Eh it's highschool, it's where you learn to stop being picky about your friends, because in the real world 90% of your social interactions are going to be hollow workplacey kindof stuff.
Just get used to not giving a shit about the unimportant people in your life, and learn to keep those who do matter real close.
" Eh it's highschool, it's where you learn to stop being picky about your friends, because in the real world 90% of your social interactions are going to be hollow workplacey kindof stuff. Just get used to not giving a shit about the unimportant people in your life, and learn to keep those who do matter real close. "
Hehe this. I disliked the vast majority of my class, but then I realised it didn't really matter, since most of my good friends I made outside of school. You can interact with them just fine in school, so long as you make some friends outside of school that you know you can go hang out with any-time, and have a good time.
take theater, or start doing drugs (don't do drugs), that's where all the social people are in high school. sometimes it's the same people in both groups.
" @onimonkii: So wait are you saying I should totally do drugs but not do drugs at the same time? "
i'm sayin when i was in high school the people who did drugs were sociable and approachable, i did not do drugs however, you just kinda have to not mind that part.
they're way more mellow than theater people too. another option is to get a job. i had more friends from my high school job than my high school itself.
I felt the same through secondary school. I hated it. I become a loner for my last year i just hated it that much. Went to college and i've never been with a bunch of people who are more like me. Ever. It will only get better in uni.
" Eh it's highschool, it's where you learn to stop being picky about your friends, because in the real world 90% of your social interactions are going to be hollow workplacey kindof stuff. Just get used to not giving a shit about the unimportant people in your life, and learn to keep those who do matter real close. "
Hahah. That's awesome. It's pretty much just as XII_Sniper said. You realize that you're only gonna find friends who you actually respect if you're lucky. In the meantime, you just use eachother to hangout, meet chicks, smoke weed, etc. The best thing to do is to get a girlfriend. Women always want to learn whatever you're into.
See the problem with my highschool is it is fucking huge. It's something like 2,000+ plus people with students and staff apparently. So it's like too much people at time's as well.
Eh highschool is overrated. I hated being there. People were dicks in the "popular" crowd and very judgmental. The best thing you can do is make good friends and stick with them until you get out of there. Kids then grow up to accept people for who they are and not as stuck up. I pride myself (and i'm not even kidding) in being way more mature than most people my age so highschool was annoying for me. I seem to be 4-5 years more mature than my age ;) /brag
@Interfect: Then try join the band for theatre or something like that. The hard part with meeting new people is meeting them in the first place but with some group like that you're bound to get chatting to someone. Just be open to new people even if their first impression is great, you see a completely different side of people once you get to know them.
That's pretty much the limit to my advise, now the rest is up to you!
High school sucked ass for me, but that made going to college all the more sweeter. I felt free from the ignorant douchebags and the Whore McSlutbitches.
" Eh it's highschool, it's where you learn to stop being picky about your friends, because in the real world 90% of your social interactions are going to be hollow workplacey kindof stuff. Just get used to not giving a shit about the unimportant people in your life, and learn to keep those who do matter real close. "
Hahah. That's awesome. It's pretty much just as XII_Sniper said. You realize that you're only gonna find friends who you actually respect if you're lucky. In the meantime, you just use eachother to hangout, meet chicks, smoke weed, etc. The best thing to do is to get a girlfriend. Women always want to learn whatever you're into. "
This is so true it's disturbing, putting words in my mouth
if you don't mind be asking, what is with the Tomba avatar? That game came out in like 98, you seem a bit too young to have experienced that game when people still owned PS1's
@Interfect: Well the first 3 years of my school were actually 2,000+ kids to, just recently however they started sending kids to to other schools and got it down to like 500 though...
Who knows try getting to know someone beyond what is immediately apparent, you might find someone.
Well. my aunt owned a ps1 as did I, but I borrowed her games because she had so many. Anyways when I was 5-7 I played alot of tomba and tomba 2. and those games were so damn awesome.
I also played a lot of Zombies Ate My Neighbors, Super Mario World and Primal Rage on my grandmothers (yes I said grandmothers) SNES too.
@punkxblaze:
Well the friends I have now are more social then me but the understand why I hate people so it's all good in a way.
@Bombs_Away:
Too far... Just too far.... and No thanks. sounds like an awesome idea but I'll pass.
I have a pretty big group of friends that I hang out with in school but almost never outside of school. I actually stayed in touch with my middle school friends and pretty much exclusively hang out with them (we all go to different high schools) outside of school.
This thread is so goddamn awesome. I love Giant Bomb.
Also, for your conundrum, I believe that it's already been addressed and resolved. Everybody feels exactly the same way you do, and they're all probably correct.
Well. my aunt owned a ps1 as did I, but I borrowed her games because she had so many. Anyways when I was 5-7 I played alot of tomba and tomba 2. and those games were so damn awesome.
I also played a lot of Zombies Ate My Neighbors, Super Mario World and Primal Rage on my grandmothers (yes I said grandmothers) SNES too.
