She doesn't want you to care about her because she doesn't want to be responsible for upsetting you. When you say you were worried about her, all she hears is that she messed up again by not calling you, and then feels like she messes up everything, etc. Then you caring about her becomes a burden on her. That is, if you care about her, she has to change to make sure she doesn't upset you. If you don't care, she can fuck up as much as she likes.
You have to show her that she's not responsible for your feelings. You have your own feelings, and, no matter what she does, you're going to be ok. You like her, but you're your own person. Your feelings are not in her hands, they're in yours. If she feels free to do what she likes, and you like her anyways, then I think that'll be good thing. Feel me?
To the people offended by this thread: .......Why? Do you think asking these questions is hurting the crew? I mean, do you think Ryan is ashamed and embarrassed by these questions, even if he gets to choose what's public and what's private? Personally, I don't.