queen of england thing.
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#19  Edited By jondavis

One of my girlfriend's male friends badmouthed me behind my back after I gave him a firm handshake, claiming, "(I) tried to break (his) fucking hand!" What a pathetic jackass. 

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#20  Edited By PhatSeeJay

Nothing yells strength and confidence like a firm handshake. 

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#21  Edited By Yummylee
@Jimbo said:
  
That's more like a mid-air arm wrestle... of destruction.
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#22  Edited By Toxin066

Handshakes, like facial hair, are one of the few remaining measures of a man. Yes they matter, and they always will.

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I don't think they matter, it's just something people feel like they have to do out of "tradition".

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#24  Edited By ZimboDK

Man, handshakes are a joke sometimes. The last job interview I went to, the guy extended his hand and I squeezed it like you're supposed to do. What did he do? Nothing. He just stood there with his hand open. That was a really half-assed effort. How the hell do you fuck up a handshake?

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#25  Edited By jozzy
@JonDavis said:
One of my girlfriend's male friends badmouthed me behind my back after I gave him a firm handshake, claiming, "(I) tried to break (his) fucking hand!" What a pathetic jackass. 
Haha, priceless.
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#26  Edited By Cirdain

I have to shake quite lightly because I'm told that when I shake I crush... I'm only 16 so my hands shouldn't be that destructive. I can crush the shells of nuts with my grasp... I'm also an artist  :)

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#27  Edited By jondavis
@jozzy: The fact that I have bass hands couldn't've helped. 
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#28  Edited By Renahzor

Yes they matter.  I do trade shows now and then, and sales for a construction company.  When I'm meeting someone, and before I leave (or before they leave the booth at a trade show) its always expected.  When you sign a contract with someone it's especially important.  IMO a handshake shows respect, and confidence, from both parties.  Its amazing how fast you can judge someone from a weak handshake.  It doesn't have to be bone crushing, but a polite, firm handshake is very important.  

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#29  Edited By Deranged

Handshakes are a big deal to me. It shows confidence, strength, and trust. When someone fails to give a fair handshake, I show less initiative towards them.

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#30  Edited By BabyChooChoo
@Beforet said:
I try to open every introduction with a handshake, so it still matters to me.
Ditto.
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#31  Edited By Solh0und

  

  Best. Handshake. Ever.
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#32  Edited By MiniPato

I find judging someone based on a handshake is as stupid as judging someone just cause they like videogames. If anything I'd be more prone to showing less respect to people who judge others based on trivial things than someone who gives a weak handshake.

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#33  Edited By SensuousLettuce
@ZimboDK: Maybe you just gave a really piss poor interview and that's all he felt you deserved.   Like, the 'I'm not hiring this clown so why bother giving him a good handshake' handshake?
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#34  Edited By EpicSteve

Firm handshakes are critical for men to master. First impressions are everything. Every male I know with weak handshakes also have weak personalities, unconfident, and physically unfit. I'm not saying that if your can't provide a firm handshake you're a bad person. However, every instance in which I have been given a half-assed handshake has been given by weaker individuals.  

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#35  Edited By Meowshi

It's a silly, superficial thing to base your opinion on someone off of.   
 
But we are a silly, superficial species.

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#36  Edited By ZimboDK
@SensuousLettuce said:
@ZimboDK: Maybe you just gave a really piss poor interview and that's all he felt you deserved.   Like, the 'I'm not hiring this clown so why bother giving him a good handshake' handshake?
Yeah, it was before the interview so, no.
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#37  Edited By ryanwho
@Meowshi said:
I have a weak handshake.
Gross
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#38  Edited By Meowshi

My handshake is firm.   
 
Just because it's a stupid practice, doesn't mean I don't know how to go along with it.   

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#39  Edited By evilmax17

I keep reading this topic as "Do Milkshakes Matter Anymore". 
 
...and my answer is yes!

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#40  Edited By Khadyn
@Beforet said:
I try to open every introduction with a handshake, so it still matters to me.
Same here otherwise its just a knuckle to knuckle hit showing respect (mainly close friends)...seriously who does high fives anymore >.<
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#41  Edited By Video_Game_King

They matter?

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#42  Edited By SomeJerk

Handshakes are part of body language, something which is more important than spoken language when meeting people face to face. My handshakes are good, firm, sometimes even have a little swing in them if it's for an especially good occasion like striking a very good trade in which case I also have a smile on my lips. When some joe gives me a sloppy weak limp-wristed handshake the alpha male genes in me see a little pup that just flopped over on his back and to show me his vulnerable underside as to say "You are the boss".
 
I consider handshakes to be like that rise a glass and smile after taking a shot deal after a toast while out drinking, I am a master of those. Could go on forever about body language, will just say - observe yourself as you go about your normal life and interact with people, and how they interact with you. Good communication will get you places in business and pleasure.

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#43  Edited By Sanity
@MiniPato: I agree, really really stupid social habit thats become a really dumb way to judge people. 
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#44  Edited By Wasara88

Handshakes are still pretty widely used and considered important in Finland and i always like to give a good grip with a light shake, because it can feel silly if you shake too hard .

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#45  Edited By Snipzor

Only in business or competition, outside of that, the handshake isn't something I partake in very often.

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#46  Edited By MideonNViscera

I don't find shaking someone's hand because it's the first time I met them really means anything. However, if we're shaking on a deal or something, it damn well fucking better.

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#47  Edited By Little_Socrates
@ryanwho: When even you're responding seriously to a topic, you know it's a major issue.
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#48  Edited By McGhee

Yes, having a good, firm handshake is important. It is also important not to overdo it. When I shake a dudes hand and he is trying to grind my knuckles to powder, it immediately makes me think he is insecure and is trying to over-compensate. It is him trying to assert his dominance through muscled force. When they do it, there is often also a slightly crazy gleam in their eye that says, "YEAH, HOW YOU LIKE DAT?"  
 
So the crushing handshake shows exactly the same thing as the limp and fishy handshake. It shows weakness. The limp and fishy shows physical weakness that is unaware of it, but the crushing handshake shows a mental weakness that is trying to make up for it with force. 
 
Find the middle ground and just be firm and steady.

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#49  Edited By penguindust

It's the safest way to tell if you're dealing with a chronic masturbator.  

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#50  Edited By MikkaQ

I hate limp handshakes, I want to just destroy their limpy shitty hand.