@punkxblaze: Well the friends I have now are more social then me but the understand why I hate people so it's all good in a way. "
On a serious note, I was the same way in high school. Rumours actually used to go around my classes that I was gonna shoot everyone cause I never spoke and I always dressed in black. Generally, people in high school are ridiculous douches. If you're lucky like I was in my Soph year, you'll run in to a one in a million group of people, or even one person, who you can actually forge a good, meaningful friendship with.
That all said, things get better when you hit college. You have a wider range of ages and interests to interact with, and people are generally a bit more friendly.
Does your school have any computer classes? That is where I met most of my current friends (hey, who would have guessed that people that like video games also like computers).
I used to take a computer graphics and animation class. but art isn't really my thing. But ya I'm taking a web design sort of class and maybe a computer information class next year too.
I don't really know what to say because, as someone in Grade 10 as well, I'm not really a good example of a high schooler you'd be looking for (being very social). In my case, classmates are either being immature, or just too dumb to get a simple joke, heck, I even feel the same frustrations that teachers do when the class won't behave. Come to think of it, I'm probably close to the same as you.
I've been attending the school I'm at since 7th grade. Coming out of elementary, I put myself in a defensive position, assuming that people are just trying to screw you over (funny thing is that I did this at a christian school. I wasn't surprised still to see some people come off as morons). If someone approached me the right way, I'd be willing to talk. If not, I'd tell them to leave, in a rather snarky matter. Though most of the time, I come off as being slightly annoyed, but that's because I'm stuck in a room with 20+ scamps.
Even with my circle of friends, which is small for good reason, I'm still not fond of high school. I don't care about the varsity basketball team, or the least bit interested in what production drama is doing. The only extracuricular activity I take is Orchestra, but even then I don't find most of the other electives or activities very interesting.
If you want some people to talk with, try maybe the grades above you, like Juniors or Seniors. I hang out and take part in conversation with them before school starts, mostly because my first period class is where the senior lockers are. It works, as they aren't complete asses and actually have intelligent discussion.
Otherwise, just focus on work, get good grades, and pray to God that you make through without losing your head. That's my main focus, and one that I'm not to pleased about. But I know what's important, especially with college getting closer and closer.
Watch these, they may make you feel better that yes most people at any school are assholes. I had enough friends at school to not be a loner but man about 90% of people there were scum.
I feel really bad for the teachers sometimes. Also having my part time job is aweomse because alot of my co-workers go to my school and are usually all older by a year or so then me, which is nice cause i like a lot of my coworkers. They are all pretty cool.
Meh high school isn't half as bad as people make it out to be. I actually enjoyed most of my time at high school, besides the fact that you know it was school.
" @onimonkii: So wait are you saying I should totally do drugs but not do drugs at the same time? "
Totally. Inject some LSD into your arm, then ask somebody to suck out the poison. That way, you get the satisfaction of doing drugs and THEY go to jail for being high. That's how it works, right?
" Alright so 1.5 years into high-school and I'm pretty bummed out (Grade 10 at the moment). "Where is everyone?" Is a question I am constantly asking myself. Not because I don't see these people. But we never talk. This is ridiculous. Sure i realized now over the years that I kind of hate people. Not in a anti social kind of "I want to be left alone completely" way. But I am having a hard time meeting people I can put up with. They usually don't share the same interests as me. Or they are just plain annoying or complete dicks. Also... I used to too talk to way more people before high-school in grade 8 and whatnot. And the saddest thing is (hang head down)....
But aren't teenagers supposed to be social? I guess I have learned the hard way being in highschool, being social and being picky are all the same thing.... ....what time is it? it's summer time!! "
Exact same problems in 9th and 10th. By senior year things'll change because by then at the least the freshmen will look up to you.
" I don't really know what to say because, as most of the other electives or activities very interesting. If you want some people to talk with, try maybe the grades above you, like Juniors or Seniors. I hang out and take part in conversation with them before school starts, mostly because my first period class is where the senior lockers are. It works.
That is where I got all of my friends besides like 10 in my class, My class has 1,200.
Use highschool as a place to practice you Social Engineering skills. Being able to manipulate people does you VERY will once you're let loose in the wild.
I'm not talking about starting a cult, hurting people, or picking up women (however that's a great side benefit). Just learning how to adjust your persona to match the person you're talking to is an amazingly powerful skill. Read a few books on the subject, hone your skills over the next two years, and you'll be amazed with the bullshit you can get away with.
If/When you go to college, you'll meet the people that never learned social game. They act like lost puppies. I saw jock ass, hillbilly high school football players in college turn into quite hermits in my dorm, simply because they couldn't relate with people in the "Big City".
In the meantime, you just use eachother to hangout, meet chicks, smoke weed, etc. The best thing to do is to get a girlfriend. Women always want to learn whatever you're into. "
I didn't touch pot in highschool, as all my jobs then did drug tests, but learn to control your booze now. Learn to mix drinks that women like, but are loaded with booze. That will also help you in the long run.
Also, DON'T TAKE YOUR HIGHSCHOOL GIRLFRIENDS SERIOUSLY! Date multiple woman, don't knock them up, and wait until at least college before you start looking for a wife. You might THINK you want to marry your high school sweet heart, but just like tattoos you need to think further down the road.
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